***Also for if you have North Node in the 7th House
Being born with the North Node in the sign of Libra indicates that this lifetime is a partnership lifetime for you. Your greatest potential will be realized through being the best companion you can be, whether in romance, in friendship, or in any other partnership with other people. North Node in Libra individuals possess a soul that has a deep yearning to just get along with others. True fulfillment, for you, stems from being able to achieve this harmony and this easy sense of understanding with other people. Throughout your process of spiritual growth and personal evolution, you will discover how to tap into the side of yourself that is charming, loving, thoughtful, and kind. We always have our North Node within us. It’s just deep down inside and we have to challenge ourselves to become aware of this part of ourselves and bring it to the light.
What could possibly be getting in the way? Your South Node in Aries, of course. The South Node is the comfort zone that we cling to that keeps us so stuck in our ways that we struggle to really access and develop our latent North Node strengths and potential. Before you can evolve into this elegant, lovely peacemaker, you have to contend with the part of yourself that sees everything as a fight and a competition. With an Aries South Node, you are at your most counterproductive when you remain in a mode that is overly aggressive and headstrong. It’s most natural for you to want what you want and just go out and get it, no questions asked. But, it can be difficult for you to stop and realize the people you’re stepping on or running over in the process. This blind sort of selfishness is your Achilles’ heel. If you stay caught up in it, you’re not going to be able to grow.
The theory of the South Node is that it is the result of our actions from our past life. It’s a karmic debt that we have amassed prior to this lifetime. It’s why you cannot stay focused on your South Node. If you believe that continuing to be this way is going to bring you satisfaction, it’s like trying to go on a shopping spree with a maxed-out credit card. It’s just not going to work. With the South Node in Aries, you are coming from a very recent past life where it was all about you. In this former lifetime, you constantly put yourself first. While this made you a brave, enterprising, self-reliant individual, never backing down from what you want and always able to take care of yourself, it also made you, unsurprisingly, more than a little self-absorbed. You spent this last life in a highly self-involved state, forever focused on what you wanted and needed, to a degree that blotted out the needs, desires, and feelings of the folks around you.
I have my own theory about the Aries South Node. I think this is a placement that often shows someone who lived a very short past life. I believe that many (although not all, of course) people with the South Node in Aries died young in their most recent past life or in a very recent past life. This was probably the natural result of living life in the fast lane, as well as being unable to heed anyone’s advice on anything. You were too headstrong and foolish to listen, which eventually led to your downfall. And the fact that you might have died as a teenager, twenty-something, or around the age of 30 means that you never had time to really slow down. You also left that former life in a very selfish state, as a lot of people tend to be in their youth. You didn’t have the opportunity to learn how to not be self-involved and how to be truly giving and compromising in your relationships. Even if you didn’t die young in your last life, this was still something you never really learned.
Your personal relationships suffered, as a result. Sure, you might have accomplished everything you wanted to. But, there was no one to share that with. You could’ve gone very long stretches of time being single or bouncing from one messy relationship to the next. No one could tolerate your selfishness and willfulness for long. Even in friendships, you were often quite careless and thoughtless. Yet, there was usually no harm meant by any of your actions. You just lived a life where everything felt urgent and like an emergency. Sometimes, you see Aries South Node people who were soldiers, cops, firefighters, or athletes in their former life. Therefore, you were so used to things being charged with a feeling of competition, urgency, and even danger that you never knew how to just calm down. You could go from zero to sixty in a heartbeat, especially with that fiery temper. You also never had time for social niceties because they prevented you from really going for the jugular, in the way you were used to, and getting what you wanted.
These issues were never resolved in your last life. So, they are your unfinished business. You have brought them over into this life in order to be truly confronted and settled. The South Node will keep haunting you until you conquer it. It usually emerges in the form of a nagging sense of dissatisfaction and emptiness. Now, as I always say, even if you don’t believe in past lives, the South Node is still about your past in this present lifetime, as well. So, regardless, you can still look back and see the wreckage that your Aries South Node has left. In this life, you have been very wrapped up in yourself, to the point of constantly burning other people with your lack of consideration. You have been too quick on the trigger, too impatient, and too focused on the fight of life that you make things more difficult than they need to be. A certain point has to come where you’re fed up with all of this. Hopefully, the breakthrough moment happens when you’re tired of your love affairs or friendships crashing and burning, when you’re exhausted by always having to prove yourself, and when you wish you could just be a nicer, gentler human being.
This is when your North Node in Libra will be awakened. The North Node builds inside of oneself in response to never really getting what your South Node wants. The Universe keeps our South Node’s desires and goals away from us until we are able to unlock and express our North Node. With a Libra North Node, your South Node in Aries’ goal of constantly coming out on top will be thwarted, again and again, until you get the message. Maybe, as hard as you fight and struggle and try, you still end up coming out the “loser” in the situation (and nothing aggravates you more than losing!). Maybe you still win, on a surface level, but it’s never enough. You’re hungry for more and will do whatever it takes. But, of course, this kind of cutthroat spirit does not win you any friends and, eventually, you end up being forced to eat some humble pie by being taken down by others.
Eventually, you must realize that it’s important to be as respectful to the competition as possible. After a long time of either constantly losing or having to relentlessly fight to remain the winner, either in your mind or in reality, you become tired of the endless battle. Instead of wanting to outdo everyone, you turn toward the path of wanting to work together with other people. Enlightenment, for you, comes from understanding how sweet a victory can be when it’s achieved alongside someone else, instead of against them. This strengthens the expression of your Libra North Node. It’s your higher calling to discover how to truly cooperate with people and co-exist harmoniously with them. You will still have an appetite for winning, thanks to the Aries South Node. Your South Node will never, and should never, disappear completely. So, you’re always going to be a warrior. But, now, you have to be a warrior in the name of love, not just for yourself and for personal glory.
With your vast experience of taking action and getting things done, you will have the tactical skill to be an excellent mediator in any sort of interpersonal situation. You’re very used to pushing people’s buttons and not backing down from a fight. But, all this time, your soul has developed an ability to ask just why the fight took place, who started it, what their motivation was, and how everything can be resolved. So, your higher self is meant to bring conflicts between other people to a place of peace, instead of just creating the conflicts. The good thing about this is that, unlike many a Libra Sun or Moon, you’re actually not scared of confrontation. A balanced expression of the Nodes brings out the very best in the North Node sign. Therefore, North Node in Libra people know how to work hard to keep the peace without being wishy-washy about it or running away when things escalate.
It’s very natural for things to escalate quickly with you. Managing your hair-trigger temper and explosive impatience is another part of your spiritual journey. This is why I see you as the refined soul. You are realizing your greatest potential by being able to smooth out your rough edges. We can surprise ourselves when we really get into our North Node’s way of being. It’s been inside of us all along! Libra North Node people, therefore, can be very surprised at how well-mannered and polite they are capable of being. At your worst, you can be quite abrasive, rude, and exasperating. It’s enough to make you feel like you’re just not that nice of a person. But, you are far nicer than you realize. You have actually been so tired of being so rough-around-the-edges that a part of your spirit, deep down inside, has been wondering how to be more graceful and sophisticated. Due to your competitive instincts, you can size up other people who seem to be winning at the social game, charming and delighting everyone they come across, and figure out how to beat them.
Whatever you set your mind to, you can achieve. So, that same headstrong determination can be applied to transforming into a more refined individual. It’s like those with the North Node in Libra go through a lifetime of Charm School but by their own doing. You will always want to do things your way. At the same time, you must develop the ability to truly take in the input and the perspective of the other person in the situation. Instead of just barreling through everything, only thinking about your point of view, you must realize how valuable and important it is for you to genuinely receive and often even follow the feedback of other people. It doesn’t make you a follower. It just means that you’re becoming open to more ideas than your own. After all, relationships are a crucial part of your spiritual growth and no relationship can thrive without that kind of compromise. You’re not compromising yourself. You’re just figuring out how to make things work with others.
Your higher self is an excellent boyfriend/girlfriend, wife/husband, or friend to others. You need to put the passionate energy you channel into your pursuits and your goals into your personal relationships. But, you are independent to a fault, meaning that you think you’re perfectly well-off by just going at it alone and living your life exactly the way you want to live it. Again, no one’s telling you to give up your self-reliance. It provides a balance in your relationships that prevents you from being too needy. However, it is crucial for you to understand that, yes, you do need somebody. Too much time living the single life is actually not good for Libra North Node individuals nor is doing too many things by themselves. This makes you fall back on that comfort zone of only seeing things your way. So, you need to push yourself toward consistent, steady companionship, whether it’s romantic or platonic. This forces you to remain open and to remember to think of others.
You’re very used to either draining people, hurting their feelings, or making them angry. It can seem like you offend without even meaning to! Such a pattern has caused an inner voice to develop that makes you think, “What did I do wrong?” As much as your Aries South Node loves to be unapologetic toward others, you are actually more bothered when you upset people or when people don’t like you than you’d like to admit. Pushing forward regardless of the effect on others may be what you’re used to but it doesn’t actually fulfill you. What fulfills you is learning how to take the other person’s response into consideration. Instead of just responding in a totally impulsive, self-absorbed way, you have to take it easier. Be gentler, figure out what the other person is thinking or feeling, and then move forward or say what you want to say. You find it very easy to be honest and straightforward. But, don’t be so honest that you’re only caught up in what you feel or think.
This will often require you to apologize; something that does not come easily to you. But, you have to remember that nobody is faultless. There are times when you mess up. Because you live with a no-regrets attitude, you usually just shrug it off when things go wrong, say “oh, well”, and move on. If you keep doing that, you’ll be moving on with no one by your side and that will keep you off-track spiritually. So, you will truly evolve when you realize how to check in with your partner or friend, find out if they’re okay or not okay, figure out what went wrong, and make the effort to make it right. Your way of saying “sorry” could be just by saying the actual words (which will probably feel like speaking a foreign language, at first) or doing something very kind and thoughtful to make up for it. In this lifetime, tenderness, sweetness, and consideration go a very long way for you, keeping your relationships a success. And when your relationships are a success, you’re a success.
Those with the North Node in Libra are at their best when they are a part of a team. You might find that things you try to do on your own eventually end up stagnating and going nowhere. That’s because the Universe wants you to work alongside others toward success. This will make you the most fulfilled and bring out your true potential. Whether you realize it or not, you will get a lot of help from other people. In your most selfish phase, you might overlook the contributions of others, too stuck in your me-against-the-world mentality. But, when you are on the right path, you will be able to step back and realize how you and the other person have come together to create something great, whether it’s a project, a business, or any other joint venture that can bring you both joy. It’s not about being completed by the other person. It’s about joining forces with them in order to complete something that only the two of you could. Besides, you’re so impulsive and impatient that you usually aren’t actually able to finish things on your own. You’re a fantastic starter and initiator. You just require someone to pass the baton to when you get bored.
Eventually, you will reach the stage where you aren’t just living for yourself. You are living for the pleasure and the peace you can experience with others and bring to others. Helping people find their happiness (which is not the same as being a people-pleaser) is what this lifetime is supposed to be about for you. As a result, you will attract the right kind of people who will help you find your happiness in life. You have the potential to become highly popular and likable. It’s hard for someone to resist a person who just sincerely wants the best for them. Even if a relationship ends, you have the ability to understand that your mate or your friend might be happier elsewhere or with someone else. So, instead of it turning into a vicious battle, you can give them your blessing and your love at the parting. The North Node in Libra is opening you up to the love that is available everywhere, if you are ready to receive it. So, when one door closes, another can open amazingly fast for you, bringing you a lot of positive experiences in the relationship department.
Developing your thinking skills is another aspect of your spiritual journey. You must now think before you act and before you speak. Considering your perspective and the other person’s perspective and then finding a solution is the key in any relationship. But, the Libra North Node is making you more thoughtful in a lot of ways. Your newfound sense of balance can emerge in a way that’s highly cultured and intelligent. Anything in the arts can awaken your intellectual side, as you can view these things from a very refined, high-minded perspective. Your elegance can also shine through in any social situation. You’re sort of like a new-money socialite, impressing and stunning all sorts of people with your newly gained classiness and sophistication. This only draws more admirers your way who seek to get closer to you and bask in that graceful glow.