Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Mercury-Mars Aspects: The Motor Mouth

If you have Mercury conjunct, square, opposite, sextile, or trine your Mars sign, then you’ve probably got quite a motor mouth on you. The reason being that Mercury is the planet that rules how we think and communicate, while Mars symbolizes how we take action and assert ourselves. So, talking is a way of truly asserting yourself, much more than most. The typical Mercury-Mars person speaks in a way that makes others sit straight up and take notice. There are some with these aspects who might be quieter and more retiring, but they’re not going to genuinely enjoy playing this role. In fact, these people usually have some unresolved issues around communicating or asserting themselves that they need to work out. A healthy, confident Mercury-Mars person is just not going to be able to play that whole soft-spoken act for very long.

Mars is a masculine planet. It’s passionate, forceful, and gets directly to the heart of the matter. This is why, as a Mercury-Mars person, you probably aren’t too delicate in speech, which is something that might get you into trouble, at times. People can be taken back by the utter directness and force of your words. Mars is all about a mission. Hooked up with Mercury, the mission becomes to express thoughts and opinions. So, with this aspect, you have a take-no-prisoners approach to your conversations. You probably don’t hold back and in our society, that’s so conditioned toward niceties and manners, this can be rather startling to some people. Some might find it refreshing but others might find themselves offended by what they deem your lack of tact or civility.

Those kinds of reactions can make a Mercury-Mars person crawl into their shell, so to speak. This is especially because you usually don’t mean to offend people and can be just as surprised by their responses to you. So, you might go through a phase where you end up just biting your tongue, not wanting to piss people off or be misunderstood. However, you’ll regret living this way. Whenever our Mars energy is repressed, we become depressed. Mars is our sense of purpose, it’s what gives us drive. So, not expressing your Mars sign and aspects will make you feel deeply unhappy and empty. Not speaking your mind freely and boldly, therefore, is just depressing to you. It can get to the point where it makes you either distinctly unsociable or painfully awkward and self-conscious in social situations, as you’re either too afraid to “go there” or you’re so disconnected from this desire that you don’t see the point of socializing anymore.

But, we must give our Mars full expression (as well as our Mercury, obviously). Fully acting on our Mars is what gives us courage, passion, and the feeling like we can conquer the world. So, as a Mercury-Mars individual, you’re meant to communicate with vigor and unpretentious candor. This is really how you find your courage in life. So many people are so afraid to speak their mind but you’re in the position to develop an admirable fearlessness in regards to simply “telling it like it is.” Everyone else in the room will be hemming and hawing, beating around the bush about what they really think, and you can amazingly sweep right in and just call that spade a spade. You’re a fast talker, as well, who knows how to tell the most animated stories. You really get into it, allowing the people around you to be riveted and entertained. You'd make a dynamic public speaker. You’re most likely a firecracker: fascinating, feisty, anything but dull.

You’re even more admirable in the fact that, as this level of expression, you don’t back down from what you believe or think. Mars is independent and does its own thing. So, you’re the kind of person to truly think (Mercury) for yourself (Mars). Not only are you fiercely independent-minded but you’re capable of acting as a shining example for others to be the same. This is the mode of operating that gets your juices flowing and makes you feel alive. In fact, many people with this position fully enjoy being the one person who thinks differently than everyone else. You don’t flinch in the face of a certain amount of mental opposition from others. It’s only an opportunity to show them that you’ve got your own mind and that they can’t control the way that you think. You can come up with wonderfully original ideas, insights, and observations because of this. You’re not scared to mentally go out on a limb. 



Your Mercury sign is fired-up by its aspect to Mars. If you happen to have the conjunction, square, or opposition, then there’s a particularly intense charge to the way your brain operates. There’s just no stopping it. Your internal monologue could rival the characters in a Shakespeare play. Thoughts are constantly bouncing around in your head and you have a knack for following these intellectual currents wherever they take you. This, after all, is where a great deal of your drive comes from. Mercury-Mars has the potential to be a true intellectual, just so long as you develop the patience for those studies. But, you really get off on absorbing information. Anything that challenges your intellect is bound to be an avid hobby. Reading and writing are obvious choices, but you can also really love things like crossword puzzles, Sudoku, and the most random trivia (usually in a specialized area).

Yet, because your thoughts are so infused with passion, you can end up burning people with words if you’re not careful. Some Mercury-Mars people, especially those with the conjunction, can appear to be angry when they’re not or can make people angry when they were just joking around or stating their opinions. Having Mercury in aspect to Mars can give you a confrontational edge. If you don’t openly express this, then you can just obsessively have inner dialogues with the person that you haven’t found the courage to stand up to yet. People with these aspects are often either one or the other: terrified of confrontation or so unflinching toward confrontation that it might intimidate others. The latter are total masters at telling people off, with a remarkable ability to put someone in their place, shutting them down completely. The other person won’t even be able to defend themselves against such an aggressive verbal smack-down. Most men with this aspect, in particular, can effectively fight back and defend themselves solely through words, not needing to lift a finger to firmly deal with that obnoxious guy in the bar.

The key thing to watch for, however, with a Mercury-Mars aspect is being the kind of person to pick these verbal fights on a regular basis. You might do this to test the person you’re with, to dominate or bully them, or simply out of sheer boredom. This is the dark side of this aspect that needs to be controlled. If not, you can display a certain brutality in conversations that can border on verbal abuse. When angry, you’re apt to hit the offender with a devastating insult, sometimes without even intending to. Mercury-Mars people can verbalize their thoughts so readily and powerfully that they end up saying something cruel and hurtful before they realize it. You might also have to watch for a distinct tendency to ride roughshod over people in conversations. Most people with these aspects don’t have patience for those who they feel can’t keep up with them intellectually and verbally. So, you might grab the reins of the discourse and not let go, either not allowing the other person to get a word in edgewise or discarding the importance of what they have to say. Learning the art of truly listening may be your challenge.



Still, Mercury-Mars folks do need someone who can hold their own in a conversation. You’re invigorated by those who you feel are as lively, passionate, and candid as you are. You don’t have much tolerance for talking to dull, bland people, as well as people who talks in circles or sugarcoat things. Your driving motivation is to simply communicate but you much prefer to do so with people who are just as straight-up and exciting as you are. But, it’s your straight-up, exciting quality that people find so refreshing. Your sense of humor is a reflection of your bluntness, as it tends to be bawdy and bold. It takes some balls for you to say many of the funny things you do. As a result, you can be unintentionally hilarious, at times, as the sheer honesty of your speech gets more laughs than you set out to gain. Most Mercury-Mars people have especially foul mouths and not just in the sense of you frequently accentuating your vocabulary with colorful curse words. Your wit dwells in a rather vulgar place, where you can cut through the decorum and just say whatever is on your mind. In fact, you might be a serial over-sharer because of this. There are some who might find this crass or uncalled for. But, you probably don’t care about them.

At the end of the day, you’ve got a ferocious intelligence that people should not underestimate. Mars is an expression of our masculine side. So, men and women with these aspects can assert their masculinity by not only letting everyone know that they’ve got a brain but by not holding back their intelligence, due to fear that it might be intimidating or threatening to others. Some females, in particular, with Mercury-Mars aspects might have to frequently remind themselves of this, due to cultural conditioning that tells them to dumb themselves down, in some way. The healthiest, strongest expression of a Mercury-Mars is something who refuses to dilute the expression of their intelligence, even if they get called snobbish or nerdy for it. This is quite an act of social courage in and of itself, as our society’s fear of intelligent people goes all the way back to grade school. If you’re a Mercury-Mars person and were called a nerd growing up, it might be more difficult for you to fully own and express this part of yourself, without fear. But, doing so will allow you to find a true source of inner strength and confidence.

With this placement, intelligence is a big dynamic in the bedroom, as well, as Mars represents how we have sex. So, you’re driven wild with passion by someone who’s definitely got a brain in there and who knows how to connect with yours. The ideal sexual partner for Mercury-Mars is not only someone with a sharp, original mind but someone who’s amazingly witty, as well. This is apt to rile you up in bed way more than that conventionally attractive person with the so-called perfect body. It’s a cliché but people you find really funny and interesting are much sexier to you in the long run, significantly more than the next person. You’re probably the kind of sexual partner who’s very flexible and up for anything as well as one who loves all of the mental foreplay leading up to it as much as the actual act. You’ll be especially hooked on someone who can nail the fine art of talking during sex. It’s like the icing on the cake for you. As sex is never far from your highly active mind, you’re probably quite skilled at this yourself.

Mercury conjunct Mars: With the conjunction, you’re probably the ballsiest talker of the bunch. Your say-anything style packs a powerful punch, either making you a controversial presence or an endearingly blunt personality. Even if you polish yourself up some, with maturity and self-awareness, you’re still not going to be an overly refined communicator. You don’t want to censor yourself too much and, at the end of the day, you shouldn’t. Your mind is as quick as a fox’s and you have a knack for “getting it” almost instantly, often two steps ahead of the others.

Mercury square or opposite Mars: Having the square and the opposition means that you have the hardest time toning down whatever’s coming out of your mouth. In fact, the more people try and get you to soften your tone, the more aggressive and offensive you might become. But, this can be a chipped-shoulder attitude of them being against you when you don’t realize you’re the one picking the fight. Finding a balance between being honest and being rude is what makes you more palatable, allowing others to truly understand your passion and directness.

Mercury sextile or trine Mars: The sextile or the trine gives you the ability to learn the fine balance between candor and rudeness more easily than those with the conjunction, square, or opposition. You are more aware of how your words are affecting others and have better control over your speech. But, you are always going to be honest and you still display that lack of patience for social fakery and pretense. You’re just able to charm others with your brash tongue, for the most part, but you might skate by on this too often and expect to always get away with it. 

2 comments:

  1. Mercury conjunct Mars here and I am very outspoken with my thoughts. I have a tendency to shove my words down someone's throat. Your description was dead-on.

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  2. I have a square between my Mercury and Mars and I'm one if those who are afraid to express their thoughts (maybe bc of my Saturn in the 3rd house?)

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