Tuesday, May 24, 2016

North Node in Capricorn: The Responsible Soul



***Also for if you have North Node in the 10th House

Having the North Node in Capricorn in your chart means that you are supposed to evolve throughout life by getting your act together. This is a lifetime that needs to be about true responsibility for you, which is why I call you the responsible soul. Finding deep fulfillment within is going to come from developing self-sufficiency and self-discipline. When you can figure out the right guidelines and structures to live your life by, you will be on the right track. Like with the other Earthy North Nodes (Virgo and Taurus), your spiritual growth is actually going to be a very practical thing. It’s going to come from embracing the positives of ambition and achievement. Your highest soul-expression motivates you to set respectable goals and work hard to make them a reality.

Yet, with the South Node in Cancer, you have got to deal with your inner craziness before you can feel effective enough to achieve these goals. Our South Node is what holds us back from living out and fulfilling our North Node. So, it’s all about a balance here. The wonderful thing about having a Cancer South Node is how naturally sensitive, intuitive, and responsive you are. You possess a really ingrained care for other people, even if you might not always want to show it. The downside of this placement is that it can make you too defensive or too insecure for your own good. When unbalanced, your nature can become really irrational and needy, causing you to emotionally drain other people as well as yourself. You have accumulated a lot of karmic debt in terms of letting your feelings overwhelm you and also in regards to being too enmeshed with your loved ones, to the point where you have no satisfying life of your own outside of them.

These are issues that have defined your past life. The South Node can either be your most recent past life or a very recent one. In this former existence, you were deeply invested in your personal life. There was a big-time emphasis on family in this life, which you took to seamlessly because it brought out your nurturing, protective, domestic sensibilities. South Node in Cancer individuals put their families before everything in this last life. At the same time, this was a major part of the problem. Making your loved ones your top priority means that you didn’t find much purpose elsewhere. I feel like a lot of Cancer South Node people were stay-at-home mothers/wives or fathers/husbands in their former lifetime. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with that. But, I think the problem was that you felt enslaved in that role of the homemaker. You didn’t develop any strong ambitions of your own, instead leaving it to your spouse to bring home the bacon.

I can also see this being a major dynamic in your family of origin. You could’ve been the one who always needed to be taken care of and protected, well into adulthood. This eventually resulted in emotional immaturity, stunting you and preventing you from regulating your emotions and needs properly. A terrible moodiness developed in this life, especially if your family just “let you be” when you were feeling crabby or nutty because they were so used to your irrational ways. You could spend a ton of time just brooding over your feelings and how you’ve been hurt or wounded. A virtual addiction to those turbulent emotions developed and you turned into that person who just had to be constantly upset about something, instead of actually, you know, doing something about the situation. This only reinforced the notion that you needed to be taken care of. 



However, you might have also spent a lot of time taking care of other people, to a degree where your emotions and needs were actually neglected, only magnifying your sense of vulnerability and insecurity. With Cancer South Node people, their past life self fell into either category: always being protected or always protecting other people. It stemmed from deeply ingrained habits. Whatever role you played in your family, you played it to the hilt. If you were “the baby” of the family, you remained the baby all your life. If you were “the oldest”, you always acted like the oldest. Also, if you were the funny child, the screw-up child, the beautiful child, the brainy child, etc., you remained that child until the day you died. Being unable to break free of that familial role is something that really hindered your adult relationships, as well as your bond with your children. I think it would be very rare to see a Cancer South Node who wasn’t a parent in their last life. And although you were so sensitive and caring, you could’ve really smothered your children, especially since you project the same expectations on to them that your parents did to you.

Repeating the cycle in a particularly unhealthy way is a major part of your spiritual baggage that you’ve carried over into this life. Those issues were not resolved in your former life. So, now, they are your unsettled business. Because of the unconscious element of the Water signs, I think that people with their South Node in Water (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces) feel their past-life burdens much more heavily and profoundly than most people. Because of that, you probably believe in past lives, especially since Cancer is so connected to the past. Even if you don’t, these are still issues that have strongly affected your past in this life. All of what I just said is how you’ve lived out your past in this current lifetime, in one way or another. Your nature has remained way too crystallized in your childhood self and who you’ve always been in your family. This has prevented you from truly understanding who you could be in the greater world. You can also get far too wrapped up in your emotional reactions and needs, either experiencing terrible dependency and instability or a real sense of emptiness and neglect because of these pressing feelings.

We all have to have a breakthrough period in life where we realize that our South Node just isn’t working for us anymore, which prepares us to embrace our North Node. As long as we remain over-focused on the South Node, it won’t get us anywhere. So, as long as you remain moody, co-dependent, reactive, and a creature of conditioning, you are going to continue to feel stagnant. Yet, I feel like it takes a lot to push Cancer South Node people out of their comfort zone, much like with Taurus South Node folks. In order to begin moving toward your Capricorn North Node, you have to “wake up” a bit harder than the next person, realizing that these habits and reactions of yours are just doing you no good. It’s my opinion that people don’t start really fulfilling their North Node until their late 20’s or early 30’s, at least, as it is a side of yourself that emerges with maturity. But, with this placement, which makes real maturity feel like a struggle, you might remain in a state of arrested development with your North Node. That comfort zone feels so warm and cozy, in spite of the fact that it doesn’t really fulfill you. It also feels like it’s essential to your very survival.

So, rising above and transforming your South Node in Cancer feels a lot like leaving home, which is really difficult for you. Literally leaving home is often very scary for you. Many with this placement do live at home longer than most. Even if you move out of your parents’ place, it’s a major deal to actually leave your hometown. Being willing to step away from what’s familiar and create a new structure is the key to unlocking your Capricorn North Node. Then, you will be able to access and develop your knack for making the rules and following them with diligence. Instead of being coddled by someone else or expending too much of your energy into being a caregiver for others, you need to focus on being a boss. This means not only calling the shots and assuming control but doing so in a way that allows you to not treat the people around you like babies. You need to make your interactions with others less about coddling and more about directing, sometimes even commanding. You cannot be afraid to get tough with others when you need to because, in the end, you’ll be doing it for their own good.

Yet, this is where your nurturing touch is required. North Node in Capricorn people have the good fortune of being able to be authoritative and firm without coming off as hardened or cold, which can be the possible negative outcome of just having the Sun or the Moon in Capricorn. You have to transform your South Node, and not leave it behind, by using your sensitivity to understand just what the rules and regulations need to be. In this sense, your intuition can be put to efficient use. You can then know just how to engage with other people in a manner that will keep things operating effectively and that will be for everyone’s benefit.

Your higher self knows the power of a bit of needed tough love, making you realize when to stand your ground with people, instead of being so adrift in the current of their emotions. A show of tears or a sob story from someone else can easily melt those with this placement, making them forget their original aim and suddenly “go soft.” Now, I’m not saying you should stop caring about people’s feelings. But, what you should care most about is your integrity and your goals because these things will end up bringing you true satisfaction. So, don’t be so gentle or so understanding that you forget the entire objective of what you’re doing. If it so happens that it hurts someone’s feelings a bit, don’t let that affect you too much. Just know that you are a truly caring, giving person and that you’re just doing what needs to be done. Also, let the other person know that. Even if they do walk away feeling resentful or hurt, just know that they will move on. Feelings come and go. The emotional intensity of your Cancer South Node makes you forget that, sometimes. So, the thought of possibly hurting someone is made out to be worse than it really needs to be. 



Your soul yearns to be in a position of authority, to be seen as a respectable role model and example for other people. And any good authority figure knows that integrity, strength, and a solid vision are required in order to get the job done. With the North Node in Capricorn, you always have to see yourself as “on the job”, whether you’re literally working or not. It doesn’t matter what you’re doing. You must see it through from beginning to end with a sort of professional spirit. In doing so, you will be able to become a boss wherever you go, winning people’s respect through the seriousness of your efforts. The South Node in Cancer makes you inherently relaxed and fluid; a go-with-the-flow type. So, luckily, you won’t take anything too seriously. But, you’ll be able to work off of that natural feeling of internal comfort in order to create external structures that not only lead to your success but to the success of other people around you.

Pursuing success is an important part of your spiritual development. Capricorn North Node people can be haunted by this sense of “not being ready” for their goals. You have all of these ambitions inside of you. In the past, you’ve been very passive and very willing to just allow things to happen. But, a part of you has unconsciously developed, in reaction to this, by coming up with grand schemes for the future. It’s just much easier for you to be this very instinctual creature of the moment. Unfortunately for you, listening to your gut rarely pays off, at least not when that’s the only inner voice you’re listening to. Don’t totally ignore what your instincts are telling you. But, it can’t be your guiding force. You need to be following a strong game plan when you’re moving forward in any situation. Learning how to be reasonably calculating is beneficial for you. Otherwise, you’re just left with a giant mess on your hands. No business can function without a sense of organization and strategy. The North Node in Capricorn is challenging you to handle your business, in all definitions of the word.

You will be on the right track when you can develop recognition for your skills, accomplishments, and contributions, which will translate most strongly into your professional life and social status. It’s going to require a lot of conscious effort, though. More than most people, Capricorn North Node individuals are very guilty of sabotaging themselves just before they reach success. In many ways, your Cancer South Node can keep you like a child, forever in a state of dreaming about who you want to be when you grow up. Then, when you get to that stage of becoming that person, it’s too much to handle. You don’t want to grow up now! Yet, you can still be saying that into your 30’s and 40’s. It’s important for you to understand that realizing your life goals and ambitions is actually going to sustain you emotionally. Those with this placement are often emotional wrecks unless their career is in a good place. If all those feelings have nowhere to go, they can consume you and drive you absolutely mad. So, if you approach your ambitions through the nurturing instincts of your South Node in Cancer, you will feel a powerful motivation to achieve because you will understand how good it is for you and how much that sense of success is a comfort food for your soul.

Through the Capricorn North Node, a pursuit of success becomes something that resonates on that deep soul level, instead of being an empty display of ruthlessness or opportunism. You feel enlightened when you realize that you have something important to contribute to your community and society as a whole. A strong sense of responsibility will then develop. Again, it’s not just in terms of your profession. You will feel fulfilled through being responsible enough to have integrity, to be committed, and to be someone worth looking up to. The more you evolve as a person, the more other people will realize how important your contributions are. A certain level of fame can even stem from this. In this extent, the feeling of intimacy and support that your Cancer South Node fosters will pay off. You understand the human soul on a deep level and, therefore, you are capable of interacting with the world at large in a manner that makes everyone feel touched by you. But, at the same time, you can provide this support within certain professional or social parameters.

In the past, too much of your energy has been expended on your personal life and your loved ones. Now, your public life has to be your top priority. This doesn’t mean that you cannot have a family or you should forget about your family. It just means that you cannot be held back by your family anymore, on any level. Do not let them dictate or influence your decisions in life, which is a particularly hard habit for those with a Capricorn North Node to break. You are in charge of your life now. Also, do not get too sucked into the family dynamics, as this makes you regress back to the days of being 12 years old. Do not be chained to the expectations that come with being a Smith or a Harris or whatever your family name is. You don’t have to be what they want you or need you to be. You are unleashing the vision within to be whoever you want to be. So, as much as you may love them, a certain distance from them is probably required. Capricorn North Node people often find it very life-changing to move far away from their families and just stay in touch and only visit on special occasions. This will grant you the freedom to live your own life the way you choose it.

Yet, this will also require you to take true responsibility for your actions. A part of you will always be highly emotional and rather crazy. There’s nothing you can do about that. But, you can do something with those feelings. This not only means sublimating that anger, sadness, fear, or pain into your work, finding great success even when your private life is a total mess. It also means seeing it as your duty to regulate those emotions, instead of letting them just run wild. You have to diligently do whatever you can to manage your inner child. Listening to this side of yourself will also help you delve into your issues. A ton of unresolved emotions from childhood is the signature of the Cancer South Node.

But, of course, you’re not a kid anymore and you are also not your parent(s). Yet, few people are more horrified than you to wake up, as adults, and realize that they are living exactly in the same kind of household that they grew up in. Use the dedication and perseverance of your Capricorn North Node to become much more than your past, working through all of the insecurities, fears, defenses, and inner messages needed to get there. This also means that you cannot blame your parents or anyone else from your past for your issues. You’ve got to discipline yourself to overcome them and manifest the successful adult life that you want to live. You can end up experiencing great healing through having children of your own, if you use your bond with them as a guide to figure out if you’re on the right track or just repeating handed-down patterns.

26 comments:

  1. I don't know how to possibly interpret North Node in Cancer in the 10th house.

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    1. Yeah those flipped Nodes can be confusing alright! But its in these instances where you really see that the NN sign controls and dominates the NN house. The NN sign is what you need to do and the NN house is how you need to do it.

      In your case, the 4th House Capricorn SN shows that you come from a background where emotion, vulnerability, childishness were frowned upon. Your family didn't make you feel safe. But that in and of itself - that insistence on being self sufficient - is your comfort zone and prevents you from truly achieving your true ambitions.

      You're the manager of your family and that is so demanding that it actually makes you more co-dependent than you realize. So you are focusing on dealing with your actual emotions and needs by pursuing goals outside of your personal life. You take responsibility by knowing what you need and dedicating yourself to being the kind of authority figure to yourself that you always needed. This will allow you to be a nurturing boss for others and not stay stagnant in that mode of cold caregiving.

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    2. Thanks for this reply. I also have NN in Cancer in the 10th, and I am always confused as to what this means. But I have found that if you find the right career or job, it can feel like "home" finally. In some cases, you find a "family" within the workplace, and you feel like you finally belong, more so that you probably did in your own birth family.

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    3. Yes that is the perfect way to put it. :) I have also found that Cancer Midheaven and Moon conjunct Midheaven people usually have that same experience.

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  2. My older sister has north node in Capricorn conjunct Neptune in the 11th. She's only 24 right now, and I can definitely still see the 5th house cancer south node in her right now.

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    1. Really? Yeah, like I said, everyone is heavily their South Node for the first 25 years or so of their life. So she'll start growing into her North Node in a few years. The age it happens can definitely vary, though, depending on the person's maturity level.

      That is a highly emotional, reactive combination btw. I'd imagine that she is the center of attention of the family or seen as the favorite somehow and she probably feeds on that hah.

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  3. Thanks so much Wayman for doing this post. It was actuallly a Question of mine last week during the Q&A. I have this placement and it's so nice to read such a detailed explanation and well versed explanation of it.

    Wishing you much luck and success with your website!

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    1. Thank you! Just know that me not answering you was not personal. There are just so many specific questions I can handle at once.

      Glad you enjoyed it. :)

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  4. I guess this is why he didn't answer you question during Q&A, since he was going to write this article.
    I have NN in Capricorn in Third house. I wonder what does that mean. Thank you Wayman.

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    1. The NN house is the style that you express the sign is. So express all of the Capricorn energy in logical, curious, communicative ways.

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  5. Thank you for this wonderful post I have been waiting for it since last year. (funny Capricorn's wait a long time). The truth is it really hits home for me as I find myself in a huge conflict between my emotions 9Scorpio Moon) and my family and what I yearn for in this life. My ND is in the 4th house! On the one hand, being the responsible one means sacrificing my desires for my family and my Capricorn father- and yet it backfires as they make my life difficult for not being independent enough. Its very confusing as my emotions tend to go up and down (like Bipolar almost) and I can't achieve my career dreams but I can't leave my home and family because that would be a betrayal...Dear Wayman I asked in the session before what can I do with this NN in the 4th house? I want my dreams to come true but my emotions and family make it impossible and I keep giving up. Should I give up my desires? go work where my father tells me? or become a crazy moody artist like I am at heart? That my conflict. oh and my crazy emotions- but that's here to stay lol.

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    1. Your situation is like the Cancer NN in the 10th person. Very contradictory! I actually think your sense of responsibility in life will be very family oriented and personal. The problem comes from desperately seeking the world's support and care in ways that keep you stunted as an overachieving child. Instead you will become a real adult by figuring out how to tend to your personal foundation and support system. That needs to be a major goal for you.

      Its not about giving up your ambitions. Just don't be needy about them. Also know that you might have to create a new foundation and home away from your family to truly feel safe.

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    2. Thank you! I do see that in many ways my weak points are very well described in this post. I guess I should rely only on myself and that the world isnt' my one big mean family! (it feels like it is) Anyway, It is not a quistion of knowing the truth but rather what is the moral choice? Astrology (Modern) leaves a lot of room for freedom of choice but it can be confusing. Speaking of contradictions! My entire chart is like that, so being faced with choices is centeral. For example, I have Moon in Scorpio but in the 2nd house or Venus in Taurus but in the 8th house- its like a two way mirror. If I'm not asking too much- would it matter if I have planets in the 4th house? I have a feeling they can point in the direction of resolving some issues (Uranus+Neptune). You described it well: "Home is not home for you unless things are quite eccentric and crazy." I think my life mission is to move away from my parents home crazy and to build my own kind of mad little home. I mean it in the best way.
      Have a beautifule day

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  6. Capricorn NN in 12th is drifting away from this description?

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    1. No all of this will just ne applied to the more spiritual, metaphysical, intuitive realm of life.

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    2. Thank you! :)
      My mind was always trying to figure this NN out. Couldn't without your help.

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  7. I have this placement in the 9th house with a stellium in the 9th house; moon, neptune, uranus, north node. North node is conjunct the midheaven and neptune. I've been doing standup comedy lately, and 90% of my jokes are pulled from my unique philosophy and view of life.

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  8. Hey there have you written about NN in cancer yet ? I can't wait for that one . I relate already to much of the NN in capricorn as well though

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    1. I haven't! Next is North Node in Gemini and then I plan on doing Cancer NN.

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  9. Wow, this really hits home for me. I have a capricorn NN retrograde in the 6th and I've cried reading it from the beggining to the end, the struggle to be independent is too real. I'm 24 yo only child and its like the world its calling me out to grow up and its SO SCARY, like I feel like I'm not strong enough yet, It's always like I'm not ready... thank you so much for your words, I'm a psychologist with aries sun in the 8th, cancer rising and scorpio moon in the 4th and you truly describe me!

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  10. please if you can do venus chart ruler for libra rising

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  11. please if you can do venus chart ruler for libra rising

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  12. My capricorn nn rests in the 5th house. I've always been active in sports.. sports were my thing but never reached any type of pinacle to success. after college i thought starting a business would be a good route as opposed to becoming a coach. or continuing my wrestling career to mma. any thoughts on this?

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  13. I have the Cap NN in the 5th house (along with a Uranus-Neptune conjunction) and this really hits the nail on the head for me. I remember being terrified of leaving home when I was a teenager, but when I went off to college I realized how much I loved being on my own. I'm currently living at home again unfortunately (dropped out of college) and I've really been struggling to get back out in the world again. My family has pressured me all through my life to do things their way and it's hard for me to push back against that. I've also been undergoing a Saturn transit through the 4th house, which supposedly exacerbates the family issues.

    But this article helps give me some confidence that what I want is right for me; that I am capable of my ambitions. Now, it's just a matter of owning that!

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  14. Reading this was like you knew me and all my struggles that have been revealed to me over the last few years. I have NN Cap 5th house & Saturn, Venus and Moon (which is oppo NN) also in my 10th house. I'm a self employed graphic designer and now a single mum. The tussle in my life between family and career has been immense, yet my work has been the single mainstay in my life and what kept me going following a hugely traumatic relationship and family breakup. I only ever feel I can achieve a sense of balance doing things on my own - or indeed get that sense of achievement from making a piece of work - which is rare these days as I don't get much time, frustratingly. I became freelance aged 30, 14 years ago. What rings especially true is the independence, sense and planning you talk about that I've always wondered how to consistently own - I feel I am constantly dragged backwards from where I want to go by family responsibilities and sidetracked by my emotional intuition; that ability to tune in to the wrong people's feelings. Which otherwise I feel is a gift. I've had to learn to walk away from some people.

    One thing that has come into my life over the last 2 years that has really highlighted and hopefully help is partner-dancing. I do a form of this that is improvised - It feels like a safe place to exercise my intuition.

    Thank you
    J

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  15. How would you interpret capricorn north node conjunct saturn in the 12th house?

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