Thursday, July 23, 2015

The 5th House: Let the Good Times Roll



Our 5th House means quite a few things. It’s a house that is said to represent creativity, children, romance, and just a plain old good time. This is where we go to party and to let our hair down. Now, first off, I have to say that having an empty 5th House does not mean that it’s not important. It’s just that empty houses sometimes get a bit less of our attention. It’s like we have 12 children (the houses) and the ones with planets in them are like our favorite kids. But, we need to pay attention to all of our kids, especially when it’s the house of kids and you end up with kids yourself.

Every house is a life area that needs cultivating, whether there are planets in there or not. This is an interesting and enlightening take on astrology because it prevents us from projecting certain signs and only seeing them “out there”. Except for intercepted signs, we have all of the signs in us. We’re all different yet we’re all connected. So, you need to watch out for complaining so much about a sign and disliking it. Doing so can cause you to neglect the house cusp that sign is on!

So, if you have no planets in your 5th House, look to the sign on your 5th House cusp to see what this life area is all about for you. Now, how can we describe the 5th? I actually think this is one of the most wide-ranging, all-encompassing houses. It is naturally ruled by the Sun, after all, which has a way of letting its light permeate everything. Therefore, your 5th House really touches just about everything in your life. This is the house of Leo, after all, so it needs to feel important, like the center of your world. You’ve got to find ways to stroke its ego but not overindulge it, either. 



It’s very fitting that I would tackle this subject today, as the Sun moves into Leo. The energy of the Sun, Leo, and the 5th House is highly creative. But, just what is creativity? I think some people make the mistake of limiting their idea of creativity, seeing it only as artistic ventures. This is where people have the 5th House wrong. There is a big yet subtle difference between being “creative” and being “artistic.” Being artistic is something very specific. It’s singing, it’s dancing, it’s writing, it’s painting. It’s entering a whole new Universe and getting lost in it. The 12th House is the true artistic house, in my opinion. Any planet in the 12th House is immersed in its own Universe, using all of these fantasies and higher yearnings and unconscious drives and impressions to express something otherworldly that takes you out of your everyday life.

Creativity is something different, though. It’s much more general than being artistic. Creativity is used in every moment of everyday life. It’s not a whole new world. It’s this one we’re in now and what we do with it. Everything you do and say is creative: making conversation, deciding what errands to run, picking out clothes, going on vacation, etc. But, true creativity is how much life and spontaneity and color you put into these actions. If that life force is missing, the creative spark is missing. Then, you’re just numbly going through life, not enjoying yourself or feeling confident in your self-expression. And this is what will kill your 5th House.

That’s why your 5th House Cusp and/or 5th House planets influence everything that happens in your life. This house is about life and making the most of it! Sure, creativity can be channeled toward artistic measures. And artists can feel an extra surge of inspiration by tapping into their 5th House. But, you don’t have to be artistic to be creative. Everybody is creative. It’s just about how well you can access this side of yourself and let that light shine powerfully and joyfully.

Children have an amazing access to their 5th House energy, which is why this is the house of children. And this is how we were as children. But, the 5th House inner child is different than the Moon inner child. The lunar side of our child self was emotional, needy, looking for comfort and support. However, our 5th House cusp and/or planets was when we were just playing around, freely expressing ourselves, and having a good time. 

My 5th House cusp is Gemini and I don’t want to brag but I was a very multi-talented child. I did everything that interested me: writing, drawing, singing, playing instruments, acting. Gemini is the jack-of-all-trades and I’ve always found it fun to just pick something up, play around with it, and get good at it. That’s always been easy for me because true creativity, when accessed, just flows right out of us. Writing was a particularly big thing with me, though, and I could spend a lot of time as a kid just scribbling in my journal or even writing lengthy stories. I loved reading, too, and telling stories, which led to me being an excessive talker. And that wasn’t always a good thing for me!

There can come a time when our 5th House gets squashed. Usually, it’s when we become old enough to be self-conscious about others’ opinions of us. This is when our child-side gets suppressed because children are very unself-conscious. And we acted out our 5th House with such a lack of self-consciousness that we saw nothing wrong with it, until other people did, particularly adults. I had no idea why people said I talked so much. I was just expressing myself! But, after years of consistently getting in trouble in class for being overly talkative and not waiting my turn to speak, my 5th House started to feel shamed and just went into hiding. I then spent a lot of time, as I grew into a young adult, just being quiet, hesitant to talk so much and be disapproved of.  

You can apply this to just about any 5th House placement. Cancer on the 5th House cusp, when they’re kids, doesn’t know why people think they’re so over-sensitive. Therefore, they start building up a shell and expressing their emotions to very few people. Mars in the 5th children gets told that they play too roughly and are too selfish, so they try to be nice little boys and girls, instead. And the more that we become adults, the easier it might be to pretend like our 5th House isn’t really there. We stop acting on it impulsively. But, nothing is really suppressed. It’s always there. And that’s why our adult self gets confronted with our inner child through other children.

I don’t think the 5th House tells you how you nurture children and make them feel safe. That’s your Moon’s territory. This house symbolizes how you’re going to deal with children. It’s how you relate to them and how you see them. With a 5th House Gemini cusp, I find it very easy to talk to children, holding conversations with them not much differently than I have conversations with adults. And that makes them feel really comfortable talking to me. So, your 5th House is how children see you and gravitate toward you, as well. This definitely comes into play when you have kids of your own.

It’s a really interesting and generally foolproof pattern: your children’s charts will usually carry a strong influence of your 5th House. If you have Neptune in the 5th, you’ll most likely have children with a significant Neptune, Pisces, and/or 12th House influence. They’ll be ethereal, imaginative, empathetic, and artistic. But, they might seem difficult to reach or hard to understand. The funny thing is that they’ll feel the same way about you. Do you have Leo on the 5th House cusp? Prepare for a child (or two) who is a real superstar, with a strong Sun or Leo influence that makes them the center of attention wherever they go. But, sometimes, they might feel like they have to share the stage with your uber-expressive self. You’re just as much of a performer as they are!

This is a relationship that brings out your 5th House inner child, if you haven’t re-connected to this part of yourself already. People regularly report their lives changing when they have kids. Maybe it’s because you become a kid all over again through them. They’re showing you the ways that your 5th House wants to have fun, to be free, to express itself to the fullest. And you have the opportunity to place the serious adult part of you to the side, sometimes. After all, a big part of raising kids is horsing around with them; at least, for the first several years. We have to roll around on the floor with them and be silly and play different games. This is when your 5th House will emerge.

Now, have you been grimacing while reading this because you’re just not a “kid person”? That’s fine. Not everyone wants children or even connects to them. I’ve even seen people with a stellium in the 5th who insist on not having children, which would make narrow-minded astrologers gasp. Saturn, Capricorn, or Mars is usually mixed up in there somewhere, in those cases. If that’s true, you just have more of an opportunity to access your inner child without the help of a child. You just have a chance to see the kid in yourself and give him or her the space to be their fully creative self.

I’ve re-connected with my 5th House Gemini as an adult without becoming a parent, even though I do really want kids one day. He was always in there, filling me up with so many random thoughts and witty observations and good stories. My inner monologue has always been restless and endless. Now, I’m a lot more comfortable letting a lot of that out and not caring so much what people think about me being so talkative/long-winded. Writing, particularly through this blog, is a big way for me to do that. It’s just really fun for me. When you’re living out your 5th House, things are a game. Don’t take it too seriously. Just enjoy it. This energy comes out strongly when you’re actually playing games, as well as when you’re out a party or gathering. 



This brings us to the romance part of the 5th House. I don’t actually think this house is about truly serious relationships. The commitment and the intimacy phases are the 7th and the 8th House’s domain. The 5th House is just how you’re going to flirt, date, and hook up. I’d say that this house is the first few dates, when things are really fresh and exciting. How you’re actually going to commit is your 7th House. But, how you get that cutie interested in you is your 5th House. Again, this is the part of the relationship that you don’t take too seriously. That is, unless you have Virgo, Scorpio or Capricorn on your 5th House cusp. Then, the heavy stuff ironically becomes quite “fun” for you. You’ll be the kind of person who spontaneously jumps into serious commitment. The serious signs on the 5th House cusp move very quickly in romance, wanting intimacy and security right away.  

You’ll often find yourself dating people who symbolize your 5th House through their own placements. How long that relationship will last, though, depends on the rest of your chart. To be honest, these kinds of connections can easily be one-night stands or brief flings, especially if the person isn’t compatible with your Descendant/7th House or Venus sign. It’s all fun and entertaining yet also fleeting. It’s just all about being in-the-moment. 

Again, that’s the youthfulness of this house coming out. People with placements falling in our 5th House are like schoolboy or schoolgirl crushes to us. But, it’s not as shallow as it sounds. This is actually a very heart-driven house. However, the heart does sometimes prevent us from using our head and saying “no, this isn’t going to work out.” The heart is totally spontaneous and open. But, sometimes, spontaneity leaves us with a mess on our hands! Oh, well. You live and you learn. So, when you’re still single and mingling, bouncing from one date to the next, your 5th House is in the driver’s seat. And it’s easy to be attracted to someone who’s hot and fun and who makes you feel alive. But, when the dust settles, are they really “the one”? Probably not. Just the one for right now.

Sex is also said to rule this house. Yet, it’s that one-night stand sex. It’s exciting. That doesn’t mean that it can’t be introduced into long-term relationships. In fact, when you really want to spice things up in your relationship, I would turn to the 5th House, not the 8th House. The 8th is about getting more intimate and going deeper emotionally. The 5th is just about the sex being more fun and more in-the-moment. Does some role playing need to be introduced? Some sexy talk? How about unpredictability or, ironically, more predictability? With the help of the 5th, you can make that sex with your partner of many years feel like it’s the first time; like it’s just for one night.  

Descriptions for 5th House Cusps and Planets:
http://astroarena12.blogspot.com/2015/07/5th-house-placements-cusps-and-planets.html 

2 comments:

  1. I don't have children, but I guess you get the best parent-child-relationship when your 5th house kind of mirrors the rest of your chart. After all, it's easier to understand your child and vice versa if you have a lot in common. What do you think?

    F.e., my Moon is in Aquarius in my 5th house. Uranus/Aquarius is also dominant in my chart, as well as Moon/Cancer, though a bit less so. So my child should be quite quirky and sensitive. Plus whatever traits it gets from his father. My dating history suggests that this might be someone with strong Pluto and Mercury. Well, I can relate to a child that's probably strong-willed, gifted, sensitive and totally weird. Should be fun. :D

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  2. What a illuminating read! Really resonated with this so thank-you . I have five planets in the 5th house. Scorpio Sun,Moon,Mercury, Venus and Jupiter.My other Scorpio planet Pluto resides in 6th house. Still an every day astrology student and wish I could find a good interpretation to this stellium (although I might get some things intuitively about it haha)

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