Thursday, March 5, 2015

Sun-Pluto: The Death of the Father


It’s hardly a surprise to me that my articles on Pluto aspects are my most read on this blog, with the Sun-Pluto and Moon-Pluto aspects being the most popular. People’s obsession with Pluto and Scorpio is very powerful. But, I guess you could also say that people who are very influenced by Pluto and Scorpio energies have obsessions that are very powerful. So, for those Sun-Pluto people out there, let me throw an extra bone your way and delve into one particular part of this influence.

The Sun represents our father figure and for many people, particularly those who are raised knowing both of their opposite-sex parents, it’s actually the father. Pluto is symbolic of death. But, the death that Pluto brings can be taken on literal and metaphorical levels. And this death often leads to a new life. Therefore, we can safely say that having the Sun conjunct, square, opposite, sextile or trine Pluto in your birth chart indicates the death of the father.

Though it sounds a bit cookbook-ish, which is not a style of astrology I’m not fond of practicing, it’s right in the majority of cases. Now, often, it can be taken literally, with the father actually dying sometime in the childhood. This won’t happen to every Sun-Pluto person, of course. But, it’s quite spooky how regularly this is the case. Pluto represents growth through trauma. So, those with their Sun in aspect to Pluto who experienced the early death of their father are often times the most easily empowered of this group. The father figure can be looked up to as very powerful and, when he’s gone, it’s up to them to take his place and claim their own power, even while very young. 



Therefore, the father’s death can be an early initiation into a newfound strength and power for Sun-Pluto, often a premature one. Those with these aspects whose father died in childhood can usually testify to learning how to turn the trauma around to their benefit. It becomes an enriching event, teaching them about mortality, life, death, and loss at a very early age. If they can accept this process, they’ll tap into some enormous inner resources. The Sun is the source of vitality and those who have Sun-Pluto are enlivened by learning how to become highly resourceful and use painful experiences in order to become stronger. In this situation, they don’t have much of a choice.

However, there is also the metaphorical death of the father with Sun-Pluto people, which is often times more traumatic and difficult to deal with. When the father figure literally dies early in life, he’s usually not blamed. Sun-Pluto eventually learns to wisely chalk it up to destiny and the cycle of life. But, when the father figure is metaphorically “dead” – through neglect, abandonment, abuse, or unavailability – there can be much more resentment. Then, the relationship with the father becomes defined by a sense of betrayal or some subtle feeling of cruelty or coldness on his part. And this is just as tough to get over as if he were actually dead, if not more. Often times, this is what the father figure becomes in the mind of Sun-Pluto if he’s absent or unloving. He’s dead to them.

Again, the tapping of inner resources needs to be highlighted. With most people with their Sun in major aspect to Pluto, the process of killing the father comes into play. Pluto’s journey can involve intense resistance and this is often on the case of the father. In negative cases, he just doesn’t want to grow. He’s too scared of admitting faults and working wholeheartedly to change. He’s too set on behaving in destructive or toxic ways. This leads to continual frustration on the child’s part, to the point where they just have to learn to just give up on him. This can be very difficult for the child to do, though, because Plutonians can hold on so fiercely. But, it’s this obsessive attachment to an unavailable or unhealthy dad, and the resentment that comes with it, only leads to controlling, unforgiving, or difficult behavior on the Sun-Pluto person’s part.

The father needs to be forgiven but, in a lot of these cases, he just needs to be let go of. This will teach the Sun-Pluto person to let go and not control people. They must see themselves as the true sources of their power, not their father. It’s this attitude that can be another element of resentment in the relationship. Sun-Pluto’s person can often be either seen as overwhelmingly powerful or pitifully ineffectual. In the former case, the father figure’s power makes it hard for the child to exert their own, possibly intentionally. In the latter case, he doesn’t provide a positive example of empowerment for the child. Both cases result in a desire to kill him off and be one’s own father. It’s very common for Sun-Pluto people to have very limited or sometimes totally nonexistent relationships with their father figure. Often times, this is just the healthiest course of action.

I should say that not everyone with a Sun-Pluto aspect will have a father who’s passed away, negligent, or abusive. There are some cases where the relationship is generally positive. The father figure is very influential in society and seen as a positive role model of strength and empowerment, genuinely encouraging the child to dig deep and transform themselves into a better person. Yet, I won’t sugarcoat it, either: more often than not, Pluto tends to make the experience of the planet it aspects difficult. This seems to be its purpose. So, while Sun-Pluto people who have present and wonderful fathers do exist, they’re unfortunately the exception more than the rule.

However, you know I don’t like to be a downer. And I will say that the loss of the father, in one way or another, can happen for a really positive reason. That might sounds like backwards logic but Pluto’s higher octave is all about finding the blessing in the catastrophe. So, the death of or the failed relationship with the father can become the enriching soil to Sun-Pluto’s personal growth. Without a “daddy” to call on or to really trust, Sun-Pluto must learn to trust themselves and turn to themselves for encouragement and guidance. If the pain of not having a father is healed, they will gain profound wisdom as well as the ability to ferociously take charge of their lives and destinies. 

16 comments:

  1. Hello I have a question does the sun contra parallel Pluto count too? I have it and your description it's very accurate to me especially the part about the father passing away at a young age .

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  2. Hi, Angel. Just personally speaking, I don't work with the minor aspects. I only focus on the conjunction, square, opposition, sextile, and trine. But, many other astrologers do focus on the minor ones, too. There is not exactly a right or wrong in that sense. I think perception is reality so if you feel this applies to you, then soak it up. :)

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  3. Hello, I have Sun opposition Pluto at 4 degrees and also Mercury opposition Pluto in 1. I lost my father from cancer when I was 5 years old and he was only 29 age. This is my story that confirms what you write. I had very hard my childhood because of the loss and life continues to be tough. My acsendant is Scorpio also.

    (sorry for my bad english language)

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    1. No worries. I understand you just fine. I'm sorry to hear about your Dad. Pluto represents healing and Sun-Pluto usually have to go through some serious pain to learn how to heal. It sounds like you haven't exactly finished grieving for your father's death, which is making your adult life so tough. So, try to find a way to overcome that wound. Just think of how stronger and more resourceful you are because of what happened.

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  5. Me and my siblings have Sun trine Pluto. Our father died when I was 5 months old, my brother 5 years old and my syster, 4 years old. He had cancer and he was 38 years old.

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  6. Hello,

    Having this aspect, I wasn't close with my father until few years ago. It's a big relief he is still with me, and I choose to accept him for who he is. His unavaibility confused me in my younger days, but after our relationship has gotten stronger, I started growing up properly, although it's way too late compared to others (Saturn influence).

    He sends me messages: to build inner/spiritual strength (Sun-Neptune), to be someone with significance (Sun-Saturn), to focus on my study (Sun-Mercury), to simply be 'just me' (Sun-Uranus). When my mother makes me 'comfortable' (Moon-Jupiter), my father actually helps me to be 'someone with independence who has inner strength and well-estabilished identity'. He has that subtle yet actually powerful force that grows slowly, which has evolving quality (Sun-Pluto).

    Thank you for sharing this. This post opens my eyes about how important my father actually is. My respect for him is increased significantly now.

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  7. Having Pluto 1* from my Virgo Sun, you described my childhood. My Bio-dad was not in the picture and my Step-dad whom I loved like a father died when I was 17. I have had a lot of deaths around me. I have very strong Scorpio/Pluto placements in my chart.

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  8. Yep I have the Sun trine Pluto natal aspect. My life has been riddled with father/male issues. I have had so much beautiful growth and learning through these catalysts. YAY.. Because of these experiences i am much wiser, stronger, capable and it has given me the beautiful desire to ensure i break the patterns.

    Father figures in my childhood (violent, criminals, non-existence, passive, liar, controlling, betrayals and distrust) Although in truth i have never actually had a father. Occasionally I had men who pretended to play that role for short and always temporary periods.

    The trine is awesome because i have the capability to break patterns and empower myself and others. I love this placement so much.

    I also think that this Sun Trine Pluto makes one appear quite comfortable and well accustomed to underworld type activities, which in my case is very true.

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  9. i have sun trine pluto and my father died when i was under 10 years old.

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  10. I have Sun opp Pluto, and my father died when I was 15 - and oddly enough, he died just as transiting Pluto was squaring my natal Saturn. There's a brutally evocative transit for you.

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  11. I have Sun sq Pluto and I want to kill my father.

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  12. Excellent article. I 100% relate. Do you do private readings? Would like one if you do. Thank you for publishing.

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    1. I definitely do. If you click on the blue ad at the top right, it will take you to my readings page.

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  13. Hello, After reading this article I became very intrigued And did some research to and found my father passed away on sun square Pluto when I was 17.

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