Sunday, January 31, 2016

The Saturn Return: I Need to Get My Life Together

The Saturn Return in astrology is when Saturn comes back to the sign and house it was in when you were born. It occurs once every 28 to 29 years. So, you experience your first around the age of 28 or 29, depending on the degree of your Saturn. The second one occurs when you’re 58 or 59. A third Saturn Return is very rare but there are certain people who experience it. So, if you’re lucky enough to live to the age of 88 or 89, then you’re going to go through your third.

But, for the majority of people who live to the average life span, there are only two Saturn Returns in a lifetime. Talk about pressure! You get your Jupiter Return once every 12 years and the inner planets come back around much more frequently. A Venus Return is once a year and a Mars Return about once every year and a half to two years. So, why the long wait for Saturn to return? Well, it’s because of what Saturn represents. It’s a planet that you have to work hard at and put enough time into. It requires discipline, maturity, and structure. Therefore, Saturn wants to wait long enough to see what you’re capable of and the skills that you have or haven’t acquired all of those years.

Therefore, the Saturn Return consists of a series of tests and challenges that will require you to step up to the plate. How well you do so will determine how much of a success you can be. It’s a somewhat common misconception that people are being “punished” during their Saturn Return if they haven’t worked hard enough in their Saturn sign and house. But, I don’t see Saturn in terms of punishment. Saturn just represents consequences. There’s a difference. Saturn isn’t cruel, harsh, or mean. So, when the difficulties start piling up during your Saturn Return, it’s not because you’re being punished or tortured. It’s because you’re experiencing the natural consequences of your actions. Whatever you’ve done to get you to this point, good or bad, you’re going to experience it on a really powerful level. You’ve made your bed and, now, you’re lying in it.

Again, I don’t think that’s unsympathetic on Saturn’s part. It’s just a part of life. There are too many people who go through life, thinking that they can get away with anything. If you shoplift, there’s a good chance you’ll get arrested. If you drink and drive, there’s a good chance that you could hurt yourself or someone else. It’s all about responsibility. And if you’re being irresponsible with your Saturn, then you’re going to “get arrested” during your Saturn Return. But, that time in jail, metaphorically speaking, can hopefully sober you up or straighten you out. Then, once you’re free, you can hopefully become a more responsible, mature member of society. 

This is why the Saturn Return feels like such a crisis to most. When you’re going through your first Saturn Return, it is truly life-changing. It’s pretty well-known that your 20’s are a messy, confusing time, in some way or another. You make endless mistakes, whether it’s in love, career, or your self-expression. You’re trying to figure out what to really make of your life. You’re attempting to find “the one”, to become a success in your career, or just be the kind of person you dreamed of being when you were a kid. Then, your Saturn Return happens. The first Saturn Return is a bittersweet time. It’s a goodbye to your 20’s, as you begin to wrap up this decade and enter a new one.

Astrology is so ingrained in our culture that some people don’t even realize it. Just like there’s all this superstition surrounding the Full Moon, the act of turning 30 is quite an existential one. It’s a marker for many people: “I want to ‘make it’ before I turn 30” or “I need to get married by the time I turn 30” or “I’m not having kids until I turn 30.” What is it about the age of 30 that’s so meaningful? Well, when you turn 30 is when you’ve completed your Saturn Return. Therefore, you’ve hopefully worked hard to get your act together, in some shape or form. The pressure to achieve something major before your 30th birthday is a real part of our society. It’s a way to feel like an adult.

And the pressure to accomplish is intensely felt during your Saturn Return. Through this time, your Saturn is amplified. Your Saturn sign, house placement, and aspects are felt stronger than ever and manifest in a way that you can no longer ignore or not take seriously, like you may have in the past. If you have Saturn in the 6th House, health issues and your daily schedule become more challenging than they have been before. If Saturn is in Capricorn, prepare to potentially worry a lot during this time, as well as get more preoccupied with work. Saturn trine the Moon will bring more focus on being emotionally self-sufficient and a dependable support system for other people.

The Saturn Return can definitely put a lot on your plate. Depending on what’s going on with your Saturn, situations that are major emergencies or tragedies can even happen. That only highlights the fears that come with this planet. Saturn represents, by its position, what we worry about the most. Before your first Saturn Return, you might try to suppress or ignore these worries, living a more carefree existence. But, this is why becoming a real grown-up can be so resisted by many. It comes equipped with serious issues that require our dedication to work through and beat.

Therefore, many people experience their first Saturn Return as very therapeutic or cathartic, especially if Saturn is in a Water sign or house. You get to conquer those deep fears that have ruled your life for so long but that were too overwhelming to deal with. It’s not saying that everything will be totally smooth sailing with your Saturn afterward. But, this is the level of accomplishment you can get to during your Saturn Return. It’s a transit that turns many people into a very different person, thanks to a hard-earned maturity that allows you to deal with life more effectively and successfully. Since Saturn can be such a source of self-doubt, mastering your Saturn sign, house, and aspects will lead to a newfound confidence that will allow you to properly enter adulthood.

But, that brings the question of who the actual adults are. People’s maturity and developmental levels can vary a lot and it doesn’t always depend on their age. There are many “old souls” who actually take the time to work on their Saturn placement before their first Saturn Return occurs. This is particularly true for those who have a strong Saturn influence in their chart or a Capricorn Rising, meaning that Saturn rules their chart and, therefore, rules their life. So, for these people, they have already dedicated themselves so much to their Saturn that when they encounter their first Saturn Return, they’re ready. It becomes a time that’s much less about pressure or difficulty and more about just reaping the rewards of the efforts that they’ve already made. It’s a truly lucrative time.

Yet, there are the people on the other end of the spectrum who just don’t seem to learn much, regarding their Saturn. After all, not everyone grows and develops during their first Saturn Return, unfortunately. There are some people who just resist the process, feeling victimized somehow by the hardships or setbacks they went through during this transit. So, they just go through life remaining stagnant well into their 30’s and 40’s. Being older does not always make you wiser. There are many people who just don’t get it together regarding their Saturn and that’s a sad thing to witness. It’s very common for someone with a 7th House Saturn to have major relationship issues in their 20’s. But, to see a middle-aged 7th House Saturn person still unable to really commit or have a strong relationship shows that they haven’t done the work necessary to grow or develop.

Again, we’re all flawed and I’m not saying that you have to be able to get your Saturn placement completely right after your first Return. But, at the same time, you should “know better” after this time, so you can catch yourself when you begin making your mistakes again. Being unable to do this makes the time between the first and the second Saturn Return particularly difficult, in some way. Those who aren’t able to mature via this planet never really get the success that they want. They might settle for a very mediocre or very unfulfilling job, unwilling to pursue their true goals. They could get involved in highly dysfunctional relationships or marriages, bounce from one to the next, or just fail to find the right person. And they may also just, in general, fail to live up to their true potential as a person, never finding the empowerment or the self-awareness they need.

I believe that the only failure is not trying. When you don’t make the effort with your Saturn, you fail at life. That’s even if you might seem like you have a great life. Being an adult is not as simple as being able to pay your bills and find a secure job. Saturn shows us adulthood is more of an existential thing than that. After all, many of our Saturn placements are not that earthy or practical. If you have Saturn in Pisces or Saturn in the 5th, your sense of achievement and maturity doesn’t come from making money. It comes from your spirituality (Pisces) or your creativity (5th House). And if you keep avoiding these lessons, it’s always going to feel like “something’s missing.”

There can be something quite tragic about someone who’s approaching their second Saturn Return and hasn’t learned their Saturn lessons. During the first, we’re still young. We still have a chance to live the life we want. A few people say that you can feel “washed up” somehow during your first Saturn Return, as if your options are now limited. I say that couldn’t be further from the truth. We’re barely even 30 when we go through the first one. That is definitely not old, despite what some people may think. People can totally turn their lives around at this age. But, during the second Saturn Return? That’s when that feeling of dried-up options can get overwhelming. You’re almost 60 during this transit. The harsh reality is that there’s only so much more life for you to live.

Of course, life doesn’t stop after the second Saturn Return. It’s just that, if you haven’t achieved your Saturn placement’s responsibilities by then, you’ll have to break your back to do so. This is the time of approaching senior citizenship. And it can bring on a crisis that you’re about to reach retirement age without being able to retire, metaphorically speaking. You’re going to have to continue to work hard, when you should be taking it easy. That’s much more difficult to do at this time. The older you get, the more set in your ways you become. Therefore, people who haven’t developed and mastered their Saturn by the second Saturn Return, honestly, have rather slim chances of doing so, unless they are just absolutely committed to their personal growth.

It’s why it’s so important to heed your Saturn lessons the first time around. It sets the stage for the rest of your life. Now, for those who were wise enough or strong enough to do the work on their Saturn placement, the second Saturn Return does bring a lovely feeling of retirement. You now don’t have to work so hard. You’ve solidified your status via your Saturn through all those decades. So, you get to take it easier. That’s not to say that the Return will be without trials. But, they will be handled with amazing grace by you. While the struggles of the first Saturn Return can be quite traumatizing, the struggles of the second, if the person has taken the steps to develop, will be handled with a more skillful perseverance. You’ve been there, done that. Yet, if you are still immature in your Saturn area during the second Return, it’ll be a painful, déjà vu feeling of “been there, done that.” Reality is knocking at your door. It’s up to you to finally answer.

As far as when the Saturn Return occurs exactly, there are varying opinions. Some think it’s when transiting Saturn is actually conjunct your natal Saturn. Some think it’s the entire three years that Saturn is in your Saturn sign. I will have to go with the opinion that the Saturn Return is when Saturn is either conjunct your Saturn and/or in your Saturn’s house. It’s going to be felt either way. The house placement of your Saturn is where it lives and expresses itself. So, long as transiting Saturn’s in that house, you’re going to be impacted. Also, look out for when transiting Saturn will be within 8 degrees of your natal Saturn. Although the time of the exact conjunction will be felt most powerfully, as long as there’s a conjunction of 8 degrees or less between transiting Saturn and your natal Saturn, in my opinion, you’re still in your Saturn Return.

Monday, January 25, 2016

Adele - Astrological Profile

Adele has broken quite a few records recently. The video for her single “Hello” has just reached over a billion views on YouTube, doing so faster than any other video ever. Also, there’s been the truly phenomenal success of her album “25”, considered her comeback after she took a couple of years away from the spotlight, following her incredibly popular, multiple Grammy-winning album “21”, first released in 2011, and her Oscar win in 2013 for Best Original Song for “Skyfall.” But, Adele clearly does the whole comeback thing bigger than most. When it was released near the end of 2015, “25” set the record for the largest single-week sales of the past couple decades.

I’ve become a big fan of Adele’s lately: the music, the voice, the personality. I know plenty of other people are, as well, as she’s one of those public figures who is just very beloved. So, I figured that it would be appropriate to do an astrological profile on her. Just what’s going on in her birth chart?

She was born Adele Laurie Blue Adkins on May 5, 1988 at 3:02 AM in Tottenham, London and is also an only child. She is a Taurus (her identity) with a Sagittarius Moon (her emotional nature) and an Aquarius Ascendant (her behavior). I always follow my instincts when it comes to looking at famous people’s charts. Sometimes, I sharpen my skills as an astrologer just by analyzing certain public figures through their charts and how it all lines up with what we know about them, their lives, and the public’s relationship with them. My gut tells me that Adele’s chart is definitely accurate, for countless reasons. 

Let’s start off with her Aquarius Rising. The majority of famous people with this Ascendant are known as being the kinds of people who aren’t exactly “celebrities”. Aquarius, after all, is the anti-celebrity, the egalitarian, finding diva-like, Hollywood antics and interests ridiculous. Adele certainly fits that bill. She has expressed, numerous times, that she’s not interested in being a celebrity. Even though she’s the biggest songstress of her generation, her attitude toward her massive fame is low-key and detached. Aquarius is always rather “outside looking in.” She said recently in an interview, regarding all of her success and recognition, “I always feel like this is going to turn out to be a hidden camera show and someone is going to send me back to Tottenham.”

Like a true Aquarius Ascendant, Adele is highly accessible. While some famous people might only downplay their fame just to look or sound good, it feels very believable coming from her. She definitely doesn’t play the superficial game of trying to have a certain “image.” Adele is well-known for her easy acceptance of her full-figured body, which is what makes many people identify with her more. I can see that in her Gemini Venus trine her Ascendant. People with the Venus trine Ascendant aspect tend to have a healthier body image and more comfort in their own skin. “I think I remind everyone of themselves,” she said. “Not saying everyone is my size but it’s relatable because I’m not perfect and a lot of people are portrayed as perfect, unreachable and untouchable.”

I should also note that she has Mars in Aquarius conjunct her Ascendant. Mars is, however, in her 12th House. 12th House planets conjunct the Ascendant are fascinating because they play out in a more subtle, more elusive way than if they were in the 1st House. With Mars rising in Aquarius, Adele is very driven (Mars) to be the everywoman (Aquarius), as well as to electrify her environment with her unpredictable, quirky nature. But, since Mars is in the 12th, she doesn’t hit us over the head with that. It’s expressed in an under-the-radar way. 12th House planets on the Ascendant are more felt than anything. It might be why people seem to never question her relatable ways, while other famous folks can receive more cynical criticism or scrutiny for trying to be “just like us”.

When it comes to public figures, I think we know them primarily through their Ascendant and their Midheaven. While their Rising sign is the person that you end up shaking hands and speaking with, their Midheaven is the person who is broadcast out toward the entire world. Adele has a Sagittarius Midheaven, giving her a tremendous public self. Those with a Sagittarius Midheaven just do it “bigger”, career-wise, than most of their peers. The profession becomes an exciting, wonder-filled journey where anything can happen. Adele is known for not being calculated in her career moves. In fact, those with this placement tend to just fall into their success, as if it were an accident.

But, she is also a clear example that Sagittarius Midheaven people often strike absolute gold in their profession, as long as they maintain their faith and their freedom of spirit. It’s where they’re the luckiest. The total runaway success of “21” and “25” is reminiscent of another certain Sagittarius Midheaven called Michael Jackson and a little album known as “Thriller” that broke all sorts of records back in its day. Also, the legendary status that Adele has assumed as a songstress within such a short time reminds me of Whitney Houston, another Sagittarius Midheaven who was also seen as the biggest, most beautiful voice of her day.

However, Adele also has her Moon in Sagittarius conjunct the Midheaven in the 10th. This gives her an extra special edge. Although Sagittarius Midheaven people gain a reputation for being very authentic and honest, Adele’s Moon sitting on her Midheaven gives her a greater boost of authenticity. Those with the Moon conjunct the Midheaven are not crafting a “persona.” They are just expressing a very real part of their soul and their inner, deeper self to the world. It’s why the Moon conjunct Midheaven aspect is so good for artists and performers who can truly make a career (Midheaven) out of their emotions (Moon). Few singers do so better than Adele.

This aspect of her is probably what touches her fans the most. Her songs, from “Hello” to “Someone Like You” to “Set Fire to the Rain”, are so full of genuine soul and feeling. Moon conjunct Midheaven artists can bring out a wide range of emotional responses in their audiences. It’s well-known that listening to an Adele song is going to make you feel all the feelings. The key to her success is also her own vulnerability (Moon). As one journalist noted, “She has a poignantly vulnerable stage presence, with her heart on her sleeve, and she sometimes cries over the still keenly felt heartbreaks that are the subject of most of her songs.”

With her Sagittarius Moon, she is already very candid about her feelings and deals with them very straightforwardly. So, that instinct is channeled into her work, creating the really powerful feeling of intimacy she has with her audience. She said herself, of this connection, “I have sympathy for myself, I have sympathy for them, they have sympathy for me, and I know that we are all there knowing exactly how each other feels.” Planets in the 10th and/or on the Midheaven are for the whole world, instead of being experienced as much on a personal level. With the Moon conjunct the Midheaven, a person’s feelings have such a direct, powerful outlet through their work that they don’t get expressed as openly in their personal life.

Adele once said, “In person, I can never talk about my feelings… But, my head comes alive when I’m writing music and I start using words and describing emotions I had no idea existed in me.” The Moon is a mysterious influence. You just have to surrender to its flow. Also, we can clearly see her Sagittarius Moon just through her public demeanor. The Moon goes through phases and moods. So, she can shift from being highly emotional to just expressing her silly, fiery, uncensored, bigger-than-life Sagittarius soul, complete with a huge, infectious laugh. “I’m a big personality,” she accurately stated. “I walk into a room, big and tall and loud.” It’s another reason why we feel so invested in her: she projects her innermost self so publicly that it feels like a personal bond. 

I also see that she not only has the Sun in Taurus but Jupiter in Taurus in a close conjunction to it. People with their Sun conjunct Jupiter have big personalities. Take whatever sign the conjunction is in and multiply it. With her Sun conjunct Jupiter in Taurus, Adele is absolutely grounded and down-to-earth. Being a Taurus, her self-image is based on remaining realistic and keeping a level head. But, due to the influence from Jupiter, she’s going to do so on a major scale. This kind of attitude brings good fortune into her life. I should also note that she was having her Jupiter Return in Taurus throughout mid-2011 and early 2012, as “21” became the musical phenomenon of the year and she won all those Grammys. Jupiter in Taurus was a wonderful, confidence-boosting time for most people with their Sun in Taurus. But, it was especially so for Adele.

Taurus rules the throat and the five senses. So, Taurus possesses a famous artistic flair and a lot of people with personal planets in Taurus have lovely voices, speaking-wise and singing-wise. It’d be an understatement to say that Adele is included among them. Jupiter being in Taurus and conjunct her Sun is probably what makes her voice so particularly big. One producer stated that he could hear her singing outside of the recording studio just as clearly as if he were right next to her. As a Taurus Sun, Adele is also building an identity (Sun) for herself as someone who is mastering the art of self-appreciation and self-worth (Taurus). So, it’s no wonder why she has such an unapologetic comfort in her own skin. While not immune to insecurity, Taurus is one of the least insecure signs.

Her Taurus Sun is not only conjunct Jupiter but in the 2nd House, which rules Taurus, as well. So, she’s like a double or maybe triple Taurus. Adele’s Venusian influence is also amplified by Venus’ placement in her 4th House. Those with a 4th House Venus find the most pleasure in their private lives. It not only leads to a very private person but someone who is far from a workaholic. Adele’s Venus in the 4th keeps her rooted (4th House) in this feeling of ease (Venus). “My career’s not my life,” she says. “It’s my hobby.” Her foundation allows her to maintain strong, satisfying private connections with others, even in the midst of her overwhelming success, including her mother, her partner, music producer Simon Konecki, her old friends, and her three-year-old son, Angelo.

Speaking of her son, I can also see her Moon in the 10th conjunct the Midheaven in how much motherhood has changed her life and her career. Much of the time off she took was due to wanting to be with her child. With the Moon conjunct the Midheaven (or ruling it), parenthood becomes just as fulfilling of an achievement as one’s career because being a parent (Moon) is really one of the person’s major life goals (Midheaven). The way she went about “25” at her own flow not only speaks to the fluid Moon dominating her career but her Pisces North Node in the 1st. With a 7th House Virgo South Node, Adele is more comfortable pleasing or influencing others (7th House) by being very diligent, timely, and productive (Virgo). But, as she evolves, she is embracing more of her North Node, which is urging her to find her higher self by approaching all situations (1st House) in a way that’s transcendent (Pisces). By resisting her old habits of being enslaved to schedules and correctness for the benefit of others, she has been expressing her 1st House Pisces North Node by developing the self-approval needed to go at her own flow. When we focus more on our North Node, our lives become more successful. So, is it any wonder “25” turned out the way it did?

Also, Adele has Venus in an out-of-sign opposition to her Saturn in Capricorn. Since Venus represents your creative sensibilities, artists with a Venus-Saturn aspect have a certain elegance, maturity, or sophistication that set them apart from their peers. I was, like many, surprised a while ago to learn that Adele is, to date, just 27. It’s not that she doesn’t look her age because she does. But, she seems so much older and wiser in spirit, known for a classy, throwback kind of style that is very different from the pop stars of her age group. “Rumor Has It”, for instance, sounds like it could’ve been sung by The Supremes in the 1960’s. It’s this timelessness of hers that will only keep her growing legend going and going. Uranus, her chart ruler, is in the 10th, which is a very powerful influence. Whenever the chart ruler is in the 10th, one’s life unfolds in ways that are purposeful and fateful, giving a person a role in life that keeps them in touch with their destiny; that is, if they should heed the call. It looks like Adele has, using her perspective as the one who’s always been rather different (Uranus) to contribute something important and respectable to society (10th).

Thursday, January 21, 2016

Venus-Jupiter Aspects: The Hedonist

If you have your Venus conjunct, square, opposite, sextile, or trine your Jupiter, I would call you the hedonist. Whenever you’re considering Jupiter aspects, one of the key things to consider about them is “excess.” Jupiter is a bigger-than-life planet that doesn’t know or, more accurately, doesn’t want to know limitations. So, whatever Jupiter touches in your chart, it can easily take it over-the-top. Therefore, with Jupiter in aspect to your Venus, which represents our pleasures and values in life, you’re going to really love the things that you love. But, this is what gives you such an amazing, resilient set of values. You believe fully in seeking out these pleasures.

Venus-Jupiter people are highly self-indulgent because of this. Venus already represents our potential for self-indulgence or even greed. With a Venus-Jupiter aspect, then, this potential becomes amplified. Is this always a bad thing, though? No, not always. The wonderful thing about this placement is that it gives you the ability to experience an uninhibited, unfiltered kind of joy. People with their Venus in aspect to Jupiter can be so full of love and appreciation that it’s overflowing and downright infectious. This is especially true if Venus and/or Jupiter are in Air or Fire. But, you can even observe this trait in those with Venus and/or Jupiter in a sign like Virgo or Scorpio or Capricorn, which aren’t exactly known for their carefree enthusiasm. But, as a Venus-Jupiter individual, you strongly value (Venus) being enthusiastic and full of faith (Jupiter).

There is a thin line between Jupiter’s optimism and foolishness, however. When Jupiter is in aspect to your Venus sign, then this manifests in the blind faith you put into your sensual pleasures, your values, and, yes, your relationships, as Venus also symbolizes how we deal with our relationships. Having a Venus-Jupiter aspect in your birth chart means that your love life is always going to feel like an adventure. What kind of adventure it is, however, often depends on the aspect. With the sextile, the trine, and sometimes the conjunction, you can just see someone who’s intrepid and free when it comes to matters of the heart, not letting anything hold them back from finding love. The square and the opposition, however, as well as the conjunction, in certain cases, can make a person go to sheer extremes with this, so desperate to explore their options and make various discoveries in love that they just end up with a big old mess on their hands.

A person’s Venus says a lot about how they went through puberty and dealt with the adolescent trials of romance and attractiveness. And even though we hopefully grow and mature and evolve, that teenage boy or girl is always in us, on some level, well into adulthood. Venus-Jupiter teenagers suddenly see matters of the heart as an amazing exploration they have to embark upon. With this influence, you dealt with crushes and dating and being attractive by just being willing to take the leap. Adolescence might not have been as painfully insecure for you as for your friends or peers. If you liked that boy or girl, you just took the risk of telling them, possessing the good faith and expansiveness to just be honest about how you felt and to see where it went.

Dionysus and the Sea Nymphs by Sir Joseph Noel Paton

In fact, Jupiter is how we’re fortunate in life. So, puberty was most likely not excruciating for you. The ones with the harder aspects may have had to work more at this feeling of ease. But, you had the belief in yourself that you could pull it off. Venus-Jupiter teens often have wonderful experiences in romance, never lacking a boyfriend or girlfriend and really benefiting from a very positive relationship, at some point in this stage. Even if you got rejected or let down or heartbroken, you developed the resilience to bounce back very easily and positively, always trusting that there was someone else for you out there. This could’ve been so true that you potentially began to date around just a bit too much. Again, Jupiter is excessive, which made the dating scene feel like an all-you-can-eat buffet that you took full advantage of during these formative years.

This continues into adulthood, explaining your hedonistic attitude toward love. The more pleasure, the better! But, the tough lesson for Venus-Jupiter people to learn is that there can be too much of a good thing. You want more and more and more of the things and the people you love, to the point where you become insatiable. In romantic relationships, this can get quite tricky. With both the easier and more challenging aspects, you can see those with this placement somehow feel trapped or limited by the person they’re with. It’s a problem that can get especially overwhelming for the people with the square or the opposition. You just have so much loving to give! So, the idea of being confined to giving it all to one person can be kind of dispiriting or boring to you.

It’s the kind of thing that can give those with Venus-Jupiter aspects a reputation for unfaithfulness. Of course, I don’t like astrological stereotyping. I think anyone is equally capable of being faithful or unfaithful. The same thing goes with commitment. However, it is true that if the commitment (Venus) feels too binding and like it’s cutting off your sense of adventure (Jupiter), you might be apt to either avoid it or try to skirt your way around the rules. If you’re dating or married to someone with their Venus touching their Jupiter, you’re going to want to give them the freedom that they value so much. Any sort of possessiveness will be a damper on the relationship, even if, dare I say it, they have Venus in Scorpio. In this case, they might still like some degree of it or even give some of it but in an affectionate way; not to the level where it limits the possibilities between you two.

In the end, Jupiter is all about possibilities and since Venus represents love, relationships have to have this kind of dynamic for you to stick around. It’s why you’re just as attracted to more free-spirited, casual types who aren’t going to lock you down too tightly. Open relationships often work like a charm for those with a Venus-Jupiter aspect. If you have this placement, rigid monogamy tends to make you all the more tempted to explore your possibilities with someone else. But, when you’re given the freedom to do what you want, you’re actually more likely to not stray too often. Still, Venus represents your sensual nature and your sensuality manifests hugely. So, you’re always yearning for “more” in a sexual context. If your partner can’t give it to you, whether by letting you see other people sometimes or by just being up for anything, it probably won’t last long.

Venus is more so what we love about sex and the things that will turn us on or off. So, Venus in aspect to Jupiter in your chart shows that you appreciate sex the most when it feels like an adventure. This is a very sexually liberated influence, totally eager to gain as much experience as possible. If taken to excess, Venus-Jupiter can potentially give you such a limitless sexual appetite that you start sleeping around. Again, it’s not always going to be the case. But, it definitely happens with many with this influence. With Mars-Jupiter people, it’s more so about the experience of just doing it all the time. Venus is more about sexual feelings, instead of mere sexual desires. So, for you, it’s about the yearning you have for sex that just won’t quit. If it’s not being satisfied by the right person at the right time, you’re going to get highly restless and shoot off in another direction.

But, you’ll hear no slut-shaming from me. It’s great that you have such a sense of sexual freedom. You just have to do it in ways that aren’t irresponsible. When you do, you’ll be able to appreciate the feeling of revelry that you value so much. As the hedonist, you are like a modern-day version of Dionysus, whether you’re male or female. You take to everything with this spirit of free and often wild pleasure. It is often times a beautiful, enlightening quality, as you can get such joy and positivity out of life in ways that many people cannot. Planets in aspect to Jupiter are irrepressible and cannot be kept down for long. So, with Venus in aspect to your Jupiter, your sense of love and affection are what cannot be contained, not only for other people but for yourself, as well. 

Since Venus also symbolizes feelings of self-esteem and self-worth, you will see Venus-Jupiter people typically feeling very good about themselves. It’s not to say that your self-esteem can never be affected or that you can never feel not-so-great in your own skin. But, those feelings or thoughts subside easily and quickly. You are kept afloat by this philosophy of loving yourself. You know how to boost yourself up and make yourself feel good, capable of appreciating your appearance, personality, and/or abilities more than many people can. At the same time, Venus can also be vain. So, you might also go to the other end of the spectrum, moving beyond sizeable, positive self-love to really exaggerated vanity, unable to turn away from the mirror, figuratively or literally.

But, it’s this love of self that ends up manifesting tenfold. I think both Venus and Jupiter represent the Laws of Attraction, in different ways. With Venus, you’re attracting based on how you feel in your own skin. With Jupiter, you attract through your beliefs. Put these two planets together and you’ve got someone who can be extremely attractive. That’s really the point of this aspect. You need to fully believe (Jupiter) in just how lovable and valuable (Venus) you are. This is what usually draws people in to you. You’re very hard to resist, with a likability and generosity that are off the charts. With friends as well as lovers, as Venus also represents friendships, there is this sense of you being their lucky charm or a ray of light in their life. Even ex-partners and former buddies walk away from the relationship with you very amicably. You know how to touch the people you love in a very inspiring way and experience just as much growth and positivity from connecting with them.

When it comes to the personal taste element of this planet, being a Venus-Jupiter individual doesn’t give you the subtlest of tastes. Other influences here can counteract that but even your attempt to be refined or underplayed often gives way to exaggeration. With music or movies or other works of art, you like it big and bold. You love listening to or watching something the most when it can make you cry your eyes out, laugh your ass off, or think so hard that your head hurts. Your tastes and preferences are so restless that you all too easily become that person who has to listen to a new album or watch a new film non-stop. You’ll also want to spread the word about whatever it is that you love at the moment, shouting how awesome this artist or movie is from the mountain top.

In regards to clothes, you’re very adventurous, with your try-anything attitude manifesting via your style. But, this spirit of exploration keeps you forever in search of your look. You never want to pin it down because that’ll stop you from attempting new things. Therefore, to be a Venus-Jupiter person is to have a rather sloppy, careless fashion sense that even the fanciest clothes cannot hide. Your essential attitude is to just throw on whatever comes your way and see what happens. It’s this knack for pretty much falling into the clothes you wear that makes you, let’s be honest, guilty of quite a few missteps. But, you easily laugh it off, not caring that much if you’re on anyone’s Worst Dressed List. It’s this sanguine approach that allows you to strike gold just as many times, fashion-wise, pulling amazing looks together that you didn’t even think were that cool or that big of a deal.

Venus conjunct Jupiter: With the conjunction, you have the biggest appetite for pleasure out of the aspects. You possess a love that truly knows no bounds but you have to be a bit more cautious about who you give it to or how you give it away. But, you bounce back beautifully. While other people can remain crushed or shut down, you see every letdown as a positive lesson.

Venus square or opposite Jupiter:  With the square or the opposition, you want love to be glorious and grand but often have trouble knowing where to start, making you so pent-up that you become all-out reckless in relationships. You should learn how to appreciate life’s adventures without going overboard. In doing so, your resilient, uplifting attitude shines through in a very appealing way.

Venus sextile or trine Jupiter: Thanks to the sextile or the trine, you’re a more low-key hedonist. You can freely pursue these pleasures without surrendering to complete abandon. People will be drawn to your big heart and your tireless ability to have a good time. But, you also have issues, at times, knowing when to put a limit on the fun, so be aware of when you’re tiptoeing toward excess.