Tuesday, October 18, 2016

Saturn in the 4th House: When History Repeats Itself

The 4th House represents your personal background. You can think of it as your history. Your ancestry is often linked to the 4th House and this makes a lot of sense. It’s the place that represents where you came from. But, that can be interpreted in many different ways, whether it’s your ancestors, your hometown, the person you’ve always been in your family unit, or the way your home life has been since the beginning. Saturn is the planet of challenges, doubts, and worries. When you have Saturn in the 4th House, a great deal of insecurity and fear can surround one’s personal history. But, Saturn is also the planet of hard-earned rewards, which means that you need to face that history or else it’s bound to repeat itself.

Saturn in the 4th House, as I mentioned in the previous article about it, does mean that one’s childhood was not all smooth and easy. In this sense, having this placement gives you a difficult personal background, in some sense or another. One of the most common indicators of a 4th House Saturn to me is the loss of a parent. This parent may have died at some point in the person’s childhood or may have just abandoned the family. But, either way, it throws the household into disarray. This theme of parental loss makes so much sense when you consider that the 4th House is about family. Thanks to the championing of things like same-sex marriage, cultural ideas of family are progressing and modernizing in many ways. Yet, no matter what the sex of either parent is, we still tend to first consider a family as involving two parents, both of them trading off and contributing different energies to the household in order to create a balanced, safe environment for their kids.

But, this idea is often shattered when you have Saturn in the 4th House. Because so many people with this placement end up losing a parent, their notion of family ends up becoming strained or a source of sorrow. It is the classic “broken home” placement. It is usually the father who ends up passing away or being erased out of the picture, since Saturn is the father figure. As I have frequently said, I don’t believe in the idea that the 4th House/10th House axis has to represent your parents unless you have one or more of your “parental” planets (the Sun, Moon, or Saturn) in either the 4th or the 10th. Then, this becomes the case. But, there are certain examples where the mother figure of the 4th House Saturn ends up dying (which is one of the reasons why I firmly believe in Madonna having a Virgo Rising, an often debated topic, which would give her this placement).

In either case, there is this feeling, while growing up, that the traditional happy home has been taken away from you and taken away too soon. So, well into adulthood, there is this unhappy child that the Saturn in the 4th House person goes home to, who just wants to feel safe and protected and stable. The energy of our 4th House follows us into adulthood and it’s essentially what we cannot escape. When we are in the privacy of our own home, when holidays or other family events exert a gravitational pull over us toward our relatives, and when we have nothing to do but just be with ourselves, the 4th House speaks through us. Therefore, having Saturn in the 4th means that this unhappiness can haunt you in these private, intimate, and familial moments because it is such a part of your history. But, if you don’t deal with these difficult feelings, they will be an endless cycle that you seem fated to live out in your personal life.

I think this is the more nuanced interpretation of the whole “Saturn in the 4th House means that you don’t like your family” profile. I feel like there are some 4th House Saturn folks who were conditioned to play out some repressive, restrictive role in their family unit, in order to avoid the harsh consequences of not doing so, and it prevented a deeply loving connection to the family from developing. Behind closed doors, you may have felt this suffocating demand to live up to your family’s expectations that didn’t make you very happy. But, this can also be the case if you have a relatively healthy, functional relationship with your family, as well. There was still this sense that you had to constantly be up to par, maybe feeling like if you didn’t put in enough effort, everything around you would crumble. Sometimes, this is an expectation you put unto yourself.

Since many people with this placement suffered the loss of a parental figure, they spent a lot of their childhood in a single-parent household. The significant stress of being a single parent could have taken such a toll on this parent that the 4th House Saturn child felt a strong compulsion to chip in and help out. Possibly the most defining characteristic of this position is the child who grows up quickly and becomes the “surrogate adult” in the household: working as soon as they could to help out, taking their household chores very seriously, organizing and structuring a lot around the house, and playing a very parental role with siblings. But, these past experiences have carried over into the present by making you feel like you still need to be responsible for everything around the house.

Saturn in the 4th House people are very skillful providers and this can make them highly family-oriented at a young age, often getting married and/or having children in their early to mid twenties. Even someone with this placement who spends their youth without children or marriage will still be very domestic and “play house” with the people they love with a great amount of seriousness. This is also often a placement that symbolizes an upbringing that was financially difficult and unstable, with the parent(s) never having much money to work with, often because of being a single-parent home. Growing up poor is one of the biggest motivators for anyone toward success, whether they have this placement or not. But, Saturn in the 4th House people can bend over backwards to avoid being impoverished and privately struggling as adults, in ways that end up wearing them out.

If Saturn is your worst fear, Saturn in the 4th House means that your worst fear is having what happened to you as a kid happen again, whether this means losing someone close to you, living under constant stress and instability, or failing to provide a certain happiness or security for your family members. But, because of the neurotic pressure you put yourself under, the tragic thing is that this history often will repeat itself in some way. This is something that especially occurs during the Saturn Return in the 4th House. You might end up feeling like a failure as a parent or a spouse. You could endure a home life that doesn’t allow you to truly relax and take a break. You may even find that you end up pushing a member of your family away because the controlling, anxious, or insecure quality you display at home becomes too much for them to handle. 

All of this happens in order for you to stop and reflect. Saturn in the Water Houses (the 4th, 8th, and 12th) means that it’s a person’s responsibility in this life to be very reflective and introspective. While Saturn in the 8th must do so for transformation and empowerment and Saturn in the 12th House engages in this for spiritual strength and healing, Saturn in the 4th House means that you must simply become rooted in this duty to be reflective. If you can stop and look back at your past, you will realize how you have or haven’t created a solid foundation for yourself in the present. Then, you can go about doing what you can to change that. You cannot rewrite your history, though, and I think many Saturn in the 4th House people have to accept that. It’s not about changing the fact that you lost your father, that your family was poor, or that you just didn’t like your home life. It’s about working with those things of the past in order to create a better present.

This is what gives Saturn in the 4th House individuals such amazing strength, fortitude, and wisdom. The 4th House represents our most personal qualities that make us feel at home and comfortable with ourselves. With a 4th House Saturn, that feeling of being at home with yourself (and I’m not talking about your literal home) stems from being persevering and capable. At the end of the day, you are one tough cookie. You’ve had to be, because of the various challenges you faced while growing up. So, you must stay in touch with that foundational quality of strength. During your Saturn Return in the 4th, you can endure many struggles that go on strictly behind closed doors. This may also mean closed doors within closed doors, as you often prefer to deal with your problems in ways that don’t make you dependent on your family. In some ways, this is beneficial for you, as it allows you to constantly draw on that toughness when you need it.

But, I also think Saturn in the 4th is about drawing on the support of your family members, as well, to give you that strength. Many people with this placement establish a solid relationship with a relative who helps them develop their self-sufficiency and wisdom. Since the traditional family structure is often challenged because of this placement, it usually isn’t a parent. It is often a grandparent who the 4th House Saturn child learns to gravitate toward for that strength. Sometimes, it’s easier for these people to lean on their grandmother or grandfather. If they are in a single-parent situation, the grandparent usually steps in to help, trying to alleviate the parent’s stress. But, because of that stress, there can be subtle feelings of guilt on the 4th House Saturn child’s part for trying to turn to them for comfort. Therefore, the special grandma or grandpa in their life can end up taking on a more parental role than the actual parent. The same thing can also occur with an aunt or uncle in the person’s life who may not be around as much but who, when they are, can provide them with the right guidance or reinforcement to evolve into strong young adults.

Whatever the relationship is with your parent(s), any unresolved feelings definitely need to be resolved. This is why you have this responsibility to reflect and to overcome the painful emotions that can come up during that reflection. You might see some 4th House Saturn people claim (a bit too insistently) that they absolutely love their parent and that their relationship is so wonderful. But, if they allow themselves to stop and be truly present with themselves in their private time, they will begin realizing that there’s more to the picture. Unresolved or unacknowledged anger, sadness, fear, resentment, and even hatred can emerge; a theme that can dominate the Saturn Return in the 4th. This placement can often be like having a crying child, locked in a room in your house, who you’ve been ignoring for years, until you finally unlock the door and listen to them. On the other hand, maybe you can’t get out of that room with that crying child, instead too caught up in resentment at what happened in the past. Either way, an attitude of both honesty and forgiveness needs to be cultivated with this parent. If it’s not, you will not be able to move on with your life!

Saturn is our karma and with Saturn in the 4th House, if you spend too much time hung-up on the painful stuff that happened when you were twelve, very similar events will begin occurring in your adult life. It will feel like the time your mother embarrassed you at the family reunion all over again! So, the letting go process is crucial, preventing you from living in the past. Also, you may be living in the past in a mysterious way, thanks to the ancestral theme of the 4th House. Some may say that one’s ancestors speak to you through the 12th House. I don’t believe that as the 12th House is inherently universal. It is the voice of the collective unconscious; people who don’t share our blood but share our humanity. But, the 4th House is so personal, which means that it would make sense that your actual blood relatives are going to somehow be lived out through your 4th House energy.

The 4th House Saturn person can find it life-changing to discover a great-aunt who had ongoing depression, like them, or a great-great-grandfather who never had a good marriage, like them. It’s not so much skeletons in the closet, like the 8th House. It’s just the exploration of where you came from. A lot of your karma you’re living out may not be your own! This is why exploring your family tree can be so eye-opening and allow you to grow and mature. You may discover that the issues that are plaguing your life plagued one of your ancestors’, including either of your parents. Sudden discoveries can occur, particularly during the Saturn Return in the 4th, that makes you learn things about your parent’s past (possibly occurring during your childhood) that you see reflected in your own adult life. If it’s negative, it can help you prevent that personal history from being lived out through you or speed up the forgiveness process, through an identification with their struggle. If it’s positive, though, it can be another part of your background that you can draw strength from.

The Grand Trine

A Grand Trine is relatively uncommon and a real gift in the birth chart. It occurs when there is a trine between three placements in a person’s chart. For me, the Grand Trine definitely only occurs when all three placements are within the same Element. For example, if someone has their Moon in Scorpio trine Mars in Cancer trine Ascendant in Pisces, they have a Grand Trine in Water, as these signs are all Water signs. Also, remember, the trine needs to happen between all three placements, meaning that, in this case, the Moon must be trine Mars and the Ascendant, while the Ascendant must be trine Mars. They all need to be the same Element because the Grand Trine gives a person an endless flow of that Element’s energy. That’s what a trine is: it’s when the energy between two planets are in a constantly fluid exchange. Since we’re dealing with a Grand Trine here, that flow basically just never stops!

What happens, then, is that a person with a Grand Trine becomes a very powerful representation of that Element’s energy. Whether it’s by being highly spirited (Fire), intellectual (Air), emotional (Water), or grounded (Earth), the Grand Trine means that there is virtually no bounds to the person’s ability to channel this elemental force. But, of course, that can also become a problem! There is such a thing as too much of a good thing. So, if you’ve been praised and applauded for that glorious Grand Trine in Fire in your chart, don’t forget about the potential con’s, as well. Sure, you may be wonderfully courageous, self-confident, passionate, and active but you can also be terribly self-involved and self-serving, as well. All that Fire could end up burning others and/or yourself!

The thing about the trine is that it’s difficult to turn off. It is always “on”. This can be the potential challenge of just a trine aspect, in and of itself, in your chart. But, when it’s a part of a Grand Trine, it is even more of a challenge! Yet, of course, there are definitely positive qualities about having a Grand Trine. It is almost as if the positive traits of the Element involved in the Grand Trine are like superpowers that you can call on whenever you need to. And they are already highly developed. You came into this life deeply understanding the Element of your Grand Trine and being a complete natural at it. That’s why it’s important to also not take these gifts for granted and to use them wisely. As always, powers that are misused will end up coming back around to you negatively. 

Grand Trine in Fire
You are absolutely dynamic, passionate, and willful; a real force to be reckoned with. Having a Fire Grand Trine means that you are constantly burning up on the inside with this deep sense of urgency. You always have your eye on the prize and have the gusto and the gumption needed to go after that prize! But, you can be very presumptuous, in this way, automatically assuming you will win the game. You can be ferociously competitive, to the point of forgetting the pleasure of the game. It can become too much about being the best, having the most, or coming in first place. This can make you very childish in the sense of feeling like your desires are the most important. You also can display extreme, outrageous impatience that ultimately prevents you from getting what you want. Therefore, you need to learn just how to channel and direct all of this fire. You must use it as a fuel that makes you unstoppable, instead of making you an explosion waiting to happen.

Grand Trine in Earth
You have an amazingly solid head on your shoulders and the ability to keep both feet steadily on the ground. The Earth Grand Trine gives you the gift of being supremely down-to-earth and sensible, as well as delightfully sensual. You have a very centered nature and are able to manage your resources very well and pursue your goals without ever considering giving up. But, it’s also all too easy for you to become stuck in a rut. In fact, you might not even realize that you’re stuck because you cling so much to whatever or whoever will bring you security. Your consistency is, therefore, one of your best and worst traits. Also, you can be so intent on accumulating and achieving that you regard everything as a goal, to a degree that can be overly possessive or really calculating. Your earthy nature needs to be managed in a way that allows you to create a solid reality for yourself and maintain your stability but without getting overly attached to results or the status quo.

Grand Trine in Air
You are an ever-fascinating whirlwind of information, ideas, jokes, and questions. Your Grand Trine in Air gives you insatiable curiosity about everything and everyone around you, as well as a very bright, shrewd, and objective mind that allows you to take in and process everything brilliantly. You are a really cerebral individual and know how to start a great conversation with virtually anyone. At the same time, you might just be all talk and little to no walk. It’s often much preferable for you to just discuss things than actually do them. This is why you can also be wildly inconsistent and unpredictable, changing your mind every five minutes, breaking off old plans, and following your every whim. Your objectivity can also turn into a detachment that’s so cool that you forget about a more personal, emotional view. You are such an avid, restless thinker and you need to be able to express this energy in a way that keeps you full of ideas without being full of hot air. Your gift of brainstorming and seeing multiple perspectives should be expressed as a keen intellect, instead of extreme fickleness or lack of emotion.

Grand Trine in Water
Highly sensitive and responsive, you have a deep well of feelings and reflective thoughts going on inside of you. Your inner life can have a really rich, beautiful kind of poetry to it. This extreme emotional awareness leads you to care a lot about others and to seek to have a profound connection to them. You are ever-available to support people, comfort them, and engage in the sharing of feelings. At the same time, you can get so wrapped up in all of these feelings that you display ironic guardedness or defensiveness. Being as sensitive as you are, you have a fear of being hurt that no form of logic seems to soothe or get rid of. You can also be frustratingly indirect, passive-aggressive, and manipulative, seeming to want others to read your mind or feeling like you should be reading theirs. This only creates a serious lack of emotional and psychological boundaries, getting you caught up in a very draining dynamic of moods, resentments, and needs. You must find a way to exercise your strong emotional intelligence that won’t become co-dependent or unhealthy. It’s great that you care so much and feel so much. But, don’t get sucked down into the abyss of emotion, whether it’s yours or others’, which will help you take a lot less personally.

Wednesday, October 12, 2016

Mercury in the 8th House: Dangerous Mind

People with Mercury in the 8th House of their birth chart have a mind that is like a concealed weapon. There is the potential for their thoughts, ideas, and words to do a significant amount of damage. But, this is also because the person’s thoughts, ideas, and words have been damaged at some point in their lives. The 8th House represents the psychological pain that a person has to work through. It symbolizes your emotional issues but also how you can transform them. With an 8th House Mercury, these emotional issues revolve around communication. At some point, they have endured pain, destruction, crisis, and very possibly abuse in terms of communication. So, this placement becomes about discarding toxic approaches to communication and establishing a healthy, rich, and empowering line of dialogue between oneself and others.

This dialogue can also just be with oneself, as well. Mercury is the thoughts that bounce around in a person’s head and when Mercury is in the 8th, a person has the potential to be downright brutal and harsh to themselves in their thoughts. It can create a cruel inner voice and that can extend toward other people, as well, if not careful. Few people can cut someone down with their words quite like someone with this placement. “Sharp-tongued” is a pretty mild way to describe it. It’s like a tongue that’s a scalpel and can get under your skin as deeply as this surgical instrument. If the 8th House Mercury is in Gemini, Virgo, Scorpio, or Aquarius, then this person can be especially astute in this dangerous sort of way, skilled at verbally hitting you in the exact place that it will hurt the most. It’s why, when they’re operating from a lower place, conversations can get rather ugly pretty quickly.

The thing is that, when you have Mercury in the 8th House, your words have tremendous power. Any planet that’s in the 8th is very powerful in its expression. When the planet of communication is here, everything you say can affect other people profoundly, more so than you realize. I happen to have Mercury conjunct Mars in my 8th House. It does often surprise me how much of an impact I can have on people with what I have to say. But, the energy of the 8th House is mysterious and profound. So, those of us with this placement will never fully understand why we can affect people the way we do with our words. The key is to realize that we do possess this power and to not abuse it. Doing so will only attract a lot of negative energy into your life, making you the kind of person who cannot open their mouths without leaving casualties. 

Mercury in the 8th House can make a person go through life communicating in a way that seems rather harsh. It might just be a little bit too intense for others, at times. But, it’s just because of all of this mental energy has been bottled up, twisted up, and often battered and bruised. It is very common to see an 8th House Mercury person be a survivor of mental abuse. As we increasingly know now, verbal abuse is just as terrible as physical abuse. In fact, some might say that it’s worse because at least physical bruises are visible and can be treated in a tangible way. It’s much harder to heal from being mentally abused. Often times, someone with this placement will come from a family where this kind of language is commonplace. Maybe people were ripped to shreds on a regular basis, to a point that was often just cruel and unnecessary. The target of this could very often be the person with Mercury in the 8th. Maybe also their intelligence or voice itself was targeted, being told they were stupid (which they most likely were not at all, as this makes for a very sharp individual), that they shouldn’t speak up, or that their ideas were useless.

Not all people with planets in the 8th House come from an abusive family (although it is a strong trend). Sometimes, the trauma of these planets is experienced elsewhere. Since Mercury does represent our grade school years, there could have been a serious power struggle between this student and his or her teachers. The emotional pain you endured could have had to do with the reactions you received from instructors. For better or for worse, 8th House Mercury kids can really push their teachers’ buttons. Maybe you brought out a dark side in a certain teacher in particular. A situation of being dramatically singled out and “put in your place” could have occurred that somehow scarred you, maybe more than you realize. A certain teacher or two could have even destructively went out of their way to turn your parents or other teachers against you.

All of this time, you may wonder just what it is that you did wrong. The experience of deeply dreading getting called on in class because all of the intense emotional undercurrents between you and the teacher may have thwarted your ability to truly use your voice. Also, we can definitely see 8th House Mercury people getting into verbally abusive relationships. It might have been one pivotal, life-changing one or a long string of ones. The 8th House is how we engage in and experience intimacy, as well. So, the process of getting intimate with someone could have been fraught with a lot of mind games and power plays. Regardless of the context, I think a lot of 8th House Mercury individuals feel scarred by the experience of someone lying to them. And not just telling one lie but being a horrible, habitual liar. The lies can get to an unbelievable level, to a point where it’s just unforgivable and makes you question if you even know that person anymore. Becoming intimate with a pathological liar, with someone who constantly got into your head, or someone who was always tearing you down is something that has deeply affected with you.

These situations have served to create this feeling of torment around communication. Whether you grew up being verbally abused, got into a relationship without any honest or loving communication, or endured major power struggles in the educational system, there can be this sense that using your voice always comes with some painful consequences. This can make your thoughts and ideas very pent-up because the difficult experiences have made you uneasy about sharing. Yet, this can also mean that when you do speak out, it is going to be quite harsh because you see communication as some sort of power battle. An ease, simple conversation can easily turn into a vicious free-for-all or an exchange of paranoia and suspicion. Since they once endured dishonesty and mental trickery, Mercury in the 8th House can make a person particularly sensitive to any sort of deceit or lies, as well as what is seen as fakeness on your part in conversation.

Then, you get the cliché 8th House Mercury person who is a heavy conversationalist, who hates “small talk”, always dismisses the superficial, constantly reads between the lines, etc. Yes, this placement does make you a deep thinker. But, some of these traits are just the expression of an unhealed pain and lack of trust, as well as a penchant for dwelling too much on the dark side. The thing is that Mercury in the 8th actually makes you comprehend your emotional problems very well. You see them clearly and logically. It’s just that you might think about them too much or mistake your suspicions or obsessions with intelligent insight. This placement does make you very perceptive. But, again, it’s all about using this power positively and wisely. This is why I call this placement “the dangerous mind.” In the wrong hands, such a mental focus on gaining control will prevent any healthy communication. It’s also something that makes you play a lot of mind games, if you’re not careful, feeling an almost sick stimulation for being able – thanks to your nuanced perceptions of others and your complex thinking skills -  to fuck with people’s heads so well.

So, all that being said, you really need to heal these problems. 8th House planets already understand the darkness very well. Therefore, the focus needs to turn toward the light. With Mercury in the 8th, the thing is that you know better. You are definitely smart enough to rise above the nastiness and negativity of your inner demons. But, you can display a certain duality in just doing it anyway. What you have to accept is that you’re more intelligent than that. If the 8th House is how we deal with our “emotional inheritance” and develop inner resources because of it, those with this placement who come from an emotionally unhealthy family can find their inner power by knowing that they’re smarter than all of that dysfunction. So, one’s survival skills are developed through cleverness and reasoning. This means that by working through your emotional problems and transforming them, you develop your inner resource of handling very complicated issues.
Mercury in the 8th House individuals understand things that are highly complicated in an effortless manner. This is especially true if these things are emotionally, psychologically, or spiritually complicated. In grade school, some people with this placement can lean more toward the cerebral side and excel at complex studies like chemistry, physics, algebra, etc. But, other students with this placement are capable of displaying a deep, rich emotional intelligence that allows them to ace subjects that are more intuitive like English, especially when works of literature are involved. In any case, the way you learn is very obsessive. The issue you may have faced growing up (something that was very hard for me) is that you either utterly loved or hated a subject. If you felt no passion for it, it was tough for you to mentally commit to it, which could’ve turned that class into a serious struggle for you. But, if you deeply loved it, you could be the best student in class.

Benedict Cumberbatch as iconic detective Sherlock Holmes, who could've had this placement
Such obsessiveness and fierce focus continues today. It’s rare to find an 8th House Mercury who is actually scatterbrained. Even if you have a Gemini or Pisces Mercury, once you focus, you focus. In fact, such concentration can be so powerful and affect you so deeply that it’s hard to switch off. This placement makes a person develop a mental obsession and then find it difficult to let go. You might completely immerse yourself in a particular subject or field of study. Then, if you feel like it’s time, you can become totally done with it and move on to something else. As a result, you probably find it very easy to finish a book, no matter how long it is. It’s also why when you speak, your ideas are coming up from the depths. Even if the conversation is more on the surface, the way you’re engaging with it isn’t. This is also because you do comprehend things in terms of subtext. You not only hear what someone is saying but you hear the meaning that is underneath those words. But, it may be easy to take this too far and become obsessed, as I said before, with that subtext. “What did he really mean when he said…?” you may ask. The answer is sometimes, “Exactly what he said.”

You are intent on going deep with someone when you speak to them, either avoiding the simple chit-chat or deeply feeling them out and what’s going on with them internally. I actually don’t mind chit-chat or small talk at all. I’m really good at it but Mercury does rule my 5th House. So, chatter is close to my heart and makes me feel like myself. However, no conversation is ever truly superficial to me. The person’s choice of words, speech pattern, level of interest and ease, and many other things tell me a lot about them. These are all things I take in at once. Mercury in the 8th makes your mind operate on numerous levels, which is why we can be mysterious conversationalists. Even the most unfiltered ones with this influence will never say absolutely everything they’re thinking. Not necessarily out of secrecy but just because the thought processes are so multilayered that it’d be impossible. So, there is always something very complex about how we communicate.

Still, it doesn’t mean they will be really tight-lipped and stingy with their thoughts, either, because many won’t fit that description. When you meet an 8th House Mercury person who is a lot more open in speech, like I am and strive to be, it will create that rich feeling of intimacy in the conversation. Yet, it’s a bit of a burden to bear. The 8th House energy is very emotionally and sexually charged. So, having the planet of language here means that when you speak, there is an intimacy to it that can feel deeply personal and seductive to either person. Obviously, this can get quite intense. And when you speak with a certain openness with this planet, it’s like there’s a nakedness going on. Many 8th House Mercury folks who are stuck in battles for power may be more content with just making the other person feel naked, all while not exposing their true thoughts. This is another destructive pattern that just prevents any real communication from happening.

I think that, when you have this placement, you know that revealing your true thoughts is a really powerful thing. But, you have to be willing to expose yourself, in this way. I feel like this is where a lot of the 8th House Mercury’s mental, verbal power comes from. Being able to expose what’s actually going on in your head will give the other person the feeling of comfort to do the same. So, the more open you become, with this placement, the more you will feel empowered by real communication. Again, it’s also going to make this dialogue feel very intimate, no matter who it’s actually with or what the subject is about. Mercury in the 8th House can make the simplest thing sound profound. This is the thing that can be sort of disorienting because, often, a sexual element can come into play in an unexplainable manner. It might feel as if you’re having pillow talk with someone you don’t even know that well and it all becomes oddly, mysteriously erotic.

It doesn’t help that many Mercury in the 8th House people can also have a real bedroom voice to go along with that. So, it’s like your words and your thoughts can be this alluring energy that sucks people in. For the person that you’re actually sleeping with, this placement is going to urge you to really communicate your true sexual desires and feelings. You will need to be unafraid to use your voice in the context of the bedroom. It might be quite difficult for you to share ideas in terms of how to make the sex better or what isn’t satisfying you. But, it’s something that you definitely need to do, more than the next person. It is especially important for you to maintain strong, healthy communication in your intimate relationships. It cannot be about lying, manipulation, withholding, or mind games. You have to work through the emotional and sexual issues present by being willing to completely listen to them and also to know how to make sure you are being truly heard.

Mercury rules one’s sense of humor, as well. Yes, this placement can create a dark sense of humor. But, it can also mean that one just has a “killer” sense of humor. Since planets in this house can be so extreme, having Mercury in the 8th House can make you extremely funny, slaying just about everyone with your relentless sarcasm and shrewd banter. Just how you use that humor is the key. At some point in life, you may have used your razor-sharp wit in a rather mean-spirited or brutal way. Hopefully, you have found a way to rise above that. Still, you will always have that savage side to you and it’d be cathartic for you to find an outlet for that inner monologue. You might keep a journal or write comedy stories that give expression to that ferociously funny internal voice.

Great humor, after all, comes from great insight and you are highly insightful. So, your humor can pack a powerful punch and transform others by serving as a release for the secret, sometimes wicked thoughts everyone has. Also, if the 8th House is how you learn to survive and release your emotional baggage, Mercury in the 8th House people will empower themselves and lighten their load by just regularly finding the humor in things. So, don’t be surprised at those of us with this position who are much more lighthearted and humorous than the typical descriptions of this position suggests. We have just been through so much emotionally that we have learned to transform that pain and live in the light by constantly finding reasons to laugh or make others laugh.