Monday, October 31, 2016

The Signs of the Holidays

Happy Halloween, everyone! It’s one of those years where I’m not doing anything special for Halloween; at least as far as going out. I might just watch some good horror movies, though, which I haven’t done in forever. You could blame the fact that I was supposed to pick out my costume over the weekend but then came down with a cold and said “screw it”. By the way, Halloween is the day of the year where the transiting Sun in Scorpio is exactly conjunct my Moon and Midheaven. So, it’s always a special day. But, maybe, in the spirit of Scorpio season, the best way for me to celebrate it is to not put myself out there that much and be a lot more reflective.

After all, the time of year when the Sun is conjunct your Midheaven is when you are going to feel the most “seen.” And then the Sun hitting your Moon makes it virtually impossible to not express all of the feelings. So, maybe I should take the opportunity to maintain some of that Scorpio Moon/MC mystery this week and go inward for a bit. Plus, my Lunar Return for October happened the day before Halloween, which is also the Scorpio New Moon. So, it’s a really crazy time for me! I’ve come to terms with a couple of things about my Scorpio side in significant ways in the past few days.

Anyways, enough about me! This holiday has got me thinking about how all of the major holidays (primarily celebrated in the States but also, in some cases, around the world) represent the Sun sign that they occur under. It’s just another reason why astrology is so ingrained in our culture, to a degree that people who aren’t even into astrology don’t understand but still get wrapped up in. Each holiday happens at the time it happens for a reason. Sure, you could possibly blame the religious, political, or historical context of the holidays for their dates. But, surely, the stars aligned in order to have them occur on these dates.

Halloween (October 31) – Sun in Scorpio
This one is probably the most obvious one. Few people would question why Halloween occurs when the Sun is in Scorpio. There is the spooky, creepy, scary theme to Halloween that resonates so well with the dark side of Scorpio. The time of year where we have scary movie marathons, dress up like monsters, and go creeping around in the night in costume. The whole theme of disguising yourself fits with the Scorpio energy because of the mystery and the allure. You get to either hide elements of your usual self or, conversely, highlight elements of yourself that are not usually seen in public. It’s not just in a scary way, either. How many sexy variations of different costumes do we see during Halloween, with both women and men feeling freer to show more skin in order to be a sexy or naughty or slutty whatever-they’re-dressed-as? With Scorpio being so heavily associated with sex and sex appeal, it’s no wonder that this is such a trend during Halloween.

Historically, Halloween is actually All Hallows’ Eve, which is the day before All Saints Day, a pagan holiday during which it was believed that the spirits roamed the earth. This was the time for people to contact the spirits and ward off any evil presences, which they often did by wearing costumes. Thus, it evolved into the tradition of us wearing costumes. But, even the history of Halloween is so Scorpio-like. There is this shroud of mystery, depth, and darkness that surrounds the holiday. It is also fitting that the Western world has turned Halloween into something seemingly superficial. But, in true Scorpio fashion, if you scratch the harmless surface, it’s much deeper and more powerful. Also, don’t forget the tradition of trick-or-treating. It was actually done, back in the olden ways, as a way of protecting people from the dead or, if they didn’t cooperate, bringing a curse upon the house they visited! Now, it’s just about kids stuffing their faces with candy, with an extreme Scorpio relish. But, even now, if you don’t give out the good stuff, these kids may have their revenge! 

Thanksgiving (last Thursday of November) – Sun in Sagittarius
Thanksgiving happens when the Sun is transiting Sagittarius every year. This is very fitting because it is definitely the “biggest” holiday of them all. Even though people may seem to put more energy into Christmas, Thanksgiving often has a way of outdoing that holiday. There’s usually way more food at your Thanksgiving dinner than your Christmas dinner or any other dinner you’ll have that year. And why do you feel so compelled to eat as much as that food as possible and then eat some more, until you go into a food coma? Because Sagittarius does not do half-measures and is very prone to excess. So, clean that plate and have some dessert or get away from the table. Also, the idea of being thankful at Thanksgiving and the often-tiresome tradition your family may have of going around the table and asking what you’re thankful for. Sagittarius is the sign of gratitude, of showing appreciation in order to keep the blessings coming. Acknowledging your blessings during this Sagittarius-ruled holiday can ensure that more of them can come flowing your way.

The historical basis of Thanksgiving is that fateful meeting between the Native Americans and the Pilgrims that the United States was founded on. While some people today grumble about this fact and say that we’re basically celebrating innocent people having their land usurped and violated, our culture sees this holiday with a Sagittarius-like optimism, looking at the bigger picture of how the merging of these two cultures creates America, which we should, again, be thankful for. Also, Sagittarius is about being able to mix with different cultures and traveling to foreign territories in search of positive experiences. Thanksgiving is the essential symbol of this, resulting in the melting pot that is America, a country of immigrants (which some people seem to forget). So, the celebration of this holiday while the Sun is in boundary-hopping Sagittarius makes perfect sense.

Christmas (December 25) – Sun in Capricorn
Christmas is the time of festivities and good cheer, right? We wish you a Merry Christmas! So, why is it happening when the Sun is in Capricorn? Well, the thing that Hallmark doesn’t tell you is that Christmas is regularly a blue period for many people. For one, it can be stressful, which ties into it occurring during Capricorn season. It can be very easy to focus on the money aspect of this holiday, as it’s the only time where we’re all out buying gifts for seemingly everyone. Also, it is the only holiday that requires plenty of that Capricorn patience. We basically celebrate Christmas all December but the Sun doesn’t enter Capricorn until around December 20. By this point, we are already exhausted by decorating, putting up the tree, figuring out what everyone wants, and shopping in overcrowded malls and stores. And then the demands of just being with family! It’s enough to turn you into Scrooge himself. This iconic Christmas figure is a Capricorn stereotype, famous for being an unhappy and difficult workaholic. As a kid, he might have seemed like the bad guy. As an adult (the Capricorn symbol), you might be surprisingly able to relate to him. Once you lose your innocence, you may lose a bit of your love for Christmas.

Yet, let’s not be all negative about it because it can be just as wonderful as the other holidays! But, when you celebrate it, you feel like you are adhering to certain demands. The root of Christmas is that, in the Christian religion, it is the celebration of Jesus’ birthday. This is essentially the person who became the center of Christianity, later going on to die for his people’s sins, living out a very Capricorn-like sense of duty. Now, no matter what you believe, whether you are religious or not religious, there can be a sense of obligation and responsibility that you feel during Christmastime that reflects the Sun being in Capricorn. Your kids ask for certain toys and you feel the need to provide for them. Your family, group of friends, and/or co-workers are exchanging gifts, so now you just have to. It’s another reason why kids, who don’t have to buy anything for anyone, take to the holiday with a much lighter spirit. But, even with children, there’s that famous resistance toward being on Santa’s “naughty list.” A child can suddenly become more well-behaved, Capricorn-style, because they don’t want to be punished by their imaginary father figure who feels so real.

New Year’s Eve and Day (December 31/January 1) – Sun in Capricorn
Capricorn is the only sign to have two major holidays occur during its transit through the Sun, affirming its reputation as the hardest working planet in astrology. The fact that New Year’s Eve and Day happen during the Sun in Capricorn is simultaneously more and less existential than Christmas happening during this time. For one, this holiday is purely practical, in the sense that it is literally just to celebrate the beginning of a New Year. It speaks to the structural element of Capricorn and its reliability. If there is one thing we can count on, it’s time and there is always going to be a new year, as long as the world hasn’t ended (is it any wonder that the biggest doomsday prophecies have happened around New Year’s?) But, the New Year can also stress a person out, at the same time. It can bring on this pressure to be a newer, better, more accomplished version of yourself. You might look back at the last year through the negative lens of Capricorn, beating yourself up for what you didn’t do and pushing yourself hard to make up for it. On the flip side, you might look back at this year and be amazed at all you’ve done.

Either way, time is highly occupying our minds during New Year’s, both the Eve of New Year’s and the very Day. There is no real historical context to speak of when it comes to this holiday. It’s clear why it exists. Therefore, in many ways, it’s the most sensible holiday of them all, which is probably why people become so goal-oriented during this time. The famous New Year’s Resolutions are a powerful reflection of Capricorn’s yearning to accomplish. But, just how many people are going to stick to those goals that they set? This is the test of self-discipline of the Sun in Capricorn. Also, New Year’s Eve is famous for being the rowdiest, wildest day of the year. What’s happening is that people are feeling the need to not be repressed or restrained by any of the rules or regulations. It’s as if the ending of the year is giving everyone a window of time to completely cut loose. But, once January 1 rolls around, people go the opposite route and feel the need to really get their act together and create a strong sense of structure for themselves through their Resolutions. 

Valentine’s Day (February 14) – Sun in Aquarius
I have heard quite a few jokes that say that it’s very ironic that Valentine’s Day, the day of romance and love, occurs when the Sun is in Aquarius. Even I used to think that. But, now, I see it much differently. If you think about, for everyone who conforms to the idea of Valentine’s Day, there are just as many people who rebel against it. There is no other day of the year where you find a person who is single declaring their independence more defiantly and claiming to not care what people think because they don’t have a Valentine. So, it’s a holiday that can bring out that Aquarius sense of not fitting in: seeing other people with dates or in a relationship, while you’re just buying chocolate for yourself. But, the truth is getting yourself that box of chocolates is yet another wonderful way to spend this holiday. It’s about love and there are many different ways to love and spread love. This is certainly an Aquarian ideal, allowing people to love however they want and whomever they want, as long as it hurts no one, even if that person is just you. We are all individuals and we all end up spending Valentine’s Day differently. There is no one way to do it, which symbolizes the inventive energy and honoring of differences that characterizes Aquarius.

Valentine’s Day is in honor of Saint Valentine, an Aquarius-like religious figure who is remembered for sticking to his guns in spite of cultural pressure. Because of his rebellious dedication to his ideologies, it makes sense that the holiday that celebrates him happens during Sun in Aquarius. Also, another famous symbol for this time of year is Cupid, the love god who shoots his arrows at people and makes them fall for one another. This is another reason why the correlation between this holiday and Aquarius does make a lot of sense. Cupid never falls in love himself. He is a detached figure, bringing that happiness to others and making their wishes come true without ever getting involved himself. If that’s not Aquarius, I don’t know what is! The detachment of Aquarius and its desire to shine a light on other people is also why being someone’s Valentine is often not a romantic thing. From the card you receive from your mom to the candy you give to your co-workers to the little cards you probably passed out to classmates when you were a kid, you can spread love on this day just to make others feel special and to be inclusive.

Independence Day (July 4) – Sun in Cancer
In my mind, this is actually the holiday that is truly ironic. Independence Day takes place when the Sun is transiting the sign famous for its dependency, Cancer. It’s the only holiday that is also referred to by its actual date – the 4th of July – and maybe that’s just because some of us instinctively feel like it’s not right to call it the Day of Independence. This is not the day to leave the nest! Instead, there is a homey, comforting feeling to this holiday that is quite subtle and unconscious, in true Cancer fashion. If you are out and about during this day, even spending time around strangers can have a warm, intimate feel to it. There is usually plenty of emphasis on food, particularly cooked or grilled food, and there is also this sense of togetherness. Unlike the other holidays, July 4th is a totally specific holiday. Only Americans celebrate it and it is something only Americans truly understand. So, it is, in this way, like a specific family tradition. This emphasizes the sense of closeness and also of regularity that the Sun in Cancer brings.

The emphasis on being an American is highlighted during the 4th of July because, of course, this is the day that the US Constitution was signed, forming the fabric of the United States. So, it’s a time to be proud to be an American, like you might be proud to bear your family name. (And since America has its Sun in Cancer, it also celebrates its birthday during this time) But, like at any family gathering, there might be some people who really care a lot about the significance of the event and there are some people who are just there for the food or the alcohol. Cancer is the sign of craziness, as well, and things get quite crazy during the 4th of July. Along with New Year’s Eve (its opposite, being a Capricorn holiday), it is one of the most dangerous times of the year. While New Year’s Eve sees people celebrating the end of something, the 4th of July is just when the wild, primal energy comes out. Its shown by that long-standing tradition of people shooting fireworks in their backyards. For some reason, the Cancer Sun coddles people into a sense of safety, making them more instinctual and more prone to flirt with danger. Even if we don’t play with fireworks, we still want to go out and watch out, often doing nothing but reacting to them, Cancer-style.

Thursday, October 27, 2016

Pluto in the Houses: You're My Obsession

Pluto is the planet that can push us to extremes. Therefore, the house placement of Pluto in your birth chart shows where you have the potential to go to those extremes. In doing so, you might go right over the edge. Like with the other two outer planets, Uranus and Neptune, and even, to a great extent, with the semi-outer planets, Jupiter and Saturn, the house placement becomes more personally felt than the sign (unless there are conjunctions from that planet to the personal planets in the chart). This is especially the case with Pluto, which spends about a decade transiting each sign. While the sign itself affects your generation and how you all will go about finding your power and tapping into your inner resources, the house placement indicates the individual way you do this.

As a result, we can become obsessive and intense in our Pluto house. We all have the potential to become obsessed over someone or something. It’s to a degree that can overpower us and bring out a passion, force, or darkness that we might not have known was there. So, the house in your birth chart where Pluto resides is also the place where plenty of pain and destruction can take place. But, in the midst of this destruction, there is the opportunity to be reborn, rising from the ashes of the past. While it is important for us to exercise more balance in our Pluto house so we don’t have to go through such a dramatic and painful cycle, it is probably a rite of passage for everyone to be “destroyed” in this area of life at least once. In doing so, you come out on the other side and develop an understanding of how to not go off of the deep end again. 

Pluto in the 1st House
Obsessive behavior. You have a noticeably intense attitude and it influences virtually everything that you do in life. Your remarkable air of power may make you seem indestructible but this is because no one is as much of a threat to you than you are. When you get totally consumed in toxic, controlling, obsessive, or manipulative behaviors, you will end up metaphorically killing yourself. The good thing is how awesomely you can transform yourself, playing the role of a true survivor.

Pluto in the 2nd House
Obsessive values. Whatever you like, you like it wholeheartedly. Such extreme pleasures can make you incredibly self-indulgent. But, this can lead you to develop a deeply compulsive attitude toward money and material things that causes these possessions to be ripped away from you. Eventually, your self-esteem will become broken down to the point of forcing you to love yourself via an inner power and depth. Your psychological resources will then strengthen your material resources.

Pluto in the 3rd House
Obsessive communication. Your thought processes can be an endless loop that you find difficult to shut off. Your mindset can be paranoid or suspicious, making you very curious about what people are hiding from you. This can poison the line of communication between you and others, due to a sense of mistrust. But, you also have the power to use your insightfulness in order to communicate better with others. You’re a deep thinker and your words and ideas can profoundly impact people.

Pluto in the 4th House
Obsessive foundation. At the end of the day, you are a complicated, deep, powerful, and mysterious person. You feel most at home with yourself by being able to be truly introspective and profound, within the realm of your private life. But, you may also be far too preoccupied with keeping your personal life personal. This can prevent you from letting people in, even loved ones, destroying your support system. It’s important to disengage from battles for power or control in private.

Pluto in the 5th House
Obsessive self-awareness. When expressing yourself from the heart, you are passionate, intense, and enriching toward others. This also gives you powerful creative talents and an ability to go all-in regarding romance. But, you may see yourself as so empowered that you express yourself as a control freak. You may also feel like such a passionate person that you make the act of giving love all-consuming, which can cause you to suffocate, drain, or exhaust people in matters of the heart.

Pluto in the 6th House
Obsessive productivity. You are capable of remaining efficient and industrious when you obsessively channel all of your energy into your tasks. Therefore, you can get a tremendous amount done, developing a truly powerful work ethic. But, you might also absolutely work yourself into the ground. You can become too focused on controlling everything that happens in your daily life, creating intense stress that destroys your health. So, work hard while also knowing how to turn it on and off.

Pluto in the 7th House
Obsessive companionship. You expect for your close relationships to be intense and wholehearted. As a result, you are really drawn to powerful, passionate, mysterious people, in romance and friendship. But, you are also a powerful, passionate, mysterious romantic partner and friend. If turbulent, traumatic, or controlling, such relationships can virtually ruin either person’s life. But, you can also cultivate positively life-changing relationships that are truly enriching and empowering.

Pluto in the 8th House
Obsessive intimacy. When sharing the hidden or darker parts of yourself, you can go to extremes and suck the other person and/or yourself down a terrifying rabbit hole. You might experience a lot of ongoing emotional, psychological pain that secretly wreaks havoc on your soul. But, this is only so you can empower yourself by working through these emotional issues. Facing and conquering your demons allows you to be emotionally and sexually intimate with another in a rich, moving way.

Pluto in the 9th House
Obsessive morals. Your sense of right and wrong can be extreme, which can make you a real fanatic. You are easily guided down a destructive path or create a lot of destruction along the way, due to this feeling of being in control by doing the right thing. The road to Hell is paved with good intentions! This powerful sense of morality can be used in order to transform others’ lives, inspiring them with an intense passion that makes them (and you) feel like anything is possible.

Pluto in the 10th House
Obsessive goals. You can be consumed with ambition, wanting to do something important with your life and be somebody powerful in society. Yet, going to extremes to achieve your life goals and/or assume a status of power will lead to disaster and on a very public scale. You should, instead, be obsessed with your actual passion itself, not the result, transforming it a true calling. This public display of depth and power will give you the reputation for being formidable and mysterious.

Pluto in the 11th House
Obsessive ideals. You can be a downright radical because you have such an extreme desire to bring about change on a wide scale. You may be so obsessed with your particular cause or with being a misunderstood outsider that you can destroy anything or anyone that goes against your ideals, making you a social danger or threat. Eventually, you will use this sense of rebellion in an empowering way, allowing you to wield a transformative impact on your peers and associates.

Pluto in the 12th House
Obsessive spirituality. When living unconsciously, you may delude yourself into feeling powerless in ways that only cause you to obsessively seek power, on an unconscious level, creating a ton of negative karma. The only way out of this cycle is developing a forgiving, loving connection to your inner sense of power, seeing it as part of your humanity to selflessly give to others. But, you also must recharge your own batteries by tapping into your depths through art, spirituality, and solitude.

Tuesday, October 18, 2016

Saturn in the 4th House: When History Repeats Itself

The 4th House represents your personal background. You can think of it as your history. Your ancestry is often linked to the 4th House and this makes a lot of sense. It’s the place that represents where you came from. But, that can be interpreted in many different ways, whether it’s your ancestors, your hometown, the person you’ve always been in your family unit, or the way your home life has been since the beginning. Saturn is the planet of challenges, doubts, and worries. When you have Saturn in the 4th House, a great deal of insecurity and fear can surround one’s personal history. But, Saturn is also the planet of hard-earned rewards, which means that you need to face that history or else it’s bound to repeat itself.

Saturn in the 4th House, as I mentioned in the previous article about it, does mean that one’s childhood was not all smooth and easy. In this sense, having this placement gives you a difficult personal background, in some sense or another. One of the most common indicators of a 4th House Saturn to me is the loss of a parent. This parent may have died at some point in the person’s childhood or may have just abandoned the family. But, either way, it throws the household into disarray. This theme of parental loss makes so much sense when you consider that the 4th House is about family. Thanks to the championing of things like same-sex marriage, cultural ideas of family are progressing and modernizing in many ways. Yet, no matter what the sex of either parent is, we still tend to first consider a family as involving two parents, both of them trading off and contributing different energies to the household in order to create a balanced, safe environment for their kids.

But, this idea is often shattered when you have Saturn in the 4th House. Because so many people with this placement end up losing a parent, their notion of family ends up becoming strained or a source of sorrow. It is the classic “broken home” placement. It is usually the father who ends up passing away or being erased out of the picture, since Saturn is the father figure. As I have frequently said, I don’t believe in the idea that the 4th House/10th House axis has to represent your parents unless you have one or more of your “parental” planets (the Sun, Moon, or Saturn) in either the 4th or the 10th. Then, this becomes the case. But, there are certain examples where the mother figure of the 4th House Saturn ends up dying (which is one of the reasons why I firmly believe in Madonna having a Virgo Rising, an often debated topic, which would give her this placement).

In either case, there is this feeling, while growing up, that the traditional happy home has been taken away from you and taken away too soon. So, well into adulthood, there is this unhappy child that the Saturn in the 4th House person goes home to, who just wants to feel safe and protected and stable. The energy of our 4th House follows us into adulthood and it’s essentially what we cannot escape. When we are in the privacy of our own home, when holidays or other family events exert a gravitational pull over us toward our relatives, and when we have nothing to do but just be with ourselves, the 4th House speaks through us. Therefore, having Saturn in the 4th means that this unhappiness can haunt you in these private, intimate, and familial moments because it is such a part of your history. But, if you don’t deal with these difficult feelings, they will be an endless cycle that you seem fated to live out in your personal life.

I think this is the more nuanced interpretation of the whole “Saturn in the 4th House means that you don’t like your family” profile. I feel like there are some 4th House Saturn folks who were conditioned to play out some repressive, restrictive role in their family unit, in order to avoid the harsh consequences of not doing so, and it prevented a deeply loving connection to the family from developing. Behind closed doors, you may have felt this suffocating demand to live up to your family’s expectations that didn’t make you very happy. But, this can also be the case if you have a relatively healthy, functional relationship with your family, as well. There was still this sense that you had to constantly be up to par, maybe feeling like if you didn’t put in enough effort, everything around you would crumble. Sometimes, this is an expectation you put unto yourself.

Since many people with this placement suffered the loss of a parental figure, they spent a lot of their childhood in a single-parent household. The significant stress of being a single parent could have taken such a toll on this parent that the 4th House Saturn child felt a strong compulsion to chip in and help out. Possibly the most defining characteristic of this position is the child who grows up quickly and becomes the “surrogate adult” in the household: working as soon as they could to help out, taking their household chores very seriously, organizing and structuring a lot around the house, and playing a very parental role with siblings. But, these past experiences have carried over into the present by making you feel like you still need to be responsible for everything around the house.

Saturn in the 4th House people are very skillful providers and this can make them highly family-oriented at a young age, often getting married and/or having children in their early to mid twenties. Even someone with this placement who spends their youth without children or marriage will still be very domestic and “play house” with the people they love with a great amount of seriousness. This is also often a placement that symbolizes an upbringing that was financially difficult and unstable, with the parent(s) never having much money to work with, often because of being a single-parent home. Growing up poor is one of the biggest motivators for anyone toward success, whether they have this placement or not. But, Saturn in the 4th House people can bend over backwards to avoid being impoverished and privately struggling as adults, in ways that end up wearing them out.

If Saturn is your worst fear, Saturn in the 4th House means that your worst fear is having what happened to you as a kid happen again, whether this means losing someone close to you, living under constant stress and instability, or failing to provide a certain happiness or security for your family members. But, because of the neurotic pressure you put yourself under, the tragic thing is that this history often will repeat itself in some way. This is something that especially occurs during the Saturn Return in the 4th House. You might end up feeling like a failure as a parent or a spouse. You could endure a home life that doesn’t allow you to truly relax and take a break. You may even find that you end up pushing a member of your family away because the controlling, anxious, or insecure quality you display at home becomes too much for them to handle. 

All of this happens in order for you to stop and reflect. Saturn in the Water Houses (the 4th, 8th, and 12th) means that it’s a person’s responsibility in this life to be very reflective and introspective. While Saturn in the 8th must do so for transformation and empowerment and Saturn in the 12th House engages in this for spiritual strength and healing, Saturn in the 4th House means that you must simply become rooted in this duty to be reflective. If you can stop and look back at your past, you will realize how you have or haven’t created a solid foundation for yourself in the present. Then, you can go about doing what you can to change that. You cannot rewrite your history, though, and I think many Saturn in the 4th House people have to accept that. It’s not about changing the fact that you lost your father, that your family was poor, or that you just didn’t like your home life. It’s about working with those things of the past in order to create a better present.

This is what gives Saturn in the 4th House individuals such amazing strength, fortitude, and wisdom. The 4th House represents our most personal qualities that make us feel at home and comfortable with ourselves. With a 4th House Saturn, that feeling of being at home with yourself (and I’m not talking about your literal home) stems from being persevering and capable. At the end of the day, you are one tough cookie. You’ve had to be, because of the various challenges you faced while growing up. So, you must stay in touch with that foundational quality of strength. During your Saturn Return in the 4th, you can endure many struggles that go on strictly behind closed doors. This may also mean closed doors within closed doors, as you often prefer to deal with your problems in ways that don’t make you dependent on your family. In some ways, this is beneficial for you, as it allows you to constantly draw on that toughness when you need it.

But, I also think Saturn in the 4th is about drawing on the support of your family members, as well, to give you that strength. Many people with this placement establish a solid relationship with a relative who helps them develop their self-sufficiency and wisdom. Since the traditional family structure is often challenged because of this placement, it usually isn’t a parent. It is often a grandparent who the 4th House Saturn child learns to gravitate toward for that strength. Sometimes, it’s easier for these people to lean on their grandmother or grandfather. If they are in a single-parent situation, the grandparent usually steps in to help, trying to alleviate the parent’s stress. But, because of that stress, there can be subtle feelings of guilt on the 4th House Saturn child’s part for trying to turn to them for comfort. Therefore, the special grandma or grandpa in their life can end up taking on a more parental role than the actual parent. The same thing can also occur with an aunt or uncle in the person’s life who may not be around as much but who, when they are, can provide them with the right guidance or reinforcement to evolve into strong young adults.

Whatever the relationship is with your parent(s), any unresolved feelings definitely need to be resolved. This is why you have this responsibility to reflect and to overcome the painful emotions that can come up during that reflection. You might see some 4th House Saturn people claim (a bit too insistently) that they absolutely love their parent and that their relationship is so wonderful. But, if they allow themselves to stop and be truly present with themselves in their private time, they will begin realizing that there’s more to the picture. Unresolved or unacknowledged anger, sadness, fear, resentment, and even hatred can emerge; a theme that can dominate the Saturn Return in the 4th. This placement can often be like having a crying child, locked in a room in your house, who you’ve been ignoring for years, until you finally unlock the door and listen to them. On the other hand, maybe you can’t get out of that room with that crying child, instead too caught up in resentment at what happened in the past. Either way, an attitude of both honesty and forgiveness needs to be cultivated with this parent. If it’s not, you will not be able to move on with your life!

Saturn is our karma and with Saturn in the 4th House, if you spend too much time hung-up on the painful stuff that happened when you were twelve, very similar events will begin occurring in your adult life. It will feel like the time your mother embarrassed you at the family reunion all over again! So, the letting go process is crucial, preventing you from living in the past. Also, you may be living in the past in a mysterious way, thanks to the ancestral theme of the 4th House. Some may say that one’s ancestors speak to you through the 12th House. I don’t believe that as the 12th House is inherently universal. It is the voice of the collective unconscious; people who don’t share our blood but share our humanity. But, the 4th House is so personal, which means that it would make sense that your actual blood relatives are going to somehow be lived out through your 4th House energy.

The 4th House Saturn person can find it life-changing to discover a great-aunt who had ongoing depression, like them, or a great-great-grandfather who never had a good marriage, like them. It’s not so much skeletons in the closet, like the 8th House. It’s just the exploration of where you came from. A lot of your karma you’re living out may not be your own! This is why exploring your family tree can be so eye-opening and allow you to grow and mature. You may discover that the issues that are plaguing your life plagued one of your ancestors’, including either of your parents. Sudden discoveries can occur, particularly during the Saturn Return in the 4th, that makes you learn things about your parent’s past (possibly occurring during your childhood) that you see reflected in your own adult life. If it’s negative, it can help you prevent that personal history from being lived out through you or speed up the forgiveness process, through an identification with their struggle. If it’s positive, though, it can be another part of your background that you can draw strength from.