Monday, June 26, 2017

Buy The Descendant: The Other Half Of You

The Descendant, the angle that opposes the Ascendant and symbolizes the personal relationships you form in your life, is a part of the chart that people need more information on. So, I am delighted to be able to share this e-book with you, The Descendant: The Other Half Of You. Through detailed chapters on all 12 Descendant signs, I hope you will gain greater understanding of not only the kinds of people who are drawn to and entangled with but how you draw other people to you and how you can be the best partner you can be. 

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Friday, June 23, 2017

How To Guess The Rising Sign By Demeanor/Behavior

Months ago, I posted an article about how to recognize someone’s Ascendant by their appearance. I think that getting too specific about physical appearance when it comes to this is a mistake. Whenever I read someone saying that someone doesn’t have the jawline of a certain Ascendant, I just think “stop.” There are some random features that do correlate. Apparently, Aquarius Risings have an egg-shaped head, which I’ve always had (and with Aquarius being the archetypal egghead, it makes sense). One site says that the head tends to be enlarged in the back, which is totally true for me. The egg head leads to a typically oval-shaped face for Aquarius Rising, which I do kind of have. But, looking at pictures of myself as a child and teen, my face was a lot more oval-shaped then and my chin was much pointier. Putting on some natural weight in my face changed that some, as well as the subtle changes in the face that can come with maturity.

So, you see, things like that are not entirely reliable, for different factors that go beyond astrology. And after all, so many people’s facial structures look too similar after a while to tell the difference. However, I do think that the part of the body that the Ascendant rules is usually an exceptional feature, as I said in the article. Pisces Risings have very distinctive feet, the Taurus Rising person’s voice is like music, and Gemini Risings do a lot with their hands. It’s the body part considered their best or most memorable feature, not just by other people but by the person themselves, who will usually do things in order to accentuate them.

Of course, we also have to consider behavior and demeanor in terms of the Rising sign. This, I think, is the real kicker. You might think that person with great teeth has Capricorn Rising. But, really, anybody can have nice teeth. Do they act like a Capricorn Ascendant? Putting all of these pieces together is what forms the art of guessing Rising signs. It’s become a people-watching hobby of mine and I’d like to think I’m getting much better at it. Just about everyone who is into astrology, though, tries their hand at it. So, here are traits to watch out for. And I cannot take credit for all of these observations because more than a few of them were discovered through a discussion with a very bright friend of mine who is also into astrology (and who is really private and wouldn’t want to be named). So, I felt the need to share what we came up with together here on the blog.

Also, I would like to say what I’ve said before: the Rising sign is not just a mask. It’s not just something that is only visible during the first impression and then just goes away. The Rising sign is always present. It touches everything you do. It’s just a matter of what degree it’s present. With new people or acquaintances, it will overwhelm all of your other placements. Good friends and loved ones will know the many other facets of you well. But, they are still just as familiar with your Ascendant. It’s how you act and behave, in general. In terms of family or people who have been lifelong friends, there really is no “first impression”. At least, not one you can remember. But, if you really think about it, if you consider the most obvious thing about them, it is easier to guess what their Ascendant could be, if you don’t know their birth time. 

There is just something really upfront about this person. They probably won’t need to be introduced by their friend when meeting you. They’ll do it themselves and can come on quite strong. In fact, there is a potential for them to seem flat-out rude on first impression. In any case, there is a sense of them cutting through the bullshit and being real, as well as calling out someone else for some offense. In general, they can seem very youthful well into adulthood. There is something childlike about them because they are so spontaneous, courageous, and frank. So, their brutal honesty can seem very innocent and even harmless, in the end. Also, like children, their self-concern is very obvious. Their demeanor will clearly change when the topic of discussion isn’t them and a lot of them find significant ways to inject “me” or “I” back into it. Look for a natural expression that either seems annoyed or unbothered by anyone else or anything else that is happening.

These folks really slow things down. At a party or a loud gathering, they seem like the calm in the middle of the storm. There is something very unperturbed about them, as if they have their own special form of peace or pleasure that no one else can ruin. Also, they make an impression as being very simple, in a good way. It could be that they’re very practical and always let you know how practical they are. It could also be that they give very simple responses to whatever you’re saying, to the point that it pares down the discussion to the basics. They do also behave like immovable objects. There are distinct moments where you’ll feel them resisting or cautiously approaching the subject or answer. Other times, they just refuse to budge. The thing is that they do it in the sweetest or most reasonable way and you may feel silly for trying to sway them. Look for a serene, calm, and kind face that still has a way of appearing strong and even formidable.

A lot of nervous energy surrounds these people. It’s obvious how much they dart from one thing to the next, whether that’s regarding the things they speak of or the activities they do. Regardless, there is a clear restlessness or high-strung energy that is present. The way that they make conversation is very distinct. Sometimes, they are compulsive talkers, saying whatever pops in their head in an almost stream of consciousness style. And in spite of their intelligence, they can come off as airheaded because of it. Other times, they can be thinking and thinking so hard that the conversation becomes awkward. But, no matter what, they are funny and often times they are unintentionally funny. Their duality is obvious and they can speak of themselves in 3rd person or like a detached observer. Extra points for talk of a “split personality” or “alter ego”. Their face is often quite chilly, sometimes downright bored, but can suddenly light up with mischief and curiosity.

There is an undeniable soft touch to this placement. Even when they are mean or in a bad mood, they either express it quietly or they feel immediately bad after it. There is always something nice and cozy about them that makes you feel safe. The most common trait is asking a lot of variations of “are you alright?” On first impression, a shyness or reticence can be obvious. More than the average person, these people become very different once they are familiar with you. You may notice how much they change or light up when talking about family or their mother. A lot of talks can revolve around memories and nostalgia. Also, they have a way of slowing things down, which manifests to the way they actually speak. You get sucked into their emotional state and it can be hard to walk away from them without your own feelings being affected. They possess a kind, caring face that makes people feel like they can open up to them. But, they are known for their sly, subtle looks, especially by looking at you sideways or avoiding eye contact altogether.

An equal mix of self-confidence and self-consciousness is at play. It will be obvious how much they are responding to what you think of them, even if this is just what they think that you think of them. This surprisingly impacts their self-assurance, even though they generally cover it up with bravado. They will make an impression as being hyper self-aware and knowing the effect they have on others. Their response to compliments can be quite dramatic, either through being wildly flattered and amused or going to great lengths to deny it, which is really just them fishing for more flattery. These people like to discuss themselves in a way that is often very revealing. It seems like they are always eager to understand themselves more and be more authentic, keeping them on a journey of self-discovery. Their strength of will is also obvious, to the point where it can seem as if they are forcing things on to you. But, there is still something irresistibly warm and lovable about them. Also watch out for theatrical facial expressions (when they're not looking rather haughty or proud) and a dramatization of the simplest statements.

It is so obvious how smart these people are and not necessarily because they tell you directly. They are often too humble for that. Instead, they will spend a lot of time teaching you things. Even if they don’t know you well, they won’t hesitate to correct you and set you straight on something you’re wrong about. In fact, they may overdo it just a bit. But, they act as if they have these important things they have to teach people. These folks are also very open about their flaws, to the point where it may seem like they’re putting themselves down. They’re not exactly. They are just always being honest about their shortcomings and the “work” they need to do, including on themselves. In fact, much of their conversation can revolve around work. There is something very precise, specific, and detailed about how they speak, even though nervous tension and over-analyzing can distinctly throw off their articulate nature, at times. Look for a face that is sober, strongly observant and critical, to the point where you undeniably feel judged.

These individuals aren’t the types to stand out that much. Instead, there is something just nice, cool, and easy about them. A lot of what they do is not initiated and serves as a reflection of you, which can make it plain to see how easily influenced they are. In fact, upon first impression, they may be so accommodating that you feel put upon. But, there is a lot of emphasis on agreeing with people. This can sometimes mean, however, insisting that other people agree with them. In this way, they become surprisingly pushy and even forceful. Although they are harmless and charming enough, it’s obvious how much they want to influence you. And you can often walk away from them totally buying into whatever they said until you stop and think some more. In any case, they are intent on getting you to think more and see things from another angle (often theirs). The eye contact can be quite steady and connected but usually in a pleasant way. The face is often neutral, either always blank or always smiling, making it easy to project on to them.

You will notice something quietly dramatic in the demeanor. They won’t flaunt their emotions all out in the open but they usually speak in extreme language or even with a certain severity. The all-or-nothing attitude is obvious and this emerges in a way that makes them take their behavior up to an 11: incredibly sweet, intensely brooding, relentlessly funny, or savagely sarcastic. In any case, there is a distinct sense that they are hiding something, which can be bothersome upon first impression. It’s something that you can just feel in the air and it can be vaguely uncomfortable. One thing is happening on a surface level and another thing is happening underneath that and you just can’t put your finger on it. Still, in spite of this, there are moments where they can expose a part of themselves that you never knew was there. But, it won’t last long, especially since they are in control of that. Whether they are seemingly extroverted and light or not, these people always betray their intensity and seriousness when they’re not speaking. The face can be placid and mysterious but the expression can also turn scary or creepy without warning.

A strong sense of adventure is ever-present. You will hear them speaking a lot about amazing experiences they’ve had or that they want to have. It seems as if they’re constantly crossing things off their bucket list. They also love to wax philosophical, so there will be many recurring talks about “the journey” and how much they’ve grown as a person. Although they’re generally goofy, silly, or carefree, they are surprisingly wise and enlightening, as well. The playfulness is also very striking. Upon first impression, they may not be able to stop laughing or making jokes. This makes them naturals at banter and being hilarious in a spontaneous, off-the-cuff way. They will be very obviously appreciative of your humor. In fact, not being funny will really, really lose them. Also, they can be bawdy and tell the truth almost compulsively, as if they’ve had some sort of truth serum. A face that is constantly grinning is a sign, as well as eyes that naturally smile or “smize”.

There is a strong focus on results and it makes them seem to be so realistic. It’s also why they really lead with their achievements and seem proudest of what they’ve accomplished. The “what do you do” question can cause them to really light up and become engaged. Otherwise, at a party or something, they seem like they’re biding their time for something more important to do. So, they may be most personable or accessible in professional settings when they’re expected to be. Still, they convey what they need to convey very effectively, giving you the bottom line response. Their way of speaking is very steady, without many modulations or variations, though not exactly monotone. They are also open about their failures or their struggles. But, the ones over the age of thirty or thirty-five are far more confident and at ease with themselves. The ones in their twenties and younger have a hard time lightheartedly laughing at themselves. The face is restrained and stern, at times, although it can also be hesitant and doubtful, revealing their ever-cautious nature.

The uniqueness of those with this placement is most noticeable. Often times, this is because they will openly tell you how unique or different they are in contrast to other people. It is a sense of being weird and fully accepting it. If they don’t say it directly, they make an impression by thinking or doing things in a way that few people do, if anyone. They really emphasize going against conventional thought, whether it’s your ideas or people’s on a large scale, and can get you to see something in a new way. These folks are free spirits who are also strangely wise and intellectual in their own way, using their wisdom and insight to help others. They seem very nice and friendly but just as indifferent or distant. You’ll notice little to no reaction if you try to pressure them to think a certain way or make them feel judged. That is, unless the reaction is outright defiance. The face can be so cool it’s downright icy, especially when observing you. But, they can also be wildly expressive.

Either this person is clearly very sensitive and sweet or they put a lot of effort into not seeming as sensitive as they really are. In the latter case, it gets expressed as an aggressive extroversion or toughness that obviously act as a cover for something else. An insistence on not being that sensitive is a dead giveaway. But, there is usually a moment when the illusion shatters. If you get them talking about something very personal or say something unexpectedly hurtful, their vulnerable and tenderhearted nature is revealed. Otherwise, they are noticeably hard to pin down. A certain shyness is usually present but they are so giving and personable that they can seem more outgoing than they are. Also, there may be a lot of smiling and bursts of laughter, either because they often do not feel present and do it to reconnect or because they are being amused by something on their own spacey wavelength. There is a sweet and sympathetic face that often looks ready to listen to all of your troubles. But, at other times, they can seem mysteriously distracted by something else.

Tuesday, June 20, 2017

Uranus in the 4th House

Let’s continue the Uranus in the houses series with the next requested placement: Uranus in the 4th House. If Uranus is where things do not happen or unfold conventionally for us, then having a 4th House Uranus means that you have a personal and familial history that has been anything but “normal.” The 4th House shows us where we’ve come from and the ways in which we’ve developed our roots through these past experiences. It also shows the people who have come before us or who share a common clan and the ways in which we share those experiences or are affected by their experiences. Basically, the family tree is the 4th House. But, what happens when Uranus is in the 4th is that this family tree is experienced as strange, foreign, unpredictable, or alienating.

Since Uranus is where we experience a sense of detachment, people with this placement generally feel detached from their families. Of course, this manifests in many different ways. One of them is the person who is actually distanced from their family of birth and has been since the beginning. In other words, someone who has been adopted or who has been put through foster care. The abrupt changes that Uranus brings to its house could mean that, with this placement, you were suddenly separated from your family as a baby or toddler and didn’t see them again until you were an adult. And by this time, you don’t even know who they are. The feeling that the relatives are strangers can operate in this literal definition, making you the classic adopted child.

The unpredictability of Uranus also could have manifested in your life through being a foster child and having this revolving door of families. There was not much attachment formed, at least not for long, because you always knew that your time with them wouldn’t last. It can be quite tough having Uranus in the 4th, even to a degree that rivals Saturn or Pluto occupying your 4th House. The reliable comfort and support that people expect in childhood does not quite happen for the 4th House Uranus child. When you cried out, you didn’t believe that anyone really cared that much. Either that or you suspected that they would leave you, sooner or later. All of Uranus’ changes happening on the home-front never made you feel safe. On some level, you felt abandoned by your family, which is usually rooted in some significant figure in the family abruptly leaving or randomly coming and going. It’s as if you could not rely on them or count on them in the long-term. 

It's no wonder why many Uranus in the 4th House individuals can grow up with a shaky personal foundation that makes them very defensive or guarded. It all stems from this long personal history of an inconsistent or impersonal home environment. And, of course, this can be true even if you weren’t adopted or a foster child. While I don’t think the 4th House is a symbol of either parent (unless the Sun, Moon, or Saturn are here), I do think that it shows the kind of existence that the parent was able to provide their child and family. It’s the home atmosphere and rhythm that your caregivers established. And with Uranus in the 4th House, there was no predictable or stable rhythm. One or both of the parents were responsible for a lot of chaos in the home. Nothing remained in a static state for long. However, this is also the same thing that instilled insecurities within you because you never knew what to expect and when.

Since Uranus goes against established order, the contradiction here is that, as a child, you develop very controlling tendencies in order to compensate for your parents’ lack of consistency or stability. You might have looked around and decided that somebody needed to be the adult in the house. It’s not by being responsible, like it would be with Saturn in the 4th. It’s more so a constant questioning of the rules that were being enforced, even if the rule was to not have very few rules. We are always doing the opposite of what happens in the life area of our Uranus house. So, if your parents were very lenient about something, you could be very strict with yourself about it. Conversely, if they were insisting on a certain rule, you pushed back and wondered why they were doing so.

It's no surprise, then, that you turn out to be the distinctly defiant one in your family unit. Over the years, you have developed a relationship with your family that is contrary and sometimes quite rebellious. Uranus in the 4th House kids can rebel in major or minor ways in the household. But, regardless, you will be living off of your own rhythm. There is this sense that you are different from your parents, who can have values, beliefs, and attributes that are strikingly in contrast to yours. It’s to a point where whenever you introduce your friends or your significant other to your parents and people are like, “Wait? How are you related?” You might look just alike but the similarities end there. The same pattern happens with your siblings, who are more likely to follow in your parents’ footsteps than you are. You might have had a casual respect for them growing up but the relationship was always a bit distant, with one of you seeing the other as an anomaly.

People with a 1st House Uranus feel like they are very different from their families, as well. The difference is that Uranus in the 1st basically feels like different from everyone, family included. For you, it is mostly just your family who you feel somewhat alienated from. There is usually a sense of everyone being one way and you being the other. This does not necessarily mean growing up in a clan of weirdos. That can definitely happen with Uranus in the 4th, making you feel like the seemingly cookie-cutter one. But, your so-called normal quality is what will make you stand out in the family and actually seem crazy in comparison. The Uranus sense of “is everyone sane and I’m crazy or vice versa” manifests very much in terms of the family with Uranus in the 4th. Of course, this can also mean that you are actually the weirdo in the somewhat straitlaced family, known amongst them for your eccentricities or idiosyncrasies. It can also mean being the very reserved one in a family of loudmouths or being the blunt, aggressive one in a very polite, tactful family.

In any case, there is this deep-seated sense of not quite belonging to your family. It is definitely the "black sheep" situation. This is why, even if you’re not adopted, you may be totally convinced that you are. And, again, you probably don’t experience this feeling of difference elsewhere. Out in the world or around other people, you may not feel that odd or that misunderstood. But, the 4th House has a way of kind of haunting us through some ancient memory or bit of nostalgia. Someone only has to say something in a certain way, that reminds you of your mother or your grandfather, and then you’re reminded of how deeply out-of-place you feel. It’s something that’s quite private and secret. Yet, whenever you go home, you are confronted with it and wrestle with it. And this means either whenever you go home to your family or whenever you just go home to yourself; your own apartment or house as an adult. Uranus in the 4th means that you are rooted in these feelings of alienation or detachment.

Again, you and your family are never quite on the same page when it comes to bonding time. You might feel like letting your guard down and letting them get closer. But, you also feel like you’re getting the cold shoulder or that they’re not deeply connecting to you. Yet, whenever they try to make this deep connection to you, you can give them the cold shoulder and keep your distance. 4th House Uranus individuals feel that ongoing frustration over that lack of intimacy in their personal life, since the 4th House is how you live out your personal life. It can always feel as if something is missing, in that sense. However, this could be because you’re comparing your family situation to other people’s. Seeing other people interact with their families can make you wonder why you can’t be like that with your loved ones. I think the key to overcoming this hang-up is just knowing that, for better or for worse, your family situation is unique and cannot be compared to anyone else’s.

This can take on many different forms. It could be the 4th House Uranus person who just has an insanely dysfunctional family that they decide they want nothing to do with them. This happens like an abrupt change, out of nowhere, usually after years of taking their shit and just being totally done with it. At this stage, there is no turning back as you completely overhaul your private life and create a new family. There is also the person with this placement who realizes that, even though there are misunderstandings and it’s not the warmest, fuzziest relationship, there is still a lot of love between them and their family. It just gets expressed in an unusual or unexpected way. You may very rarely hear “I love you” from your sister and then, for your birthday, she throws you the most amazing surprise party. Your dad, who you always thought was unsupportive, could stand in your corner during a terrible time in your life and not leave your side until it gets better.

Uranus in the 4th also could just mean that your family are more like your group of friends than your family. This is why there is not a lot of traditional affection that happens when you all get together because it’s just like hanging out. It’s also why your family may not be like other people’s families. In fact, your parents could be remarkably cool growing up in terms of educating you about sex or giving you your freedom. It is quite typical for those with this placement to grow up in a more progressive or open-minded household, being treated like an equal instead of someone lesser. If you weren’t treated like an equal growing up, though, you can experience some profound anger and frustration about that which leads to an obsession with never being weak again later in life. You need to feel very rooted in that sense of egalitarianism and equality. The best parents for you are ones who don’t treat you like an inferior and give you all the space you need. Many people with this placement are lucky to have parents like that and it forges an amazing bond with them.

At home, there is something about you that changes the temperature when you walk into the room. This can occur with family but it can also occur with the people you live with. You are very comfortable with being a catalyst for change, playing this role to the hilt in your private sphere. When everyone just wants to have a nice, civil family dinner, you bring up politics and insist on talking about it. At the family reunion, you may totally crash the ceremony or be the one in the room throwing all of the shade. Even just in your own home, you have to throw people off-balance. Throughout adulthood, roommates may not be entirely comfortable with you. They don’t exactly know what you’ll do to try and change things. You could do them the favor of doing their dirty dishes, for no reason at all, or you could subtly attempt to control or manipulate their ways. You are often a very relaxed person to live with but you can become erratic when you feel as if things are not entirely under control because, to you, somehow and someway, it has to change, whether that is imposed change or random change. 

Although you’d think Uranus in the 4th would mean pure chaos all of the time in your home life, you can actually shift between insanity and structure. After all, there is a certain regularity to all of our home lives. So, you are either trying to establish regularity in the midst of chaos at home or creating chaos in the midst of regularity. This obviously leads to very strange patterns behind closed doors, like feeling the need to have dinner at 11:30 pm or buying new Tupperware even though you just did that last week. Lots of sudden changes in home d├ęcor can occur, as well, to the point where your spouse may become desensitized to it. The 4th House is our safe place and with Uranus here, you just feel more safe when there is a lot of change going on. Those who live with you are just going to have to live with that.

When old friends become like brothers or sisters to us, they enter into our 4th House territory. This is also true of those who we marry. So, whether it’s a surrogate family member or a spouse, in order for them to enter this sacred space of yours, they have to be prepared for anything. You aren’t going to feel comfortable and safe around people who are going to be too judgmental or resistant to the unconventional. In private, you can be downright wacky and it’s not something many people know. Uranus in the 4th House shows that this weirdness is quite a source of vulnerability to you. So, you aren’t very public about it. Therefore, it’s crucial that whoever you deem family gives you the space to be weird and to exist independently. You just need a lot of space, in general, in your personal life and the other person has to know how to handle that.

In your downtime, you love experimenting and tinkering with different ideas. Doing various things around the house like decorating or fixing things or cooking can be an opportunity for that experimentation. It’s what can lead you to actually make your own recipes, which can turn out to be flat-out terrible or downright brilliant. Many crazy mishaps occur in the kitchen for you, from burning the simplest of things to wild accidents with the food or drinks. This all taps into your personal history of being a source of chaos at home. Throughout your childhood and into adulthood, you were quite a little whirlwind in your private sphere. You were rather low-key but still able to cause a commotion, often by being very accident-prone. Always two steps away from the burning the house down, your parents had to keep more of an eye out for you.

But, this just emphasizes the fact that there was always something wild going down in your household. With Uranus in the 4th, you have memories of a strange upbringing. You might have been that kid who told outrageous stories about their family life and nobody believed you or took you seriously because they were just too crazy. But, they were true and it’s a pattern that has manifested into adulthood for you. This also highlights the fact that you just come from unpredictable stock. In terms of your lineage, Uranus in the 4th House people are usually the descendants of a long line of rebels, misfits, geniuses, or free-spirits. And since Uranus is our state of mental freedom, it will be very liberating for you to realize that you’ve simply inherited this independence and oddness. You can retreat into that safe space of yours in a way that makes you feel free because you will realize that you were born into a family (in terms of both your immediate and extended family) that thrives so much on freedom.

Doing genealogy can be very eye-opening, in this sense. Breakthroughs can occur when you realize that your great-grandfather was the town eccentric or that you have a second cousin on your mother’s side who is an intellectually brilliant scientist. Researching your family tree can be wonderful because you realize that the people you thought you were so different from are more like you than you once thought. These ancestors or relatives could also just be your parents. Learning that your mom was actually an outcast in high school or that your dad dabbled in political protesting can help make sense of things for you. It’ll make you see that, with Uranus in the 4th, defying the rules and insisting on change are simply in your blood. Therefore, you can honor these roots and know what to do with them, regularly going into that private place in which you can get on your own progressive, individualistic wavelength.