The sign and or planets in the 3rd House of your birth chart determine what you’re looking to intellectually get from and give to a situation. It’s how you take that information in and what you want to do with it, making it not only how we learn things but how we teach things to other people. This is a process learned very much from the relationship with one’s siblings growing up, which is what the 3rd House represents. Of course, you may also be an only child, so this house will then symbolize what you sought to teach other children, like a little adult. And this interaction with siblings and/or other kids influenced how we are in our neighborhood; another 3rd House symbol.
This continues into adulthood, defining the ways that you connect to your neighbors and why you do or don’t gossip. And because the 3rd House is so full of ideas and changing thoughts, it’s also your “flip side”: the evil-twin sort of part of you that emerges in conversations in unexpected or sudden ways. This house is dualistic, after all, and can get pretty unpredictable.
Aries in the 3rd House and/or Mars in the 3rd House
You learn things very quickly, as you’re driven to figure out the essential point. And once you you’ve got the gist, your mind can go elsewhere. You strongly insist on thinking for yourself. So, you teach people to think in ways that are dynamic and full of conviction. Yet, you have a real attitude when your flip side comes out, becoming snappy, testy, or overly forceful. It’s an impulsive, quick-trigger thing, so you often don’t realize when you burn people verbally until afterwards.
If you have siblings, you could handle yourself well with them and weren’t reliant on or influenced by them. You always saw yourself as being in your own lane and didn’t care too much what they did. If you’re an only child, you thought it was important to show other kids how to be brave and stand alone. Either way, you flew solo in your neighborhood and still do now. You’re only concerned with what happens in your literal backyard, so very little of your energy is wasted through gossip.
Taurus in the 3rd House
You savor every little bit of information that comes your way, building and building toward a solid understanding. So, you pick up on things in ways that might make you seem slower but actually gives you a stronger mind than most. Therefore, your flip-side is extremely stubborn, to a point of making you seem less reasonable than you are. But, you think that you have a lot of common sense and like to teach other people to come to the practical conclusions that you do.
With your siblings, there is a huge amount of loyalty there that would take something really massive and serious to break. You always felt like you could relax around them and that life was more pleasurable with them. If you’re an only child, you wanted to teach the other kids to just relax and enjoy life. So, your neighborhood was a big source of pleasure for you, growing up, and it still is. You love connecting with your neighbors for the sake of it, not the accompanying gossip.
Gemini in the 3rd House and/or Mercury in the 3rd House
You’re always learning, picking up bits and pieces of everything as you go. So, you’re the eternal student and the eternal teacher, as well. You believe that you’re very logical and insist on others having the same rationale. But, your flip-side can come from being so rational that you justify everything you do, as well as using your shrewd mind to play with others’ heads. It comes from an ability to understand things in multiple ways which is, inevitably, what makes you so interesting!
Your relationship with your sibling(s) has always been special. You were two (or more) peas in a pod, probably even seeming like the same person. And you were always getting into schemes together that landed you in trouble. Even if you were an only child, you found some long-lost twin to get into mischief with, taking the lead more so in this way. You’ve always been very active in your neighborhood, as a result: sociable, restless, and, yes, a lover of getting the dirt on everyone.
Cancer in the 3rd House and/or Moon in the 3rd House
Your learning style is to feel your way through the information. It has to really sink in your gut for you to grasp it and, as a result, you’re able to use logic to help you understand your feelings and vice versa. So, you like teaching people how to make rational sense out of more mysterious things. Yet, this also means that when your flip-side comes out, you can be so irrational that you see your craziness as pure logic. Your moods change like the wind but this also makes you fascinating.
If you have siblings, your relationship with them is supportive and comforting. You felt like you were very able to just talk about your feelings freely with them, making you used to verbally venting what you feel or writing it out. If you’re an only child, you became the counselor for all the kids on the block. So, as an adult, you relate to your neighbors by inviting them in and getting them to spill. But, you can unconsciously slip into gossip mode by repeating these confidences to others.
Leo in the 3rd House and/or Sun in the 3rd House
Your intellectual objective is figuring out what this information has to do with you or how you can relate to it. Therefore, you always want the lessons you both learn and teach to be really exciting and alive! If it’s not interesting, you flat line. The fact that you’re mentally stimulated by drama shows that you can teach people to shake up their lives. Yet, your flip side is truly another person, as you crave so much excitement that you feel the need to switch into various personalities to get it.
This placement points to a relationship with one or more of the siblings that is non-stop fun and glory. You may have looked up to a fabulous, attention-getting brother or sister so much that you imitated them highly, to the point of becoming their doppelganger. However, being an only child would make you seek a “twin” or two in the neighborhood to imitate you. Now, you’re very used to being a real character in your neighborhood, full of fun, mischief, and the latest scoop on others.
Virgo in the 3rd House
You learn through acute analysis and attention to detail, which can sidetrack you in conversations. You might easily get too caught up in a tiny thing someone said, to the point where you didn’t listen to anything else. But, this also makes you a good teacher when it comes to urging people to think critically and use good sense. Still, when you get too critical, your flip side emerges by causing you to be too fault-finding and judgmental with information or points of view, particularly your own.
Your sibling(s) taught you what was seen as right and wrong. There was an emphasis on correctness in this relationship, as they were always trying to straighten you out. You obliged, taking to the process of being perfected by them. If you grew up as an only child, then you were more focused on correcting other kids. So, you’re very focused on what’s wrong with your neighborhood. As an adult, your interest in gossip is solely to criticize what or who needs improving around here.
Libra in the 3rd House and/or Venus in the 3rd House
The learning process is a very thoughtful one for you, as you’re well-aware of how people give and receive information. Therefore, your objective in conversations is to get on the same page intellectually with the other person. You teach people through your charm and your sweetness. Yet, the flip-side of your people skills is being highly manipulative, working people by knowing all the right things to say, as well as being so focused on both sides that you become crazily indecisive.
If you have siblings, you highly appreciated their companionship. You might have developed a co-dependent bond with them where you did everything together, including sharing artistic skills and lots of affection. If you’re an only child, however, you were intent on culturing kids your age and bringing beauty to their perspective. You like to play a very peaceful, kind role in your neighborhood now. You probably see most gossiping as unfair or mean yet you’ll still probably hear it out first.
Scorpio in the 3rd House and/or Pluto in the 3rd House
You’re most interested in the subtext of information, instead of what’s on the surface. So, your learning process is investigative, figuring out what’s being left unsaid or unrevealed. You teach people to not think superficially and to hone their detective skills. But, if you go too far, you express a flip side that’s highly paranoid, though you can often take this paranoia as fact. It’s a destructive and also hypocritical mentality, as you’re prone to not exposing much of your own subtext.
You have a very intense relationship with at least one sibling. It can be love-hate, tumultuous, or obsessively close. You sense a power within them that you strive to investigate, especially since they find that power through some sort of trauma, like abuse, self-destruction, or death. As an only child, you’ll be that mystery child, forcing the other kids to figure you out. Now, you’re very private with your neighbors. And if they gossip about you behind your back, you’ll quickly cut them off.
Sagittarius in the 3rd House and/or Jupiter in the 3rd House
Your objective is to grasp the big picture, so you learn by not being too interested in the little things about the information. Instead, you want to see the whole scope of it and be inspired by it. Data has to make you enthusiastic to get those mental juices flowing. You’re an enthusiastic teacher, as you can turn every lesson into a funny, colorful story. But, your flip side makes you an exaggerated clown, going over-the-top verbally in ways that make people just want to put you on mute.
Your sibling relationships felt like wonderful adventures, while growing up. You went off on your own explorations together, discovering whole new worlds by straying far from your own territory. If you’re an only child, you encouraged the kids on your block to follow you wherever you went, whether they were allowed or not. So, you’re still not limited by your neighborhood, making gossip small-minded to you. If you do it, it’s not malicious. You don’t see it as gossip; just a good story.
Capricorn in the 3rd House and/or Saturn in the 3rd House
You think that you have to work really hard to understand things and impress people with your intellect. So, you know how to see the purpose in the information you come across and how to take in and convey that purpose. Therefore, you’re a formidable teacher, making your students take you seriously and even look up to you. Yet, when your flip side comes out, you’re overly pessimistic and negative about what you’re saying, as well as highly anxious about how it’ll be received.
With one of your siblings, you always felt like you had to be more intellectually accomplished than them, probably since they’re so talented and recognized elsewhere that you see intellect as your domain. They might also have hated school, done poorly, or dropped out, even if they were very smart, so you felt the pressure to pick up that baton. As an only child, you’ll strive to be this example for other kids, though you feel the weight of being the “nerd”. You’re very status-conscious with neighbors and may gossip to take someone else down. But, you’ll eventually learn better.
Aquarius in the 3rd House and/or Uranus in the 3rd House
The learning process for you is an unconventional one, encouraging you to think outside of the box. Your whole agenda in conversations is to give and receive unusual thoughts and ideas. This ensures that you have a flip side that seems to go totally nuts, breaking rules and pushing buttons with the wild things you say. However, you are also capable of teaching other people to express their ideas freely, through your own offbeat verbal style, without worrying what others will think.
There is a genuine friendship that occurs with one or more of the siblings, to the point where you are truly friends first and siblings second. You grew up feeling free to be your quirky self around your tolerant brother or sister. You also probably teamed up with them in a few rebellions against your parents. If you’re an only child, though, you were that liberating influence toward other kids, showing them how to march to a different beat. As an adult, you’re detached from what your neighbors think of you. They can gossip about you all they want but you shut them up about others.
Pisces in the 3rd House and/or Neptune in the 3rd House
Information enters your brain like a fog, making you uncertain, sometimes, of exactly what you want out of a conversation. You’re often vague or confusing when you’re trying to teach someone something. Facts easily become fantasies for you, leading to a flip side that can become so deluded and such a “character” that people wonder if you’re seeing straight. Yet, your skill is blending intellect with imagination, giving you a mental outlook that comprehends beyond what is seen.
If you have siblings, you grew up feeling unconditionally loved by them. Your bond was a forgiving, peaceful one and also a Universe unto itself. You truly got lost in the make-believe games you played with your brother or sister and you shared many secrets with them. Yet, if you grew up an only child, you were forever trying to sweep the kids on your block away to a new world. So, you’ve always free-flowed through your neighborhood. You’d rather just love thy neighbor and you’re deeply affected and hurt by gossip, even if (or maybe especially if) you’re not the subject of it.