Tuesday, June 23, 2015

Venus-Saturn Aspects: The Antique



If your Venus sign is conjunct, square, opposite, sextile, or trine Saturn, then you are the antique. And I know you’re probably not offended by me saying that, no matter how old you are, because you understand the importance of antiques. In fact, Venus-Saturn people often love antique items! Venus represents our personal value and Saturn is about maturing and seasoning. Therefore, like an antique, this aspect causes your value only increases with age and maturity. I could’ve called you “the fine wine” for that very reason but that would’ve been too cliché. But, this value often doesn’t come easily earned. Saturn’s influence can be tough, after all. And with it touching the planet of love, in particular, there’s little to nothing indulgent or frivolous about your love life.

This is an attitude that starts early. While puberty is generally a time of silly schoolyard crushes and superficial attractions for most adolescents, you were more serious-minded than that. Venus-Saturn teenagers usually get involved in really dedicated relationships. You weren’t just exchanging love notes after class. No, it was virtually like a marriage. In fact, this might have been the time that planted that standard in your head. Through the pubescent stage, your idea of love was beyond your years. If it wasn’t a vow, a serious promise, an unbreakable commitment, you weren’t into it. 



So, here, you can see the teenagers who end up in relationships for several years, well into adulthood. If anyone is likely to marry their high school sweetheart, it’s someone with a Venus-Saturn aspect. There’s not really a yearning to date around with this influence, even if Venus is in a sign like Aries or Gemini. And sure, you might actually date around. But, it always leaves you cold. Instead, you want to only have eyes for one person. Saturn enforces restrictions so when it touches Venus, there are some necessary restrictions in love. And this means faithful dedication, as well. Few things hurt as much to those with these aspects as cheating. How could you even think of it?, they think. You promised you would love them and only them. For this reason, it’s very unlikely to see a Venus-Saturn person in an open relationship. Things are pretty black or white with them, in a way that can rival Venus-Pluto. Either you’re with them or you’re not; either you’re in or out.

Throughout your adult years, your love life can unfold in one of two ways. The first kind of Venus-Saturn individual is one who hasn’t been single since they were about 15. They are always in a committed relationship and it’s sort of like a hard-earned prize to them. Saturn is about achievement, after all, and Venus is relationships. So, you will often find a Venus-Saturn person who proudly keeps track of how long they’ve made it work with their lover. Saturn is also Father Time and these people can constantly feel Him hanging over their relationships. They are always reminding themselves, and their partner, of just how much of their life they’ve spent together.

But, there can be a potential downside to this. As hard-working and dedicated as the commitment-junkie type of Venus-Saturn person is, there can be a saddening sense of time sort of passing them by, especially in youth. It’s very common for these people to totally miss out on the whole “fun, free single person” phase of their twenties. They might not make a big deal out of it but there can be this secret haunting feeling that their long-term relationships have robbed them of their youth. With the sextile, trine, and even the conjunction, this may be less bothersome. But, those with the square or the opposition are more likely to get this nagging feeling that they’re missing out on something. Or maybe they don’t and they’ve given up on living out that part of their life. Saturn aspects can indicate how we mature a bit too quickly. Therefore, with Venus in aspect to Saturn, your investment in your love life can cause that typically carefree phase to wither somewhat.

Still, it’s not like you’d complain because you love commitment so much. However, this brings us to the second kind of Venus-Saturn person: the one who really deeply avoids commitment. Saturn can, after all, represent our greatest doubts and worries. And it does take a truly mature person with this influence to get seriously involved. Sure, everyone needs to grow up in order to commit. But, with the less evolved Venus-Saturn individuals, it can be really crippling. It can be difficult for them to make relationships last beyond a few weeks or months, as their persistent fears will cause them to inevitably sabotage the relationship, in some manner.

Unlike the perennially settled down Venus-Saturn person, who might grow up very fast by always playing house, the perennially single Venus-Saturn person can feel unable to grow up because they’ve never played house. There can be very deep feelings of rejection and loneliness that they harbor because of this status. This is something that usually happens when Venus is square or opposite Saturn, although, as I said before, these aspects can also produce excellent long-term partners, as well. There is something about being single that really affects these people’s self-esteem. It might be because they’re rigidly seeing relationships as an objective to be achieved, a goal to be won, which prevents them from getting what they want more and more.

No matter what your love situation is, this can be something that needs to be overcome. Saturn likes to set rules and structures. So, your expectations of relationships can just have way too many guidelines. And because of this, you might find yourself seeing rejection or fault where there is none. Venus-Saturn people need to be careful to not follow too much of a script when it comes to relating to others. You can even be guilty of this regarding your close friends and anyone else, as Venus also rules our relationships with all people. Those expectations can just be so high that no one can meet them, not even you! And this sets yourself up to constantly see yourself as “failing” when it comes to relationships. But, that’s only your negative perception.

In the end, you are the antique because it might take a long time for yourself to realize your own personal value. This aspect can be seriously guilty of letting themselves accumulate dust for too long in the corner, instead of realizing your full potential. Many with these aspects can report serious issues with self-esteem. However, this can also be an aspect that creates an amazingly solid sense of self-worth. Venus in aspect to Saturn makes for a person who can take things like affirmations and changing your unconscious scripts very seriously. Once you figure out how you’ve been sabotaging yourself through negativity, you can work your tail off to change these attitudes.

Now, if you’re at an unevolved level, I’m sorry to say that you won’t be nearly as attractive as you could be. Your overwhelming self-doubt will end up severely limiting your prospects. But, only because that’s the script you’re following; “the unlovable self”. And the cycle will continue! However, Venus-Saturn people can also be highly attractive, just like anyone can be highly attractive. Venus represents what’s appealing about us and the thing that’s most appealing about those with Venus touching their Saturn is a real sophisticated elegance. When you mature and embrace a very healthy self-image, you exude something really classy and timeless, like those beautiful antiques. And it’s more than enough to get people bidding on you, left and right.

It’s a really common pattern for Venus-Saturn to end up with not only partners older than them but good friends who are older, even if it’s just by a handful of years. But, our Venus shows what others appreciate about us and with these aspects, it’s often the people who are older who can appreciate you more. You’d think in these kinds of relationships that you’d be sort of behind them. But, that’s usually not the case. You are often a step or two ahead of your years, in terms of your life stage. When you’re 25, you enjoy (Venus) the things 35 year olds do. And when you’re 35, your tastes are of a 45-year-old. So, it’s no wonder that you associate so much with those who are older. You’re usually right in step with them.

And you might even be able to teach them a thing or two! With Venus-Saturn, it’s your earthy wisdom that draws people to you, especially as you age. Many of your friendships are conducted on advice-giving, often on your end. In truth, you really love giving people advice, feeling a boost in your own worth from being able to make someone wiser and more developed. However, just don’t indulge too much in this. Some Venus-Saturn people can become like tiresome parents with their friends, even those with the easier aspects, dishing out advice even when it was never asked for. But, you make a wonderfully loyal friend, just as dedicated to your long-term friends as your long-term lovers. You pride yourself on those really solid friendships that last for years and years.

Friends can readily come to you for advice on style, as well, because you have pretty distinctive taste. Saturn is quite status-conscious and reputation-aware while Venus indicates our aesthetic tastes, which includes fashion, of course. So, with a Venus-Saturn aspect, you are well-aware of how what goes on your body will affect your personal image. And this is an influence that can allow a person to clean up very nicely. Formal wear is a real love for most people with this placement, whether it needs to be worn at work or at a fancy event, as you actually enjoy having expectations of what to wear. When there are guidelines, then you can really put something special together. That air of class shines through in that suit or that little black dress, setting you apart.

Your tastes in creativity can be just as distinguished. Most Venus-Saturn people prefer music that isn’t of the present day, valuing the throwback stuff to what’s playing on the radio now. The same can be said of movies. In fact, your taste in film and music can go far before your generation. Anything that’s before your time (Saturn) is very valuable (Venus) to you. There is a taste here for something in its own league. Venus-Saturn also often has a deep love of classical music. It may be latent but once it’s awakened, it’s a powerful thing. If you’re an artist yourself, you love being creative for the permanence that it can bring. You’ll be an ambitious artist yet you will also succeed because you manage to seem so beyond most of your peers. Venus-Saturn artists usually have creative sensibilities that come off as belonging to someone much older than the age they are.

With these aspects, you have sexual feelings that are purposeful, goal-oriented even. To be blunt, there are some calculating Venus-Saturn types who can seduce others as a means to an end. Sex can have an opportunistic value to them. But, of course, that will not always be the case. Instead, you’re just turned on by the process of sweating and rolling around with someone else toward a mutual goal. And, yes, the sexual satisfaction has to be mutual for Venus-Saturn people. Otherwise, what’s the point to them? All that time in bed will have felt like a waste! Business is also erotically mixed with pleasure here. So, let’s just say co-worker or employee relationships can easily get complicated if you have a Venus-Saturn aspect. Few things are hotter to you than hard work.

Venus conjunct Saturn: With the conjunction, you definitely work hard in love, to the point of breaking your back. The thing is that all that work can easily just start feeling like work and suck out the joy. Remember to not take the relationship too seriously. But, your tireless dedication is ever-appreciated and many will find your wise, salt-of-the-earth quality wildly appealing.

Venus square or opposite Saturn: The square or the opposition can make you either deeply hesitant about commitment or very dedicated but really trapped because of it. Maybe you alternate between both. Yet, you can make for a very reliable, steady partner. You just must get over all of your various anxieties about love. Then, you’ll actually find intense joy in the act of being tied down.

Venus sextile or trine Saturn: It’s relatively easy for you to settle down without too much heaviness because of having the sextile or the trine. You’re capable of consistently working on your relationships and being a real rock for others. Yet, you might just have to work on occasionally slipping into opportunistic patterns and picking lovers or friends out of convenience.

5 comments:

  1. This was beautifully written, thanks. :)

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  2. Thank you! The whole history tie-in and feeling older than my time I thought was a Cap Rising thing. But this just adds to it!

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  3. THIS WAS SO ACCURATE!!! I have Venus conjunct Saturn in Gemini with Venus in the 10th house, while Saturn is in the 11th house. I always felt much more mature than all my peers during childhood. I would and still dream about the perfect soulmate and marriage in my life. I do treat relationships as a goal and have a few unrealistic expectations for my future wife. I absolutely love the old classic Hollywood films, actors, and actresses; I think they were a much talented and beautiful groups of performers than most entertainers today. I do adore wearing elegant and classy fashion clothes and accessories. I have never had a crush with any of my female peers at school due to the fact that I preferred women that are a few years older than me. I have always wanted to pursue the performing arts as a future career. I have enjoyed reading this article and you are the greatest astrologer I know, so keep going strong! ; )

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  4. I have this aspect Venus opposing Saturn beside Venus Uranus opposition
    Chiron aswell conjunct Venus in 6th house

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