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If your Venus sign is conjunct, square, opposite, sextile, or trine Uranus, you’re the avant garde. The reason why is that Venus is basically the planet of taste. It’s what pleases our senses and rules the things that we value in life. Now, Uranus is a certifiably kooky planet that embraces change and innovation and all things that are sort of weird. So, with Venus in aspect to Uranus, you definitely value (Venus) the unusual things (Uranus) of life. You also value unusual people, as well. Venus-Uranus people are apt to be drawn to all sorts of relationships, saying to hell with convention in romances and friendships. But, your relationships might be plain chaotic, as well, if you let this quirky way of relating to people become flat-out bizarre or emotionally distant.
However, your strangeness is a big part of your appeal, as well. I think our Venus sign, house placement, and aspects really start taking over once we hit puberty. This is when we suddenly become aware of the power of our attractiveness. It’s our initiation into becoming sexual beings. I think Venus is just as sexual of a planet as Mars. But, it’s in more of a sensual, come-hither expression of sexuality. It’s about how we draw others near. The funny thing, then, about having a Venus-Uranus aspect is that, starting from adolescence, you don’t care all that much about drawing others to you; at least, not in a flirtatious manner. Even if Venus is in flirty signs like Gemini or Libra or in seductive Scorpio, it’s rarely your intent to flirt and cajole and drive your preferred sex crazy.
Well, you do enjoy driving them crazy but more so in a mental way. Venus-Uranus people learn, as adolescents, that being offbeat and original can be highly appealing. So, this is the way in which you’ve learned to attract others: by shaking things up. You find pleasure in being the one who dares to be different, going against the “sheeple” in order to be an individualist. And you just trust that you’ll draw other individualistic people your way. But, the aim is more about friendship than romance. Many Venus-Uranus people are quite detached from the yearnings for romance from early on. Venus is our value system and with this planet in aspect to free, independent Uranus, you might value your independence above all else. Yet, this is something that can easily break hearts, as you can remain cool and unfazed by others’ attempts to forge a romantic connection right off the bat.
The thing is that you’d probably prefer to be friends first! People always associate Venus with romance but often forget that it defines how make friends, as well. And friendships are what those with their Venus in aspect to Uranus truly value. Friends don’t make you feel as chained down as romantic partners potentially can. So, your friends are what keep you feeling free, which is what brings you a great deal of pleasure in life. This is often why you prefer for those who you end up with romantically to start off as your friend and insist that you maintain that kind of buddy-buddy camaraderie throughout the relationship.
Therefore, the interesting thing is that being friends with someone (Uranus) is often what makes you fall in love with them the most (Venus). When a relationship goes from zero to sixty, in the romance department, it’s the kind of thing that can freak a person with a Venus-Uranus aspect out. Having one of these aspects can also make you frequently attracted to those who you’ve been friends with for a long time. Therefore, the challenge of moving things out of the friend-zone can be experienced very regularly for you. However, it all depends on how you handle these romantic feelings. If Venus is in a Water sign or in Taurus, you’re more likely to surrender to these yearnings. If not, you can end up lashing out in a defiant attempt to resist sentiment and maintain your cool.
Those with the square and the opposition can have a particularly tough time dealing with the feelings that come with starting a love affair. The conjunction can often go either way, as they might become oddly defensive and distant or they might behave more like the people with the sextile and the trine. These people tend to have a healthy grip on what it means to still be independent while maintaining some sense of closeness or connectedness in the relationship. And this might not just be an issue with lovers but also with friends. You may find yourself keeping buddies at an arm’s length when you think they’re getting too close. Sometimes, it may seem like you would just prefer to be in an exclusive relationship with yourself.
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With Venus-Uranus aspects, there is usually a love of alone time that needs to be respected without making you cut off from others, either. Venus is where we can be too self-indulgent. And those with a Venus-Uranus placement can indulge themselves with too much solitary time, which eventually turns into loneliness and isolation. This can be a particular way of dealing with relationships for you if you’ve been hurt significantly. You might find yourself becoming less and less emotionally accessible, not willing to become that attached again. Generally speaking, your lack of over-attachment can be a very healthy thing. It makes you independent. Just remember that we all need people, after all. We are social beings and nobody can go at it alone for too long.
But, the paradox of Uranus’ influence is that it is so social, in spite of also potentially being so detached. And you truly enjoy the process of getting to know lots of different people. For Venus-Uranus, the more different they are from the norm, the better. This is what makes you the avant garde. The more something or someone is considered odd or unpopular, the more you’re going to be attracted to that thing or person. Venus isn’t just how we draw others to us. It’s also how we are drawn to other things and people. And the outcasts, the rebels, and the provocateurs just always have a magnetic pull over you. You’re fascinated by the people who shock and awe.
People are also fascinated by your ability to shock and awe. You draw like-minded nonconformists and oddballs your way. Your relationships are often established through a mutual sense of breaking the rules together and being a dynamic duo of craziness wherever you go. Now, your Venus might get off on this just a little too much. So, you might find yourself behaving in indulgently rebellious or provocative ways. Going overboard with our Venus is like eating too much candy. We just end up with a stomachache. Therefore, Venus-Uranus individuals can end up feeling the unappealing consequences of just doing things only to cause anarchy.
However, this anarchy can often be for a good reason. Since Venus represents our value system, you really value treating other people in egalitarian, fair-minded ways, which is what Uranus symbolizes. You see everyone as your brother and sister, not wanting to discriminate against others for the labels that society slaps on them. Therefore, what you’re often rebelling against is the narrow-minded thinking of others. In fact, facing discrimination is something that really displeases you. While Mars-Uranus people would aggressively or assertively respond to ignorance by saying “screw you”, you are more passive and refined in how you give some prejudiced idiot the bird. You’re more likely to just distance yourself from them, peacefully go on about your own way. Yet, I wouldn’t put it past you, either, to eventually flip them the finger or tell them off, if they persist.
Those with Uranus aspects who are considered minorities – basically, those who aren’t straight white men – can awesomely go against the grain of society’s prejudices and fears. Venus is the planet of beauty and how we appreciate our own beauty (whether we’re male or female); and not just physical beauty but our attractiveness as a whole. So, as a Venus-Uranus person, you can find the beauty in being someone who doesn’t fit the societal mold. You can detach from society’s standards of attractiveness or worth and come to fully appreciate the differentness of your race, gender, and sexual orientation. Even if you’re a straight white man, you can still be affected by these ideals of attractiveness, as well. And you can find joy in truly not caring about them.
Going against the mainstream can affect your personal tastes and preferences in many different ways. Many Venus-Uranus folks can be your typical hipster types, only listening to alternative music that not many people have heard of and hating what’s playing on the radio now. In fact, you might be that person who loves something until it’s popular. Then, it might turn you off. You may also be the same way about movies and books, capable of telling people about things you just watched or read that they might not have even known about otherwise. The underground or indie scene is often what appeals most to Venus-Uranus, particularly the ones who are Millennials. But, you might be easily accused of trying to be “too cool for school” at the same time.
Maybe it’s true. You may be trying to just make some defiant statement. For those with one of the harder aspects, this can be particularly transparent, at times. But, for those with the easier aspects, it’s often just an expression of the fact that you just prefer what’s different. Because of this, Venus-Uranus people aren’t usually the types taking style tips from GQ or Vogue. Uranus does not like to be told what to do or think. With Venus in the mix, this extends toward fashion, which is something that I think Venus definitely influences. Therefore, you’re apt to not care at all about what some fashion editor tells you is acceptable or not. You think independently when it comes to style and are prone to experimentation, mixing and matching, trying out lots of different options.
Venus-Uranus people can sometimes dress to shock, decking themselves out weirdly. But, much of the time, you just dress in a way that doesn’t care what others think, often breaking fashion rules. You’ll wear brown shoes and a black belt if you want, even if you leave someone else shaking their head. You probably also don’t care much for formal wear, unless you absolutely have to wear a suit or a dress. Uranus is highly casual so you’d much rather keep it casual when it comes to your dress code. However, this extends to other areas, as well. Even if there are more passionate or emotionally complex influences in your chart, this Venus-Uranus aspect keeps them in check when it comes to romance. Being somewhat aloof yet very friendly can be highly attractive to others.
When it comes to dating, you’re up for anything and the other person must be as well. This love of experimenting extends to sex, as well. The thing that’s sexiest about you is that you can be electrifying and fully enjoy trying whatever sexually. Uranus is a planet full of surprises and you might be quite surprised by what turns you on, as sexual feelings involving kinkiness, fetishes, bisexuality, three-ways, and all other sorts of experimental inclinations can suddenly pop up. Everyone must be accepting of their sexual preferences and tastes, as long as they’re harmless, without judgment. But, with this aspect, you must be especially. If it feels good, try it. You could end up unexpectedly loving something that you didn’t think you would.
Venus conjunct Uranus: The conjunction gives you the strongest love of madness as well as the strongest ability to charm others with your madness. But, you might expect to slide by too much on this quirky appeal by making too much trouble and wanting to always get away with it. Just focus on being a free-spirit in more pleasing ways, liberating others right along with you.
Venus square or opposite Uranus: The issues of personal space and independence can be overwhelming for you, with the square or opposition. It can become a push-pull game, not wanting people to get too intimate but still wanting to be good friends. You must allow people to truly get close to you. Then, you can be an even more wonderful buddy to others than you already are.
Venus sextile or trine Uranus: Your eccentricities don’t typically create too much chaos, since you have the sextile or the trine. They are usually just endearing and likable. But, even you are prone to walking alone so much that you become out of touch with others. Disconnect when you need to but remember how valuable your friendliness and your open-minded acceptance is to others.