With the Moon conjunct, square, opposite, sextile, or trine Mars, you’re the defender. This combination gives you a feisty fighting spirit that will not quit. It can be a very compulsive thing, as the Moon represents our instincts and gut reactions while Mars is our mode of attack. So, you can say that you’re constantly on the attack, in one way or another. Sometimes, this just makes you dynamic, driven, and assertive. Other times, it makes you wildly defensive and temperamental. Insecurities can create a pretty significant chip on a Moon-Mars person’s shoulder and this edginess might be something you need to get over, if it makes you always look for a fight.
Since the Moon describes how we were when we were children, with your Moon sign in aspect to Mars, you were always ready for a fight when you were a kid. From the beginning, your instinct has been to push back whenever you’re pushed. Therefore, Moon-Mars children often have little to no problem handling themselves with siblings, classmates, friends, and even adults! You were a tough little cookie and this was something that was reinforced within you by your nurturing figure, which is what the Moon represents. With a Moon-Mars aspect, your maternal parent supported you through strength and passion, urging you to get out there and show ‘em what you got!
Those with the sextile and the trine often have a maternal figure who positively encourages their competitive, active side. They urge the child to have the confidence to get what they want and to find empowering outlets for their energies and passions. People with the opposition or square, though, often have a bullying mother figure who is a real pusher. The parent can force the child into a corner a lot, displaying a very domineering attitude, as well as selfishness and quick temper. Since Mars rules what pisses us off, the mother figure can easily seem like a ticking time bomb. With the conjunction, this can go either way. Conjunctions can be the best of times and the worst of times, as it’s a very positive, natural aspect but also really overwhelming. So, it can produce a nurturing parent who is an inspiring life coach and a self-involved hothead.
In any case, this relationship conditions you to fight your way through the jungle of life. And a lot of this can be a self-protective thing. Moon-Mars aspects are interesting in that they combine the aggressive force of Mars with the innate sensitivity of the Moon. In fact, people with these aspects tend to be highly sensitive, even if it’s not exactly obvious. It tends to be covered with plenty of bravado, as their impulse whenever faced with insecurity (Moon) is to just bluster their way through it (Mars). So, Moon-Mars people are actually very good at appearing fearless and fierce when they’re actually scared shitless; so good that they might not even be fully aware of their fear, as the Moon often operates in such an unconscious manner.
But, they’re also probably afraid that you know how sensitive they are, which is why they fight so much harder. This is what makes you the defender, Moon-Mars person. The vulnerability of your feelings give you the compulsion to constantly have to fight. With the hard aspects, it can be because of the selfishness and the pushiness you experienced from your mothering parent. You might not want to leave your weak spots that open again. The softer aspects might be less fearful, in this manner, believing that feeling all the feelings doesn’t make you helpless or weak. In fact, they can be an amazing blend of softness and toughness, knowing how to balance the two.
If you are worried about coming off as weak or a pushover, remember how this fear is ultimately hardening you. It not only prevents you from being emotionally generous but can bring a ruthless attitude toward others. There is something highly primal about this combination and it’s a very powerful thing to behold. But, that power gets twisted when you’re stuck in a “kill or be killed” mode. Being obsessed with getting what’s yours and slaying the competition can cause a very dark form of selfishness to emerge, especially since the Moon can get so irrational. Moon-Mars folks, at their worst, can slash and burn their way through life, simply shrugging at the carnage they’ve caused, as long as they got what was theirs, and moving on to the next thing.
It’s the kind of attitude that might make people feel as if they always need to defend themselves against you. Being close to someone with a Moon-Mars aspect who hasn’t yet mastered the positive elements of the energy can feel like living under the constant threat of being run over. Everything’s all nice and lovely and then bam! It’s like an emotional hit-and-run. Since Mars is assertiveness, whenever you’re needs aren’t being met, you can get very forceful. And you just knock everyone over on your path to satisfy those needs and don’t look back. Also, Heaven help you actually not get what you need, as this is the thing that really provokes your temper.
Rage and moodiness curiously combine when the Moon is in aspect to Mars in a person’s birth chart. If you have a Fire or Air Moon, your displays of rage are more likely to be very open and direct. Your bad moods are quite explosive. You don’t waste time sulking, bursting at the seams to get it all off your chest. But, still, people can shake their heads and wonder where all that anger came from. It’s really just a mood you get into, sometimes without any serious outside provocation. If your Moon is in Water or Earth, however, you may be more of the smoldering type, expressing anger in ways that are even more unbearable because they’re just weighing down and darkening the atmosphere. But, this simmering rage is quite formidable. It’s like you have a black-belt in passive-aggression and are taking everyone in the room out with your psychological warfare.
Moon-Mars people also specialize in the angry-cry, as you can get really worked up and feel really vulnerable, at the same time. Deep feelings fire you up and getting mad makes you feel very naked and exposed. So, it’s enough to start the waterworks. And it’s also enough to put you in a constant state of anger. Essentially, Moon-Mars is the combination of the baby or the toddler (no offense, guys). You have powerful emotional needs that require immediate attention. When you’re upset, everyone knows it. And you have little self-consciousness about letting your passions fly free. In the end, you feel very emotionally secure by living in this highly instinctive, raw state. But, you just have to make sure you’re not being overly selfish and reactive or you’ll be stuck in your terrible two’s forever.
Yet, there is such a thing as healthy selfishness and those with Moon in aspect to Mars seem to have a very natural attunement to this idea. You see nothing wrong with needing to fulfill your personal desires and impulses. So, this isn’t typically the placement of a pushover. Other aspects might make you more willing to compromise or please others. But, this aspect saves you from not being able to say “no” or stand up for yourself. People with the square or opposition might struggle with a balance, in this regard, either being too assertive or too giving. However, the potential for great inner strength is definitely there, once a happy medium is found.
You’re an independent soul and don’t want to co-exist to a stifling degree with someone else. Moon-Mars individuals have a burning inner motivation to take action and to blaze a trail through life. You can’t do that with someone holding you back with their clinginess and nagging. The Moon is how we support others and take care of them and when it’s touching Mars, you’re supportive in ways that strengthen and motivate others. You want to give them a big, hearty push whenever they’re feeling insecure or down, reminding them that they always have the option to do something about the situation. This is a deeply proactive combination. So, even if your Moon is typically very empathic and caring, you might easily throw your hands up and move on when faced with someone who just endlessly whines and wallows. You think, “What do you want me to do about it?”
However, a ferociously protective side also comes into the picture, whenever you feel like someone is being pushed around, especially someone who is weaker than you are. The positive side of this placement is being as much of a defender of others as you are of yourself, if not more. Moon-Mars individuals can develop a powerful passion for fighting for the underdog or the defenseless in various situations, whether it’s people who are underprivileged, those who are being disrespected by others, or children and animals who aren’t getting the safety or love they need. This is when that softer side comes out and when you probably become the most empathetic.
When it comes to your own emotions, you get on with them very quickly. Moon-Mars is all about acting on the feelings, in the moment, and then heading on to the next thing. So, your moods and reactions are like individual fireworks. Just when one goes off, another one will be following. But, you actually benefit greatly from following these feelings. If Mars is how we take action, having Mars in aspect to your Moon sign means that you must take action via your intuition. Your approach is not going to be the most logical one, even if your Moon’s in Air. You’re still acting from your gut impulses. And this is the kind of thing that can easily make you seem crazy to others. Well, maybe you are crazy. But, this instinctive style keeps you right on the cutting edge of life. It’s also what allows you to win, as Mars is our competitive, fighting technique. And with Moon-Mars, you often take such a subjective, irrational approach to arguments or confrontations that people become too overwhelmed to fight back for much longer. After all, it’s a lot harder to argue with emotion.
There is something essentially androgynous about this combination, as well, thanks to the blending of yin and yang. The Moon is part of our feminine side while Mars makes up half of the masculine principle. So, as a Moon-Mars person, you’re distinctly feminine and masculine, at the same time. You’re a kick-ass, take-charge person who can handle themselves. Yet, you remain sensitive and intuitive and often surprisingly fragile. This male-female vibe is very sexually charged, as well, since Mars indicates how we like to have sex. You can be both submissive and aggressive, depending on your mood. And it really is all about “being in the mood” for you, which might make your sex drive kind of all-over-the-place. But, sex is highly charged with intimacy for you, to the point where it’s probably difficult for you to separate the two. It has to feel like lovemaking to satisfy you.
Moon conjunct Mars: Having the conjunction makes you the most likely to go off. You’re full of passion and rage and lust, feeling innately secure by bluntly letting off all of this steam. But, you need to make sure everyone else can handle the heat, as well as that you’re not the only victor in the situation. If you remain aware of others, you can light an amazing fire under them.
Moon square or opposite Mars: It can be difficult to find balance and moderation with the square or the opposition, making you either wildly selfish and hot-headed or deeply frustrated through your lack of assertiveness. Turning everything into a competition gets useless. See yourself as your main competitor and then you’ll learn how to let yourself win, which you can do brilliantly and boldly.
Moon sextile or trine Mars: Your inner fire will mostly burn in ways that make others want to get closer, thanks to the sextile or the trine. You know how to be assertive, spirited, and forceful while still remaining generally agreeable. However, you’re no angel, as you can still burn others when your patience runs thin enough. There are times when you need to remember to just count to ten.