Friday, July 1, 2016

North Node in Cancer: The Protective Soul



***Also for if you have North Node in the 4th House

With the North Node in Cancer in your birth chart, this is a lifetime that needs to be about giving and receiving emotional support. The North Node is how we evolve and find true fulfillment. So, with a Cancer North Node, you’re never going to be truly fulfilled unless you learn how to embrace all of those feelings and be just as sensitive toward other people. Your highest soul-expression is one that is geared toward cultivating and sustaining a strong support system. This means embracing and developing the vulnerability needed to actually seek the support of others. We’re all vulnerable, to some degree or another. It’s just that not everyone might be as comfortable with their vulnerability. This is the key challenge for Cancer North Node people: to access and embrace their softer side; the side of them that just needs to know that everything will be okay.

Of course, the journey toward the North Node involves coming to grips with the issues of your South Node. As a Cancer North Node, you have the South Node in Capricorn. Now, you should take stock of the positive attributes that this South Node gives you. With a Capricorn South Node, you possess a very natural business sense and work ethic. You are someone who knows how to hustle, how to accomplish, and how to receive recognition. This is all fine and well, just as long as these traits are balanced. But, it’s all too easy for us to become unbalanced via our South Node. And in the case of this placement, that will lead to an excessive focus on goals, accomplishment, status, and purpose that can leave you feeling hardened or empty, in spite of all of what you may have achieved. 



The South Node says a lot about the past that we’re coming from. On a very spiritual level, it represents the past life you’ve come from. Usually, it’s the most recent past life but, sometimes, it’s a very recent one, maybe prior to the last one you had. In any case, in this former existence, your South Node in Capricorn made you a very important person. These people were the moguls, the entrepreneurs, the CEO’s in this last life. You were placed in positions where you were in command, where you were the boss, and had to make sure that everything ran efficiently. Therefore, you developed a strong sense of what needed to be accomplished and how to effectively do so. This obviously led to great success in the business world, allowing you to cultivate a real name for yourself. You were looked up to, celebrated, possibly even world-renowned.

You do see many people with this placement who were famous in their past life. In some way or another, you received a lot of recognition for your accomplishments, even if it meant just being famous in your community or particular field. But, at what cost? The problems that occurred in this former lifetime came from you being willing to sacrifice everything to get ahead, including your personal needs and desires. You were that classic person who prioritized their career above everything, preventing you from really getting the love and nourishment you needed in your personal life. In fact, you had little to no personal life! And this reinforced that haunting feeling of it being lonely at the top. While you might have accomplished so much, all of these successes amounted to hollow victories because you were never inwardly fulfilled.

Yet, that kept driving you more and more, in order to fill that emptiness. Capricorn South Node individuals were driven and determined in their past life to destructive or counterproductive degrees. You could have stopped at nothing to find success, creating ruined business or personal relationships, thanks to this ruthlessness. You also could have been just as ruthless toward yourself, if not more. You placed a tremendous amount of pressure on yourself in order to get ahead and be somebody important. Because of this, you stopped being as sensitive as you should have been to your needs and emotions. You would continue to push through anything, no matter how exhausted, depressed, overwhelmed, or insecure you felt. While this made you very persevering, it also prevented you from being in touch with your true emotions. It also made you so addicted to being challenged and overcoming obstacles that you never learned how to just take it easy.

These problems added up to become your karmic debt, getting carried over from that life into this one. It’s why they continue to plague you. They are demanding to be resolved. Even if you don’t believe in past lives, everything I just said can be applied to your past self in this life. The South Node also determines “the past” that we make for ourselves in this current life. So, you have struggled with being a workaholic, desperate for recognition and success, too tough on yourself and others, and addicted to difficulty and struggle. With the South Node in Capricorn, your upbringing in this life could have been full of financial struggles or other hardships. This instills within you a pattern of feeling like things need to be hard because that’s how you achieve. It also is what makes you fixated with status, with obtaining the prestige or importance you didn’t feel while growing up.

At some point, however, a breakthrough period has to happen in your life where you’re ready to move toward your North Node. It usually takes a person until they’re at least 25 to 30 years old to become ready to unlock the North Node traits within themselves. This occurs after being continually dissatisfied with your South Node. Since you have the South Node in Capricorn, that breakthrough moment can occur when you realize that all of your accomplishments out in the world still don’t bring you any joy or fulfillment. Maybe it comes from actually wanting to have a real emotional connection with someone, instead of being relating to people in a very obligatory way. Maybe you also just want to go along with the gentle flow of life instead of always summoning some catastrophe, through your negative attitude, that will just ruin things for you.

This is where your North Node in Cancer comes into play. With this placement, there is a deep-seated yearning inside of yourself to just feel safe, supported, and nourished. It’s why I call you the protective soul. You access and develop your higher self when you focus on emotionally protecting and comforting yourself. You’re so used to feeling so tough and so self-sufficient that you can all too easily throw yourself into challenges, accustomed to having a thick enough skin to handle it. But, the truth is that you develop in this lifetime by learning how to have thinner skin, not thicker skin. While certain people are figuring out how to be stronger and more empowered, you are figuring out how to be more vulnerable, in a way that will actually boost your inner strength.

Your South Node is never going to go away. It will always be a part of you. It’s just that you have to learn how to transform it. In the case of having a Capricorn South Node, you must take this ingrained self-sufficiency and perseverance that you have and use it in order to face emotional difficulties. The paradox of having this placement is that you can be such a tough cookie when it comes to facing practical, worldly struggles: finding a new job/career, paying the bills on limited finances, making a name for yourself in your field, etc. But, when you’re faced with emotional struggles, you can crumble and feel downright helpless. This is because you are much less experienced when it comes to dealing with feelings, needs, and responses. However, if you rest comfortably in that inner Capricorn toughness, you will realize that you are actually strong enough to be vulnerable, to handle those emotional ups-and-downs without knowing how they’ll turn out.

Taking on this attitude is going to help you let your guard down. You can be ferociously guarded, to a degree that keeps you very inaccessible or distant to others. But, deep down, there is this loving, sensitive, caring person who is just aching for support and understanding. In the end, you must see the process of allowing your softer side to emerge as a goal. The thing about you is that whenever you set your mind to something, it will be accomplished. No questions asked. Yet, spiritual growth occurs for you when you shift your goals away from the practical to the personal. In order to live out your Cancer North Node, you need to use the goal-oriented focus of your Capricorn South Node to have an accomplished personal life: truly intimate connections, a comforting home, a loving family, and a reflective, private access to your emotions and needs. 



You’re destined to become a much more reflective person. In the past, you didn’t have time to stop and be introspective. You were all about doing this and doing that in order to be successful. When you are so invested in all of those worldly goals, your inner life becomes barren. But, in order to rise above that karmic debt, you’re going to have to become more reflective. You’ll feel quite a backlash of consequences when you’re not, as we all do when we blatantly ignore our North Node. Those emotions within you are more powerful than you realize. When you don’t stop to tend to them, they will have a way of simmering and simmering beneath the surface until they finally bubble over in disastrous ways. In spite of their kneejerk stoicism, Cancer North Node individuals are subject to recurring emotional outbursts or breakdowns that surprise everyone, most of all them. This is your inner life rising up and demanding to be heard. So, until you really stop and understand these emotions, they will regularly embarrass you or make a mess of things in your life.

What’s really happening is your inner child is begging to be heard. Throughout the past, you have not been properly taken care of the way that you need to be taken care of. In childhood, particularly, the Capricorn South Node has a way of keeping your emotional needs from being heard, respected, or understood. So, this gets carried into adulthood, making it hard for you to understand your own emotional needs. A large part of our emotional reactions stem from our child self. So, a lot of psychological healing needs to occur, in order for you to positively live out this placement. You must give your inner child the protection that he or she hasn’t felt in the past. In order to do so, you have to tap into the flow of your feelings and develop that internal radar of yours that tells you when something just isn’t right or when you are in need of something.

A part of your soul is very emotionally intelligent and in tune. This part of you has developed unconsciously in response to all of the regulations and rules you’ve followed in the past. You can’t keep this up for long anymore. With the North Node in Cancer, your higher self is too fluid, too responsive, and often too irrational to live up to all of these social codes and expectations. You have become so dependent on prestige, popularity, status, and recognition that you have become used to always monitoring yourself. The South Node in Capricorn gives you a real image-mongering side. You are a tough PR agent to yourself, always demanding that you behave in ways that will win you respect and acclaim. But, now, you’ve got to throw those rules out of the window! The key with this placement is to respond straight from the gut, without worrying about social correctness. While a Cancer Sun or Moon may become neurotic or insecure by indulging in their moods, for you, acting on these constant shifts of emotion will put you on the path toward personal growth.

You are growing into someone who is truly “at home” with themselves, who lives from a place of emotional authenticity. Sure, people are going to judge. But, so what? A big part of your development stems from not taking yourself that seriously anymore. Feel free to be loony, to get messy, to go nuts, sometimes. Your Cancer North Node just wants you to react, not calculate. This is the way you’ll find true fulfillment. And you’ll actually gain more success and recognition when you stop micromanaging yourself and just go with the flow. Your bad habit of being too calculating, in image and in action, is what can cause others to resist you. In spite of being so ambitious, it can be tough for you to find the true success you’re looking for when you are planning and calculating your way toward it. When we over-focus on the South Node, we don’t get what it stands for. So, you’re not going to be truly successful in life until you learn how to follow your instincts and act from a soulful place of honesty, instead of being preoccupied with results.

Being more instinctual will help you stay in touch with other people’s feelings and needs, as well. You are also destined to be a real nurturer and caregiver. You can feel this inkling inside of you whenever you’re in taskmaster or workaholic mode, simply staying businesslike with people without personally connecting to them. It actually hurts your heart to do this, even though you may fool yourself into thinking it’s for everyone’s benefit. Instead, what’s really going to benefit everyone is if you start reaching them emotionally. In the end, you are someone who goes in the direction of successful results. When you’re obsessed with efficiency, things remain difficult. But, when you focus more on making sure everyone feels good, things become more efficient around you. Therefore, you can find that balance by using true responsiveness as a practical plan for success.

It’s also something that builds your support system in life. People with this placement have a strong tendency to feel emotionally removed from their families, particularly their family of origin. You can remain either physically distant from them, rarely ever visiting and not being a constant part of their lives, or keep a psychological distance, going through the motions of family time without being affected by it. On a certain level, Cancer North Node people usually deeply resent their families, particularly their parents, for not giving them what they needed. This can be very unconscious and something you need to draw out in the form of therapy or self-help. But, there is a certain amount of bitterness and resentment you need to work through, due to the experience of having to grow up too quickly or feeling like you had to achieve things to win their love, which is another rather common feeling with this trait. Just know that your Capricorn South Node makes you the boss and right now, as an adult, you are in command of your own emotional well-being. So, let go of any negativity you’ve accumulated toward your parents. They’re no longer in charge.

This can be a very healing process that allows you to re-participate with your family. Maybe you spent many years being estranged from them and, now, your new personal growth has opened new doors for connecting with them. You may also just take to your role in the family with a deeper sense of love and appreciation for them, in spite of their flaws or mistakes. However, you can also find Cancer North Node individuals just breaking off and making their own families, especially if their family of origin is too dysfunctional or toxic to handle. When you develop the true emotional awareness of your North Node, then you will know whether to make your family a part of your life or not. Whatever gut-felt “emotional vibrations” you feel with them, negative or positive, will drive that decision. And, for many of those with this placement, breaking off from the family they were given early in life and starting a surrogate family or a family of their own is the answer.

The protectiveness of your higher self extends to your loved ones, as well. The more you’re tapped into your own feelings and needs, the more you’ll be able to access theirs. So, you can create a nice, warm haven for people to feel comfortable in and let their guard down in. This can mean family members, old friends who feel like family, long-term significant others, and, of course, children. Becoming a parent can be a deeply fulfilling for you, way more than any accomplishments in the world, and very healing. For North Node in Cancer people, nurturing their children properly allows them to nurture their own inner child just as effectively. Two outcomes are possible, though, that could stand in the way: either your Capricorn South Node makes you too strict or hard on your kids or too hard on yourself in regards to your parenting skills. Either way, being a parent could be that moment of awakening that you need; that you’re not being receptive enough or sensitive enough. When this happens, you can change your approach to parenting, knowing that you’re not always going to get it right and also giving your kids the nurturing space to go at their own flow, without so many rules bogging them down. And the more you’re able to send your children this comforting message, the more you’ll be able to receive that message vicariously through them.


14 comments:

  1. I have the North Node in Cancer in the 11th house and it is truly a challenge for me. I was never much of a family-oriented person. My two sisters and I were adopted when I was a year old because my biological parents were not ready to take care of me. I was lucky enough to have been taken care of by my adopted parents and their older children. I truly appreciate them for their kindness and care for me and my biological sisters while I was very young, but as I started to age, I became more of an independent person that believed that,at my current age of 14, my adopted parents had taken care of me long enough and began my adolescent mind to reach my goals of an excellent career in the film industry as an actor, own a great house and car, marry the soulmate of my life, and travel to countries in Europe and the continent of Australia. I don't plan on raising offspring of my own with my future wife, yet I have an intuitive and sensitive heart. It just feels embarrassing to let my emotions out to my best friends, family, and the public. Sorry if this was long to read, but I had to inform you.

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    1. Thanks for reading! Its interesting that your Cancer NN is in the 11th. It shows that your concept of family will be more impersonal and universal. This may be why you don't want biological children. Your children may end up being your peers, acquaintances, etc because of how nurturing you can be with them.

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  2. I have my north node in cancer in the 8th house. And stellium of planets in the 1st and 11th houses. Scorpio rising. I hv trouble paying attention to my personal needs but wen it comes to work, man I hv laser focus nd it's easy for me to work hard... They say we'll hv more honey than vinegar in this life... Hmmm does it mean wen we pay attention to our personal needs then the universe takes care of the rest? Crap i still make things hard. Lol

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    1. Yes we have to prioritize our North Node first. When we do, we end up getting what our South Node wants much easier. So, for you, putting your personal life first will make your career much less of a struggle.

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    2. Thank u for ur reply wayman stewart, im in rockbottom phase now and I feel this is a very important life changing course... So instead of me trying to look for jobs (saturn is transiting my natal moon phase and I lost everything) it would be best to nurture my personal needs and network with friends (stellium planets in 11th house)? Since im a north node cancer? Im really learning alot from you. My deepest gratitude. Saturn seems to close all the doors in my face. Haha. But this isthe most spiritual time to be in.

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    3. Yes, well, of course do your best to get yourself some work and support yourself. But, do not make that your main focus. When we focus on the SN, things backfire. I think the more you remain preoccupied with succeeding and getting ahead, the harder it will be. You already know how to work hard. So, you will truly grow by accessing and developing your ability to make personal connections and have that support system (and having that support system will make your times of professional difficulty much easier to get through).

      Good luck to you! I know that transiting Saturn conjunct natal Moon can be a brutal transit. I went through it when Saturn was in Scorpio. But, just try to find some sense of comfort and relief even when the things are being taken away from you. You should read my article on that transit on here, if you haven't already. It's in the October 2015 section.

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  3. "Strumming my pain with his fingers
    Singing my life with his words
    Killing me softly with his song
    Killing me softly with his song
    Telling my whole life with his words
    Killing me softly with his song"

    Half way through reading this, I cried. You have put into words what I have been experiencing my whole life, but in particular the struggle of recognizing and shifting from my south to north node more. During my Saturn return in Libra, I realized all of my ambitions and achievements were for nought without cultivating love in my life to share in those moments. It's been a tremendous struggle as my worst fear is to be emotionally vulnerable, yet that is the only way towards connection. I'm still working this out, but it's so helpful to read your words and know that I'm not crazy or alone in this. Thank you. xo

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    1. I'm glad you could relate! The Saturn Return is what awakens a lot of people to their North Node. But as I tell everyone, its an ongoing process. Don't beat yourself up for slipping up or getting scared when it comes to the Cancer NN concerns. Just take it step by step.

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  4. I am a student of astrology and focusing in particular on Parent/Child astrology. I just found your blog and WOW - love this entry. My NN is in Cancer in the 2nd House. Becoming a parent has radically changed me (my firstborn child was born at the exact degree of my first Saturn return). My entire life, I have identified as a real "executive" type, but I made the decision to become a stay-at-home parent. I now have two young children and I do beat myself up (to the point of deep melancholy) when I feel like I'm not the perfect parent (okay, I also have a stellium of very serious planets in the 5th House), but I try to soak up the love and positive moments I experience with my kids every day. I've also become a lot more spontaneous and accepting of mistakes - my own and others'. Anyway, just wanted to tell you that I really identified with your Cancer NN description - great work, and thank you!

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    1. Thank you! With your North Node in the 2nd, some self-worth issues are coming to the forefront, as well, whenever you're doubting your nurturing skills. Just remember that the NN is a growing process. As long as you're willing to do the work and you're seeing consistent moments of growth, you'll be okay. And it sounds like you are! (I feel like I need to give this pep talk to the Cancer NN's more than anyone because your Capricorn SN's makes you unnecessarily hard on yourselves, when you've actually accomplished way more than you realize)

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  5. Perfect description! Cancer sun and north node in 8th house here. Beautiful! Great job on all your articles. Very insightful.

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  6. This brought me close to tears; I've never read such a detailed, accurate description of the Cancer NN, and it certainly struck a chord. Thank you for this insightful article, looking forward to reading more of your stuff!
    Marija

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  7. OMG this is crazy accurate! I've been in therapy for years dealing with these sorts of issues around family, being overly focused on achievements and efficiency, being so hard on myself, and overworking and neglecting my feelings. I've paid some attention to my chart, knowing my sun, moon, and ascendant and that's about it. I stumbled onto the concept of the North Node tonight and found this shortly after. I've never read anything that spelled ME all out so clearly. North Node Cancer, 3rd House.
    Thank you!
    -M

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    1. You're welcome! A lot of astrologers, myself included, believe that the North Node can make or break the rest of your chart. It's hard to say which part of the chart is "most important" because they're all so vital, especially the Sun and Moon. But, in terms of the North Node, living out the great potential of your North Node sign and rising above the negatives of your South Node will create a very significant and very satisfying change in your life. So, keep studying up on it! Also, check out the 3rd House North Node profile and figure out what that means for you and how to combine the two. In short, the combination is supposed to make you a sensitive communicator who is very curious about and observant of your feelings and others'. So, these are the qualities you need to develop and strengthen.

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