Friday, November 14, 2014

Venus-Pluto Aspects: The Love Spell

Having your Venus sign conjunct, square, opposite, sextile or trine Pluto gives you the ability to cast a really powerful kind of love spell on others. We all know that love spells can go any which way. They can bind two people’s affections together in ways that are movingly romantic and passionate or dangerously unbalanced and obsessive. Pluto tends to manifest in extremes, so with this planet in aspect to Venus, your planet of romance, love affairs tend to swing from one end of the emotional spectrum to the next. You’ll often find yourself on the receiving end of some obsessively intense attractions but you’re certainly prone to experiencing all-consuming feelings of attraction toward the object of your desire. 

From "The Craft" (1996 film)

This is probably the trickiest Pluto aspect to be expressed during childhood, as this is a time when we really don’t understand affairs of the heart. In fact, acknowledging romantic feelings is unthinkable to most children. But, as a Venus-Pluto individual, you were quite different in this regard. You found yourself making eyes at whoever you thought was cute on the playground, maybe right from the start. Venus-Pluto children tend to express their cuteness in ways that can be almost seductive. You didn’t see anything wrong with this but many parents get uneasy when seeing hints of sexuality in their children when they’re still little. We’re sexual beings right from the start, which could’ve been something that you innocently expressed. But, you might’ve been shamed for this, if you grew up in a household where your parents didn’t know how to handle your premature wiles. If your parents did, however, then a totally natural ease in your sensuality developed, as well as the power that came with it.

Those with Venus-Pluto aspects can also get some extreme responses from people while growing up regarding their attractiveness. A lot of adolescents with this aspect blossom very early, almost radically hitting puberty, and can receive overwhelming attention not only from their peers but also from adults, which may or may not be appropriate, depending on the response. Other people with a Venus-Pluto aspect got the other end of the spectrum growing up. You might have grown up feeling relentlessly judged by other people for your looks, maybe even by a particular adult in your life. Venus rules self-worth so there can be an obsessive, painful inner feeling of not being good enough in your formative years. As a Venus-Pluto person, though, you might have just been particularly affected by the culture’s ideas of attractiveness. It may become an obsession that you feel the need to constantly live up to. So, from as early as adolescence, your relationship to your personal attractiveness is either to wield it like a powerful weapon or to shun and deny it, feeling a deep sense of shame or loathing around it.

The dark side of Pluto is resorting to acts of manipulation and control to ensure a sense of security. When Pluto touches a personal planet, this is a tendency that must be taken note of and eventually conquered altogether, if healthy expression of this planet is to be achieved. With Venus in aspect to Pluto, the acts of manipulation and control can be particularly sexual or amorous in nature. You might use your sexual power to get what you want in ways that are underhanded or ruthless. In personal relationships, sex can be used as leverage to ensure that your partner responds to you the way you want. This keeps you feeling like you’ve maintained the upper hand in the situation. In this lower octave, you want the other person hooked to you and you’ll want to possess them, in a way: mind, body, and soul. An enormous amount of insecurity is driving this, of course, because if you were really certain of your self-worth, you wouldn’t have to resort to such ploys.

Another expression of Venus-Pluto’s dark side is getting involved in the most dysfunctional of relationships. This particularly applies to the conjunction, square, or opposition, but even those with the sextile or trine can fall into these patterns all too easily. There can be an urge to meet the volatile side of life through a partner. It’s typical for Venus-Pluto folks to equate love with pain and to go through life being compulsively attracted to those dangerous love affairs that are just no good for them. On the more dramatic end, these romances can involve physical and/or emotional abuse and rampant infidelities, to the point where outsiders simply shake their head helplessly and wonder why you’re still with this person. Venus-Pluto is more vulnerable to these kinds of relationships than most. The toxicity may be more subtle, however. You might just constantly be drawn to partners who are highly manipulative, emotionally cold or unavailable, and/or always turning the relationship into a battle for power, to the point where things get vicious. Yet another manifestation of these tragic romances include a partner who suddenly dies, much too soon, leaving you feeling abandoned. All of these experiences only serve to confirm your belief that you don’t deserve happiness and that no one really cares, which is, of course, false.

The key to all Pluto aspects to inner planets is flipping these sorts of scripts. For Venus-Pluto people, it’s changing that unconscious script and telling yourself that you do deserve happiness in love. It’s telling yourself that you are truly of value, without constantly having to build up that untouchable, invincible exterior that you use to shield your heart from partners. This is inevitably the kind of thing that derails your romantic relationships. Pluto urges us to dig deep so Venus-Pluto people must do so and figure out why they keep drawing these relationships to themselves and why they tolerate it so much. The catalyst for this process is usually a love affair which was so dysfunctional and possibly even traumatic that you see it as a wake-up call. After some serious introspection, involving undergoing the process of really owning your self-worth and inner power, the transformation begins.

At this point, having a Venus-Pluto aspect makes you radiate a kind of attractiveness that is deeply internal as well as wildly attractive to many. On this higher octave, you know that true beauty and joy come from your inner life, first and foremost. Sure, we all have to learn this lesson, on some level. But, learning it gives you a sense of inner peace that allows you to let go of the obsessive preoccupation with the value that other people assign to you. That comes from within and no one can take that away from you. Neither can anyone unravel the value system that you’ll build for yourself, once you really take responsibility for that part of your life. The values of a positive Venus-Pluto individual are unshakable and self-sustaining. This value system usually builds in response to one of those toxic relationships. After putting yourself through that Hell, you’re just not going to tolerate any nonsense from anyone again. Your partners will have to measure up to this code or you can easily do without them.

You’ll have your fair share to choose from, though. Most people with a Venus-Pluto aspect are irresistibly sexy. It’s as if your sex appeal is this magnetizing force that people can’t resist. It doesn’t really matter what you physically look like. Pluto is about mystery and the inner elements that psychologically drive people. Hooked up to your planet of personal attractiveness, this means that your sexual appeal is often quite enigmatic in its source. There’s just something intangible about you that people find intoxicating. And that’s not just potential romantic partners, as Venus also influences our good friendships, as well, and how we conduct those. You have the kind of raw magnetism that draws people to you, as well as an intensity that keeps them sticking around. You like to make deep bonds with people and, even if your Venus is in a more lighthearted sign, you’re not one to enjoy shallow relationships of any sort. You’re quite selective about these relationships, maybe more than people realize. You will quietly assess all of the nuances of a person before you decide to really let them into your personal sphere.

Since Pluto rules the life-death-rebirth cycles, each relationship can feel like that, to you, whenever it ends. It’s as if the old ways of living you adhered to are being eliminated right along with the person that you’re no longer in a relationship with. These endings are usually a very important step for Venus-Pluto, as you just instinctively know when it’s time to cut ties with someone. That is, so long as you’re in a healthy place and not clinging to the relationship obsessively, even if it’s not good for you. However, the thing is that you might be so prone to attracting emotionally unstable people into your life that they have a hard time accepting it’s over. Venus-Pluto folks are prime targets for stalkers and most have had to deal with at least one, often in the form of an ex-partner or a rejected admirer, at some point in their lives. Clearly, making sure you’re with someone who’s more stable than that is the way to avoid this route. You’re innately attracted to people with a particularly intense energy. But, just make sure their intensity manifests in relatively positive and healthy ways.

When you develop into a person who values more inward attractiveness than outward, you won’t care much how you look. It’s not worth investing that much energy into to you. Pluto cuts right through the pretense and reveals things for how they are, so Venus-Pluto folks are more prone than others to not do themselves up all that much and simply say, “This is the real me, so take it or leave it. There’s no in-between.” That is, when you’re comfortable enough in your skin to say that. If you’re not, then the opposite effect can happen and an unhealthy obsession with your looks can be a way of shielding the real self that you find unacceptable. Women with Venus-Pluto aspects might have an especially hard time doing away with all of these trappings. They either wear too much make-up and all the rest of it or strip themselves down in a very raw, bare, little to no make-up style. Many of these women actually look much more attractive without all of that and when they realize this, they feel more empowered.

Finding empowerment through sex is the path to true satisfaction for people with Venus-Pluto aspects. If you have one of these aspects and just don’t consider yourself all that sexy, then you’re not properly owning that sexuality of yours. When you can cast off any conditioned guilt or shame around it, then a big transformation occurs. The potential for true sexual healing is immense for Venus-Pluto people, and Moon-Pluto people as well, as an inner tranquility emerges once you can tap into this side of yourself without self-consciousness or inhibition. This will inevitably give you the ability to help partners confront and do away with any inhibiting feelings they experience regarding their sexual pleasures. It’s just another way that you keep your affairs spicy and serve as a powerfully healing, insightful force in your lover’s life.

This is often an aspect that indicates relationships that involve the confronting of latent homosexual or bisexual attractions. It’s, of course, not always the case. But, if this is your sexual preference and such fears exist in someone that you’re attracted to (and who’s attracted to you, however secretly), you have the innate ability to help them confront the deeper truth of their sexuality. That is, so long as they don’t resist that whole process. In fact, many Venus-Pluto folks can draw intense feelings of attraction out of people of every orientation that may sometimes be more amorous and admiring than sexual (like a very strong man-crush), serving as examples that those binary labels of attraction are much more complex than that. On the flip side, you might draw someone into your life that helps dig up some repressed feelings for the other sex. Some men with this aspect can have an especially hard time with this, when they identify as straight, resisting letting go of or modifying the identity they held on to for so long. But, Venus-Pluto aspects serve to release those taboos, in one way or another, and bring about change.

Venus conjunct Pluto: Having the conjunction means that you can endlessly complicate your love affairs. There might be secrets in that unfathomable heart of yours that even you can’t fully decipher. For better or worse, you’ll definitely leave a mark on your lovers. Many people with the conjunction can become serial daters, leaving a string of hot and heavy romances in their wake. But, when you find stability and security within yourself, you won’t waste time devouring partners. Instead, you’ll mate for life, seeking the one who you can deeply merge with.

Venus square or opposite Pluto: The square and the opposition often invite the most drama into their romances, usually because they don’t know that the source of that drama is them. Your unconscious motive is to either attract unsuitable, even poisonous partners into your life, confirming your victim role, or to utterly drive your partners crazy, allowing you to point the finger. When you can take responsibility for this, then you have the ability to be a truly memorable lover. You will enjoy relationships with depth and won’t settle for anything less than that.

Venus sextile or trine Pluto: With the sextile or the trine, the immense Mojo of these two combined planets is often used most easily and naturally. You have an intuitive awareness of how you’re affecting people and just how to wrap them around your little finger. But, it might be all too easy to resort to manipulative measures in this regard, as well. You can be as much of a lover as you are a fighter, which is the attractive thing about you. You’re very passionate in pleasing, attractive ways and don’t hesitate to push back and assert your power when needed. 

59 comments:

  1. Hello I have the square aspect 4 degrees with venus in tenth house conjunct midheaven and pluto in first house, does this make the aspect more prominent?

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  2. Hi, I think it would be very prominent. The tension from Pluto is going to influence your Venus, which determines the way that you behave in public (Midheaven). You are highly magnetic and charming, which can help you succeed in your profession. But, you might have to watch out for being a little too controlling or manipulative in public. Since Pluto's in the first house, people automatically sense your power. And if Pluto's also square the Midheaven, power struggles may ensue in your career if you try to be too dominant. Just relax a bit and learn to let go.

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    1. Umm, I really don't think the trine aspect is significant as the hard aspects conjunction, square or opposition. You're giving it way too much credit. I know several people with this aspect and they're not even sexy or sexually magnetic.

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    2. No, trines are definitely significant and powerful. So, yes, they are just as important and manifest just as strongly. The hard aspects are just overwhelming and intense, while the trine is an easy flow. So, it doesn't come on as strong.

      And I think people either really, really get the Venus-Pluto's sex appeal or just don't see it or get it at all. That definitely applies to the person with the aspect, as well. The more confident they are, the more that energy will be evident.

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  3. Hi, um I have the venus sq pluto aspect and this article really fascinates me. Almost everything that is written here is so true. And yes I've realised that right frm the start theres really sexuality in me, I would always wonder before on I how could possibly know such sexual things/acts at such a young age when I am a hundred percent sure Im innocent and raised well. Now I finally knew where all these things are coming frm, esp when it comes to relationships. But yea Im just wondering if Im also magnetic like what is said here? because sometimes when Im attracted to someone like when I really really WANT them, they dnt like me, notice me, or isn't available. Ironically, ppl I dnt find interesting at all, would actually hit on me. And its like I can only get those ppl who dont like me at first if I'll charm them purposely, usually through friendships(probably my venus in 11th) so do I repel? or maybe Im just really insecure since I also have sun semisq ven and ven trine saturn? and idk as much as I want to just lay back and dont care, I can't help it, I dnt really crave for attention I just want everyone to like me esp by the opp sex, whether that maybe romantically or not. And I also have sun conj asc in libra, ven inconj uranus, and venus trine mars too, so maybe that adds why? and makes my ven/pluto more prominent? Im sorry this is so long but I hope you can enlighten me. Thank you!

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    1. Well, there's really nothing wrong with displaying that kind of awareness about sex as a kid and doesn't mean you were abused sexually or anything. It should be said that no one wants to have actual sex before they hit puberty. So, at that age, you're just aware of what feels good physically, which can sort of sexual in nature but is still very different from adult pleasures. Venus-Pluto means intense pleasure, of all kinds, so that connection to physical pleasure just manifested very powerfully at an early age for you. The only problems come when adults don't know how to handle kids playing with themselves or walking around naked and react with panic or shaming or anger. There's really no need to because it's not only completely innocent at that age but completely natural.

      I think your intense need to be liked is the Sun rising in Libra. Yet, I find the story of attracting people you're not interested in and not being able to get the people you like very interesting. I believe you're probably manifesting this, on some level, and it's going to require some deep digging. Are you setting yourself up to never truly get who you want? To not be loved, truly loved, because it's too scary for you? So, you can experience the safe zone of not being attracted to the people who are attracted to you, thus being able to keep them at a distance while still affirming that you're attractive, and always pining for the one you really want, affirming your view of having a really tragic love life, which I think can be a big thing for people with Venus square or opposite Pluto.

      You naturally get very attached to who you're attracted to and the idea of being with them. So, being rejected can actually only fuel that attachment for you because it's not really "casual" for you. You invest a really intense amount of energy into the situation before anything ever really happens! So, I'd recommend you learn how to let go of unrequited lovers as well as romantic situations that are just no longer working for you. Don't thrive on all of this drama. Venus square Pluto is super-magnetic but you've just got to be aware of what situations and people magnetizing. Because a magnet can pull all sorts of things its way: good or bad.

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    2. You actually hit the nail on the head from everything you've said. And yes I do feel much more attracted when I can't get someone. lol. Anyways, thank you soo much for replying :) everything makes sense now xD

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  4. WOW I CAN KISS THIS BLOG THE INFORMATION ABOUT VENUS PLUTO ASPECTS ARE SO ACCURATE AND TRUE AS I HAVE THE VENUS PLUTO CONJUNCTION YES I HAVE HIT PUBERTY RADICALLY AND RECEIVED EXTREME RESPONSE'S FROM MY PEERS AND ADULTS IN MY LIKE ABOUT MY ATTRACTIVENESS SOME APPROPRIATE WHILE OTHERS NOT SO APPROPRIATE BUT I ALSO HAVE A LOT OF SEX APPEAL THAT IS POWERFUL I CAN ATTRACT NO OFFENSE PEOPLE FROM BOTH SEXES LOTS OF PEOPLE CALL ME SEXY EVEN WHEN IM UNAWARE OF IT I GUESS THAT'S DUE TO PLUTO UNCONSCIOUS NATURE PEOPLE ARE ADDICTED TO MY MAGNETISM AND I LOVE IT THE ONLY THINGS I DON'T LIKE ABOUT VENUS PLUTO ENERGY IS THAT I OFTEN ATTRACT EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE AND EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE LOVERS AND RELATIONSHIPS AND I OFTEN GET ADDICTED TO RELATIONSHIP THAT ARE JUST NO GOOD FOR ME BUT OTHERWISE I THINK THIS CAN BE A BEAUTIFUL ENERGY TO HAVE AS LONG AS YOU FLIP THE SCRIPT OF PLUTO UNCONSCIOUS NATURE

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    1. Thanks! I'm glad so much of it resonated with you. Just know that having Venus conjunct Pluto makes you very powerful and you can definitely flip the script, if you choose to.

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  5. I like your articles so much it's unreal. This article defiently describes me so perfectly. My Venus is in Gemini second house opposition Pluto. You see I belong to the category of women who wear absolutely no makeup whatsoever to quote "you either take it or leave it". I understand what a comment or above stated, I was so sexually aware as a child but I grew up with a very strict and religious mum so I definitely feel like my sexuallity is hidden and suppressed somehow. I never attract people my own age usually older and I mean like close to senile men are usually the once I attract. And if on those rare occasion a person my own age decides to find me attractive, they NEVER approach me and its so frustrating because I don't want to approach them and look desperate. On the other hand I become easily attracted to guys that pay me attention to the point that I may develop an obsession with the person. And I also battle with a feeling of homosexuality even though I identify myself as a straight female. It's frustration at its best

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    1. Thanks, Hellen! The not being easily approached thing is definitely a Pluto person problem. I have Sun square Pluto and Moon conjunct Pluto, so I can relate. Being quick to smile helps out a lot in this sense, I've learned, as well as just remaining relaxed. But, you also have to just develop the nerve to just approach others, whether in a friendly or a dating context. It definitely doesn't make you weak or desperate. If anything, it's very attractive because it shows you know what you want and you go after it! But, as a Plutonian, if you're just waiting for everyone to approach you and make a move, you'll be disappointed. Something about Pluto's intense energy is sort of unnerving to some people. Like they're worried you're going to eat them alive or something. And the ones who aren't scared are often the creepers you mentioned. So, when you make a habit of being the one to step forward and show them you're not this scary person, you'll have a lot more positive opportunities in your love life.

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  6. Thank you do much Wayman.. Your the best!!

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  7. Lol, I meant - Thank you SO much Wayman

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  8. Hi,
    I have Venus in taurus in 6th house opposed Pluto in scorpio in 12th house. Does the fact that both planets are in there domicile sign make this aspect even more striking?
    How would say the house placement influence the aspect itself?
    Btw, I'm a 24 years old girl, sun in Aries, Sagittarius rising an Pisces moon. Pretty complicated :)
    Thank you a lot,
    Giulia

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    1. Hi, Giulia! Yeah, I would say that the aspect may be more powerful because Venus and Pluto are in their ruling signs. You're a part of a whole generation with this aspect, too! I know people with it who can seem really chill and easygoing but also have a very intense side to them.

      With a 6th House planet opposing a 12th House planet, you can be oblivious to how much the planet in the 12th drives you, to a point that makes the 6th House planet very neurotic or obsessive-compulsive because it's trying to control this unseen force. I think Pluto does that to your Venus. Venus in the 6th is very similar to Venus in Virgo. And you may strive to have everything very in order (6th House) and stable (Taurus) because you're really scared of everything being destroyed and you losing everything/everyone (Scorpio Pluto in the 12th). This compulsiveness can keep coming up, again and again, in your relationship until you drag your Pluto out in the open and see how obsessive it makes you and heal your relationship with this planet.

      But, on the other hand, if you're very consciously aware of and accepting of your 12th House Pluto, good for you! Being conscious of your 12th House stuff is a lot like being an alcoholic who's stopped drinking. It's a big step, a lot of releasing of denial and delusion, yet an ongoing process. By the way, I love Pisces Moons and I'm sure you are very complicated! :)

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    2. Venus taurus 7th house opposites pluto scorpio 1st house, you can imagine how heavy it is to my life :'(
      So now i realize all this time in my life i was the "bad guy" haha

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  9. I really appreciate this post, Wayman, it is so true. I have Mars conjunct Venus Square Pluto (Pluto is in the 5th house). I am a Taurus, Taurus rising with Scorpio Moon. I love sensuality and touch, but sometimes I feel that I need more discipline so that I don't let it run my life. Can you offer suggestions about how to use that energy in a way that is empowering and not destructive?

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    1. You're welcome. I think being very sensual comes from not only your Venus square Pluto but the Sun rising in Taurus and the Moon in Scorpio, which is also a deeply sensual placement. Sensuality only becomes destructive if it's too concentrated in one area: over-eating or excessive sex or extreme self-indulgence/laziness. If you express your sensuality equally, in all areas of your life, then it will be something that simply enhances your quality of life.

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  10. I have Venus in Taurus in the 12th trine Pluto in Virgo in the 4th. I am a Gemini - sun in 12th, Mercury & Mars in 1st with Aries Moon in the 10th.

    Your article has struct a chord with me as I am trying to make sense of a lot of issues in my past that are to do with sexual abuse, dysfunctional relationships, being drawn to people who aren't available and being pestered/harassed by people who were already in committed relationships. I have also encountered difficulties with female friends who seemed to regard me as a threat when I was single, despite the fact that I have quite a strong moral compass.

    I have always been quite passive with regard to the opposite sex; they need to make their feelings known to me first and pursue me before I reveal myself but when I do, they are frightened off by the intensity of my feelings/responses and as a result, I have spent a great part of my adult life being single and misunderstood and labelled as something that I'm not.

    I consider myself to be reasonably attractive, I know how to make the most of my looks but I've never thought of myself of being sexy however I was picked on as a teenager over my looks and that has stayed with me all my life so I put all my energy into learning instead. I value my intellect over my appearance despite caring about it more than I would like to admit.

    As most of my negative experiences and relationships have been linked to or directly related to the workplace, I would like to know if this has anything to do with having Neptune in Scorpio in the 6th. Venus opposes Neptune in my chart as well.

    Thank-you.

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    1. All of this sounds like typical Venus-Pluto problems. It is good to find self-esteem in something much deeper than appearance and I think that's the lesson here. But, you should also know that this inner value is what makes you sexy. Many people with this aspect have a total ease with being sexually attractive and some are the opposite. I think that speaks to the fact that Pluto aspects can give us some fear over the power that the aspect represents. Venus-Pluto is the power of your attractiveness and that might be a scary thing to fully embrace, for one reason or another.

      Venus opposite Neptune is a whole other article and conversation, though, but your reasoning could be right.

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  11. Hi, i just want to say i love your post! It is detailed and is explained in ways I can understand. I'm new to this so I'm still trying to understand it. I use to think that i was just a cancer. Never realized that there is more to it. So I was hoping you can help me with this. I got my natal chart online and it shows that my venus and moon conjuct each other on the 11th house and forms a sextile with pluto on my first house. My pluto is in scorpio, my moon is in virgo, my venus in leo and my rising sign in libra. I have read some of your post but im wondering why am i still single? As you have mentioned pluto makes you intense, or appear to be, so i guess this explains why people go the opposite direction when i try to approach them. So i tried the waiting game but no one is approaching. Am ireading things wrong? Any advice i can make proper use of the energies of planets placement on my chart? Some advice would be appreciated. Thanks!

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    1. Hey, thanks for reading. But, I have to say that you should browse through the comments because you all have had some very common concerns. The person several posts above you asked the same exact question and I'll tell you the same thing: don't wait for people to approach you. Pluto people just don't get approached too easily. It happens! But, don't be afraid to put yourself out there. If not, you might always be empty-handed. So, don't despair. Just take it as an opportunity to empower yourself and assume command of the situation (Plutonians love doing that!) Many people will actually find that kind of confidence very attractive.

      And I can't answer a question on all those different planets. This is just about Venus-Pluto! :) I'd highly recommend getting a birth chart reading, though, which I would love to do for you.

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  12. Thank you, this was ALL very true. I could picture my entire life through your words. Another thing I can add is living "many" lives. Each rebirth is a new life and I find that I talk about things as if they happned to someone else...People dont get that. I wonder if having a career in psychology can be healing for this aspect? Because we are so focused on out own taboos and darkness. Maybe helping others can help us get a better prespective? Also art that deals with the taboo maybe?
    And if you could pleas reply: does having Venus in the 8th house and moon in scorpio makes this aspect more importent?
    Thank you thank you!

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    1. Yes, you're definitely going to love and value that rebirth/transformation process. Venus is also artistic, so this does mean making passionate, intense, sometimes taboo art. Is Venus in aspect to your Midheaven? Then, there might be more of a focus on making a career out of all of this. And having a Scorpio Moon just reinforces this energy.

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    2. HI, thanks for the info. I will think about having my natal chart read. =)

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  13. Hi, I want to say i really like your blog and all your posts are really accurate and interesting.
    I am an Aries girl with Venus in Aries 12th house trine Pluto in sagittarius in the 8th house. I have noticed that i attract the people that i am attracted to even if don't try to, i don't know if it is a coincidence or not. Although i have felt very attracted to someone (sometimes more than one person) i have always been cold about love, i mean, is hard for me show that kind of feelings, i am reserved however i like being nice with people and seems like i am flirting even if i don't mean to but whenever i found that someone likes me i feel like satisfied but at the same time insecure and i tend to "run away" and be even more distant.
    As i said i have my venus, my Sun and Saturn in Aries in the 12th House and the three planets with a Trine in Pluto. Having these planets in the 12th House affect in some way my relationships?

    Thank You.
    PS. Sorry for the typos english is not my native language :)

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  14. Hi Mr. Wayman. I have venus in cancer in my 4th house trine pluto in scorpio in my 8th house. Can you please tell me what this means? I also have jupiter in Sagittarius in my 8th house conjunct pluto by 7 degrees orb

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  15. Hi Wayman! Just wondering, could all of this also apply to those who have the Venus in Scorpio placement? Does the energy work in the same way?

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    1. Yes, definitely. Scorpio Venus and Venus-Pluto people are very similar.

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  16. Hi! My venus is sextile pluto and this is my tightest aspect. My progressed venus and pluto aspect is trine but i have a sun square pluto, is this the reason why people are afraid of me. Its either they love me or they dont

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  17. I think this may be the most accurate description of Venus conjunct Pluto I've ever read. I have this conjunction. In addition, my Pluto is conjunct Uranus. All of this happening in the eighth house in direct opposition to a Saturn/Moon/Chiron stellium in the second. Life's been quite a ride, most all of it hidden. Some of the characteristics you've mentioned about what these aspects pull out of others made me become very emotional as I finally felt like someone could see my experiences clearly and not feel compelled to devalue them due to their inability to wrap their heads around it, and/or what the more intense aspects of my reality bring up for them. Thank you so much for this post. It's come at a most opportune time for me and I am deeply grateful.

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  18. This article is so spot on. Can you shed more light on how the vibration would work with a 5th house Leo Venus square a 7th house Scorpio Pluto? I feel deeply insecure in relationships, and use my "seductive" nature to feel like I have control. I also feel like I only attract people I'm not attracted to, because deep inside I feel like I won't find someone who would accept me for who I really am. Thank you so much for this article! One of the best on this placement I have ever read (and I researched it a lot!).

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  19. Hi, I have my Venus in Aries in the 11th house trine Pluto in Sagittarius in the 7th and this was pretty accurate! Although, I do have self esteem issues and don't feel "sexy". I definitely have been told that I'm quite intimidating, and don't get approached often because of the fact. I find this article rather interesting because I especially wear little to no make up and absolutely feel like same way about making myself raw and having that take me as I am or not at all attitude. Thank you for this post!

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  20. Thank you so much for this great post! It helped me understand myself much better. I also appreciate the recommendations on how to deal with this aspect. I have Pluto in House I in Libra. Also, Pluto is in opposition to Venus and to Mars, which are conjunct in my House VII. As you can see I invest most of my energy and my time thinking about my romantic relationships which in turn are intense and complex and hard. I’ve always felt that there was something blocking or hindering my relationships and now I see why. I just recently discovered the role of Pluto in my chart. I had no idea I was Plutonic!! So only now (I’m already 38), I am starting to work with the energy of this planet. And, I still need to read “The Beast Within”!!
    However, I write because my dear nephew who is 16 months old has Pluto conjunct his Ascendant in House I in Capricorn, and Pluto opposition Venus in House VII. I just read also Pluto conjunct Ascendant, and wanted to know if you have any recommendations as to how to help him since a young age to be an empowered and assertive person? How can we channel his power for good and not for control and manipulation? Also, how to make him feel comfortable with his sexuality and to use it as a healing power? Or, is these all something that he will have to learn on his own out of the difficult relationships he will encounter?

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  21. Is Venus In Scorpio Similar To This Aspect ?

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  22. Hi, this article is fascinating, to say the least. I have Venus in 8th house sq Pluto and I have always been attracted to strong, silent men with a wounded past or tortured souls, it seemed. And my relationships will often start off fluffy and breezy, due to my Sun in Gemini and Sag ascendant, but quickly morph into a disaster by my eventual need to control and direct the relationship and emotional obsession with their lives outside of the relationship. One ex claimed he cannot handle the intensity and my energy. I attract and repel with equal intensity, and find myself the subject of both strong support and hatred from different camps of people in my workplace. I seldom draw a nuetral response from people. I find that I get picked up by strangers when I am not overly conscious of my image/looks or behaviour, and tend to attract those whom I had no interest in. I am uncomfortable dealing with people one on one, as I feel that my intensity often overwhelms that person and make them uncomfortable. Or I compensate by being frivolous. Am curious if my natal Venus trine Uranus and Venus conjunct Jupiter aspects strengthen or weaken my Venus sq Pluto in any way?

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  23. Wow this is beautifully written thank you so much for writing this article. THANK YOU! :)

    I have my Mars/Venus in Leo, both of which square my Pluto in Scorpio. I tell you what, my life has been full of transformation, depth and complexity.

    My Venus/Mars fall in my 4th house, and my Pluto falls in my 6th house (although it feels more like my 7th house because i attract obsessive controlling possessive Scorpio partners, most of which are criminals, all of which i totally adore and love with all my heart and soul).

    I love these placements so much. It has taken me a long time to own up to my shadow side though, my destructiveness, my mis-creations and my dysfunctional patterns, however i love a fucking challenge, bring it on. Every tragedy, death, rebirth and transformation has made me stronger, wiser and more empowered. I hope others feel the same way.

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    1. **sorry for my typo, my Venus/Mars fall in the 3rd house!

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  24. Great article!It's hard to find something so detailed and spot on.I am a capricorn with a scorpio moon and pisces ascendant.I would like to know how this aspects relate to my venus in Aquarius in the 12th house sextile my pluto in saggitarius in the 10th.

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  25. Oh Lord... I am currently dating a Venus conjuct Pluto man (both in Virgo). My Pluto is exactly conjunct his Venus and I have Pluto square Venus myself although the square is very wide, it sure does matter! We are both 50 and have basically been single for the last 10+ years individually. Most likely because we are older and more mature and just don't want all of the drama and bullshit. Anyway we are also part of the Pluto conjunct Uranus generation both born in the second half of 1965 so we have an added element of SURPRISES in our lives because Uranus is there to conjunct and square as well. Anyway, I loved the article and we have not yet "merged" sexually. It's been 4 months and we are being overly cautious. I may run for my life to be honest. LOL I'm scared!

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  26. Hi Wayman,

    Thank you so much for this article! It was incredibly accurate and helpful.

    My 8th house venus in square to my pluto. I was wondering how this would affect/magnify this dynamic, what with the venus in Pluto's house.

    Also, I have an 11th house virgo moon and 7th house taurus sun. I was wondering if this in combination increases the chance of childhood sexual abuse, with a very innocent-seeming moon, ability to lose myself in others via 7th house sun, and that inherent sexual energy.

    Cheers!

    Jessie

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  27. Hi Wayman,

    Thank you so much for this article! It was incredibly accurate and helpful.

    My 8th house venus in square to my pluto. I was wondering how this would affect/magnify this dynamic, what with the venus in Pluto's house.

    Also, I have an 11th house virgo moon and 7th house taurus sun. I was wondering if this in combination increases the chance of childhood sexual abuse, with a very innocent-seeming moon, ability to lose myself in others via 7th house sun, and that inherent sexual energy.

    Cheers!

    Jessie

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  28. Hi

    I agree it is so true. I have venus pluto sun conjunction in scorpio which is on my descendant! However i still struggle with long term relationships, i am 25 but want to marry so much. I am also in love a lot of times..,

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  29. Sheesh, I feel like this summed up my entire life and all of my relationships. Amazing.

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  30. Hi Wayman, I love reading all your articles. All of them are so spot on and so detailed, its amazing! I have a Venus, Mars and Pluto(apex) yod, with Pluto in my first house.

    All of the things written here are applicable to me, so I was wondering if its the yod or something else which has had all these effects? (since Pluto is in contact with all of my planets and is dominant, 1st house Scorpio rising here.)

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  31. Hi. I have the square aspect with venus in the 7th house. What does this mean? I do tend to attract very powerful and successful men (athletes or doctors) but it never works out. Im convinced the more money they have the more problems because they usually have a huge ego. I just want a loyal normal guy who can be a good provider, but i think i scare those off or something lol. Im actually shy and don't feel comfortable approaching men i find attractive, so its always the overly confident assh*le who ends up talking to me! ��

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  32. im currently in a situation with a female acquaintance who is literally obsessed with me, she too has an opposition in venus-pluto, i have a square, its been 4 yrs of her insane behavior but thanks to this article i can sort of understand the energy this scenario has created. not to mention i also have a pluto in the 7th house which i've read can also bring about stalker issue's. my venus is in the 3rd house, which is probably why said stalker is someone i met ONLINE, and never met in person,thank God, but yeah, the messages, the online bullying,slandering, name calling, profile watching has made me a bit paranoid when it comes to anything online, your article really helped me understand where this energy is coming from, so hopefully i can not only grow to be better at handling it, but also better at handling my own energy.

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  33. Wish I'd known this sooner, as my venus is opposite pluto. After denying my sexuality as a teen I was a late starter but when love came to my door it was never sweet nor lighthearted. Apart from having had loads of back-to-back crazy,intense,unsuitable relationships with men ranging from younger to older,artists to engineers and worse!, I've had three stalkers...guys running through city traffic to stop me...braking in front of my car on the highway to force me to stop...faking an accident so they could get my number (all complete strangers) and please: I do not consider myself beautiful. Pluto venus? Totally. Women seem to hate me by the way...it sucks.

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  34. Wish I'd known this sooner, as my venus is opposite pluto. After denying my sexuality as a teen I was a late starter but when love came to my door it was never sweet nor lighthearted. Apart from having had loads of back-to-back crazy,intense,unsuitable relationships with men ranging from younger to older,artists to engineers and worse!, I've had three stalkers...guys running through city traffic to stop me...braking in front of my car on the highway to force me to stop...faking an accident so they could get my number (all complete strangers) and please: I do not consider myself beautiful. Pluto venus? Totally. Women seem to hate me by the way...it sucks.

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    1. Post your picture. I'll be real honest to tell u if you're ugly or "beautiful"! Hahaha ������

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  35. Venus opposite Pluto conjunct ascendant moon. Terrible hurtful things that have been done and I've done to others. Such a powerful aspect. Currently trying to repair AnD heal with the one I believe is my true love.

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  36. Venus square Pluto. It's been so problematic, and obsessive in it's nature, for as long as I can remember.

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  37. Venus square Pluto. It's been so problematic, and obsessive in it's nature, for as long as I can remember.

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  38. Venus square Pluto. It's been so problematic, and obsessive in it's nature, for as long as I can remember.

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    1. Ok dude😩 it just means you're a nut cause its 3 in the fukin morning and u posted the same comment 4 times! GO TO SLEEP!!!

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  39. I know I have these descriptions in my natal chart.
    As a Sun in Pisces, Venus in Aquarius, and Pluto in Sagittarius Retro, I have it in a sextile (venus sextile pluto).
    I do attract intense folks, especially when my Moon opposite Pluto, which I have to be careful.
    This helps a lot to figure out who I am...
    And explains why Im attracted to the darkest side of love, haha. Very deep...

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    2. The sextile aspect is too far out to be of any importance. Its the hard aspects (conjunction, square and opposition)that have significant impact. The trine is a very mild aspect and the sextile is basically insignificant. Moon opposite pluto is irrelevant to this post.

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  40. Great article, just like the any other on your website! Love reading them. Venus conjunct Pluto in Libra, also Sun (Libra) conjunct Pluto here (and moon opposition Pluto, pluto trine ascendant). I definitely felt the impact of Venus/Pluto, especially in my 20's. I experienced obsessive love at 16 (lasted me for 5 years), heartbroken badly at 20's and lots of admirers, plus stalkers. I got compliments all the time, invitations out, never had a boring moment. I felt exhausted, I wanted to be left alone, get a break from it once in a while. I did everything I could not to be observed, didn't work. I never wore much makeup, mostly mascara. I always believed that my face looks prettier with very little makeup.

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